Thank you Lighter...I did!
She is still brittle and defending her space a lot, but this visit was heaven in many ways because for the first time in eight years, we were on our own here, not tiptoeing around my mother. My D was frantic to dig into our still-packed moving boxes in the basement to find scrapbooks, and she did. It was, ironically, like Christmas. She kept bringing more things upstairs and we celebrated it together. She worked hard, cleared away tons of stuff, I cooked for her, she had a visit with her brother and former stepmom, and I was just so glad to have her near. We did have one laaate night intense argument but the good news is, it was not a fight. We communicated, I set some boundaries, she expressed herself, then we continued talking about life things in general and it felt so good.
We shared laughter, relaxed with TV, saw my mother, took her out for a meal, went through stuff here, and I treated her to a massage appt. on her way out of town.
I miss her very much already.
She had a minor wreck while she was here and we both have serious financial worries. I felt pretty rotten that I couldn't hand her the money she needs.
But it was good. I may not see her for six months because of her work schedule unless I go down there, and I'd love to.
thanks for asking, Lighter.
sleep well,
Hops
