Author Topic: Part Lazy,Part Overwhelmed  (Read 4702 times)

Ami

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Re: Part Lazy,Part Overwhelmed
« Reply #30 on: July 21, 2007, 06:52:08 PM »
That is a beautiful interchange with your D.
I had something like that today with my older son. I never ,ever wanted to make them think that they needed to take care of me. However today,I said, that I would love so much if he could give me a little TLC just by "caring" and listening and being there. We had the best talk and it was a priceless afternoon.
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No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.        Eleanor Roosevelt

Most of our problems come from losing contact with our instincts,with the age old wisdom stored within us.
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Re: Part Lazy,Part Overwhelmed
« Reply #31 on: July 21, 2007, 06:59:22 PM »
That is a beautiful interchange with your D.
I had something like that today with my older son. I never ,ever wanted to make them think that they needed to take care of me. However today,I said, that I would love so much if he could give me a little TLC just by "caring" and listening and being there. We had the best talk and it was a priceless afternoon.
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At the risk of hijacking Hops wonderful thread....

Ami... have both your sons witnessed your husbands violent behavior?

Is he violent towards them too?

Maybe your younger son thinks he has to be mean to you in order to avoid N's wrath? 

What did you talk about with your older boy today?  It sounds like you two get along very well.

What are your sons doing, are they in school?  What do they want to be when they grow up?

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Re: Part Lazy,Part Overwhelmed
« Reply #32 on: July 21, 2007, 07:50:25 PM »
I have always been really close to both of them .My H has been trying to turn them against me since when they were little-- but it never worked until a few days ago.
   My H is livid at me b/c I have gotten strong(  lol ). My H is really, really angry  about this..My sons have witnessed everything. When my H had the chair over my head, Golden told me that he was standing there thinking that he may have to "beat him up" . This attitude (of being abusive to me)from Golden is new .
 For some reason,now, Golden has decided to try to abuse me ..He was seeing if he could be abusive to me like his father is However, it is not going to happen.  I have asked him to apologize for his fresh attitude( several times) and he won't.
   He is a biology major in college.He wants to go to medical school. Maybe, this is part of the 'modeling" that he is doing,with his father. My older   son  is halfway through a bachelors degree and he wants to  go into business. He has worked his way up from the counter to a Manager in a fast food restaurant. He is working and going to school.. They are sweet  people. For some reason, Golden decided that he wanted to try to abuse me
   The older and I see reality. We talk about N's and  other 'real issues. The younger will not face reality. The older and I talk about everything.We were just talking about betrayal in life and how it happens to everyone.
   It was nice to be honest with someone who you love and who loves you.
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No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.        Eleanor Roosevelt

Most of our problems come from losing contact with our instincts,with the age old wisdom stored within us.
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Re: Part Lazy,Part Overwhelmed
« Reply #33 on: July 22, 2007, 12:02:08 PM »
My Dearest Hops-

Once again you have brought clarity to me in your courageous revelations and witty self-assessment. You are inspiring-I am going to slay some of my "dragons" today, especially the insidious ones that seem to entangle my everday existence ( separating ALL of my NH bills from mine , etc). Sorry that you have had so many demands upon you. You are awesome!

Hugs,

Changing

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Re: Part Lazy,Part Overwhelmed
« Reply #34 on: July 22, 2007, 12:56:01 PM »
Thank you much, (((Changing)))

My dragons are paper dragons that's for sure.
(Money's made of paper, after all.)

I heard a great quote from Tao in church today:

BEGIN THE DIFFICULT WHILE IT IS STILL EASY.

That was a lightbulb for me.
A few pieces of paper a day? Easy.
My usual method? Huge flapping paper-dragon...

Hope to keep it to porcupine size from here on.

Good luck with yours, too, Changing.

Hops
"That'll do, pig, that'll do."

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Re: Part Lazy,Part Overwhelmed
« Reply #35 on: July 23, 2007, 08:47:38 AM »
I haven't read this whole thread but am chiming in to send paper dragon encouragement.  I think I am getting close to slaying my dragons.  If it turns out to be true I will share my inner journey in case any of it may be of interest to you. 

Sending "one or two pieces" energy your way. - GS

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Re: Part Lazy,Part Overwhelmed
« Reply #36 on: July 23, 2007, 03:13:57 PM »
Thank you, GS!
Who better knows the paper dragon battle?  :)

I'll be very happy to hear your story when you're able, dear.

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