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The Swan - A Tv Show
bunny:
mrtraced,
I haven't seen The Swan but I think it's disturbing to see women going to such extremes to please critical, narcissistic people. It's tragic. They can't understand that it's their internal world that needs some therapeutic surgery, and not their appearance.
bunny
mrt:
Thanks again guys (gals) - sorry I'm from the Midwest.
Re: Lonely and weird. It's a bit lonely because before I posted on this board - hardly anybody could relate to what I was going through or understand why I just didn't go kiss and make up with my family. Let by- gones be by-gones. It's hard to tell people "Oh my psychiatrist told me to stay away from them!" Then you get off on the "You went to a psychiatrist?""Why, Are you crazy?"
No stupid I just went two times and he told me I was fine, but the N's in my life were rage-a- holics and had some very deep issues just by reading a few little emails they sent to me!
It's weird because I don't know how to feel about all this. A few years ago everything was hunky-dorey because I in ignorance is bliss - thought it really was. I didn't see the seething coming to the surface.
Then all of a sudden one day, I opened a can of - your wife is sh** your in-laws can go to hell, you're mean and stupid - this is a direct quote from my dad's email - "I've wondered through the years when you were conceived if part of your brain didn't run down my leg, and just left you stupid, and that's the reason you continue to do the things you do to your family. It's not!!! Your just plain MEAN TO THE BONE, and that's not the way you were raised, but neither was Samson. " (What did I do to the family - I don't even know to this day - He's a minister and I love the Biblical comparisions - not - I suppose that is a barb against my wife - a Deliliah?? - What did my wife do to you? - Nothing that I could think of - neither can she.)
He also stated "However your biggest problem right now is ME. C"**** is my wife, and was before you came along. If I EVER hear of you insulting her again, or your wife doing it, or your children doing it I'm coming after YOU, so you better pass the word around. You've drove me to this point, and I personally don't give a rip any more WHAT you think of me. I love you, but enough is enough. I'll hurt you."
My youngest daughter 7 years old at the time, who is very strong and we salute her now especially - had called my mother a Witch because my mom was in actuality probably acting like one! My daughter calls it like she sees it! Then they got it their heads that we were teaching our kids to talk bad about them. My Mother brought it up last time I suffered through talking to her.- We have never taught our kids to be disrespectful -
See I'm trying to defend myself again. They don't care and they won't listen to my side and they believe what they want to believe. And this whole situation is just WEIRD to me. I'm majorly perplexed at all this and where it has gone and the threats and the having to keep my kids away from the hostility - all over a lot of weird thinking on their part. It's just weird, weird, weird. Who would of guessed my parents would have fallen off the deep end so quickly. I had no idea they were so insane! I feel I must have been living in La La Land and boy did this wake me up. Now what is weird too is that my brother and his wife got a divorce around this time and they were treated badly by her and her parents. - why this rage got transferred it to us is beyond my comprehension. Should I feel sorry for them? If they didn't mean it - then why haven't they contacted me in a couple of years or tried to make amends - why do I have to go to them? I did something wrong? I don't think so. Weird weird weird. I've heard my father can't use his arms anymore (via grandma) due to liver damage caused by cholestorol medicine. It's weird weird weird that I'm talking about him dying and what's going to happen to my crazy mother. I have no feelings. Weird so Weird. I always thought I was very empathetic and sympathetic to a fault. But why don't I give a sh**? Weird.
(okay enough about that - GEEZ - )
Okay, I'm venting again. When you guys get sick of this let me know. I'm starting to irrate myself! ; )
Yeah I agree that Beth on the SWAN should probably kick that loser of a so called husband to the curb. But she's empowered now and says she loves herself and she can let go of the resentment and love him too. BUT If I were her - ONE MORE TIME BUSTER AND (a quote from my WIFE - a Legal assistant) I'LL TAKE YOU FOR EVERY DIME YOU HAVE AND YOU WON'T HAVE A POT TO PEE IN WHEN I GET THROUGH WITH YOU! ( Needless to say my wife keeps me in check ; )
mrt:
Bunny,
Exactly!
Anonymous:
mrtraced,
Unfortunately, your parents appear to be mentally ill. I don't know if this was always the case, but it is now. Your father sounds seriously disturbed. So you can feel sorry for him. But keep your distance. He is untreated and dangerous. The loss of your family and your dream of a family is also tragic. The upside is that you're safe and keeping your kids safe.
bunny
Anonymous:
Wow, what a thread! Mind if I join?
Are UK folks familiar with the Texas ex-beauty queen dentist who ran her SUV over her dentist husband while he was talking to his mistress in the hotel garage of where the two dentists were married on Valentine's Day? :shock: :shock: :shock: It came out in the trial that hubby was cheating and wifey wanted to know what she had to do to keep him. So he wrote a list on a cocktail napkin that included all kinds of plastic surgery. ick ick ick. The poor teenage daughter was in the wife's car when mom ran over dad. Check it out on Court TV.
Mrtraced, that email from your dad sounds like a case of your mom saying "sic 'em, boy!" when she was offended by your daughter's comment. They sound scarier than a pair of pitbulls. I, too, have taken refuge in a cocoon of idealism and obliviousness. As long as I was "good/obedient/subservient" then no worries. But now that we're older and wiser :cry: we can't shut our eyes anymore. Once we are adults we want to be treated like adults. And once the grandkids come along the stakes are higher. I really relate to your story in many ways. I know it's painful, but you are on the way. Rage away. You'll be feeling better soon.
Take care, Seeker
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