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Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
Ami:
Dear Bones,
I have a slightly different take on it. When I read your post,it hit me that she 'can't help it". Whatever she was doing, she was doing it,subconsciously.
My question to you, though, is why didn't you end the friendship at the Great wall of China? Love Ami
isittoolate:
Congratulations, bones, on your Masters
Such terrible behaviour on the part of your 'friend'.
AS I read through all the responses, my question is, "Did she not realize that there were others observing her offensive behaviour?" I cannot imagine doing that to a friend, let alone in puiblic, and not feel any sense of 'misbehaviour'.
How terribly weird and does anyone know an N who would draw negative attention to him/herself? I'm stunned!
Congrats again
Izzy
teartracks:
Sycophant: A servile self-seeker who attempts to win favor by flattering influential people.
This might explain why said friends 'helpful' actions were way over the top. She was in the company of Bones who she possibly sees as superior as well as Bones colleagues. I think sycophant would come under the heading of narcissist, but may not necessarily be excluded from other types of disordered behavior. And if it is a stand alone behavior, it may not qualify as a disorder. Maybe it's a very annoying quirk. Not sure on that.
If the friend is not disordered in other significant ways, then there is a chance that talking through this incident might be a wake up call for her and help her correct the behavior for the future. I'm just punching in the dark here, but then I'm just your friendly, garden variety VESMB poster. :lol:
tt
Certain Hope:
:D :) :D Congratulations, Bones !! :D :) :D
((((((((((Bones)))))))))) Three cheers for you on your MS !
Say, does your friend ever respond with anger when you correct her?
Love,
Hope
gratitude28:
CH,
Your point about anger is funny. My NM only shrugs and giggles if corrected. She never gets upset about it - I am pretty sure because she doesn't think she did anything wrong.
Love, Beth
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