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Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
Certain Hope:
I understand now, Bones... and I know it's not easy to end a 40+ year relationship. So especially tough to do when the other person doesn't hear or understand... doesn't really even seem to see you.
(((((((((Bones))))))))) it's not even like you two grew apart....
more like you've outgrown her, it seems. Still, it's almost like she's a fixture in your life... more family than friend... so I can feel the sadness of it. Boggles my mind that a person can stumble through a lifetime like some of these folks do... it really does.
But then I did my own 40 years in the wilderness, so... all I can say is, if it weren't for Jesus, I'd still be goin around in circles - blind, deaf, and dumb. I guess praying for her is the very best thing we can do!
Love,
Carolyn
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Bella_French on October 02, 2007, 09:12:43 PM ---Dear Bones,
Good luck with breaking up with your friend. It does sound like the best thing to do in this case.
X Bella
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Thank you.
When she insists on trying to interfere with my job, she's gotta go.
Bones
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Certain Hope on October 02, 2007, 09:21:47 PM ---I understand now, Bones... and I know it's not easy to end a 40+ year relationship. So especially tough to do when the other person doesn't hear or understand... doesn't really even seem to see you.
(((((((((Bones))))))))) it's not even like you two grew apart....
more like you've outgrown her, it seems. Still, it's almost like she's a fixture in your life... more family than friend... so I can feel the sadness of it. Boggles my mind that a person can stumble through a lifetime like some of these folks do... it really does.
But then I did my own 40 years in the wilderness, so... all I can say is, if it weren't for Jesus, I'd still be goin around in circles - blind, deaf, and dumb. I guess praying for her is the very best thing we can do!
Love,
Carolyn
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Thanks, Carolyn!
I really feel sorry for her mother who is a helpless victim in all this because of her advanced Alzheimer's.
Bones
Certain Hope:
Makes me wonder, Bones... how aware that sweet, elderly woman was of her daughter's issues throughout her life.
My grandma always made allowances for my aunt's idiosyncracies... and they had to be some very, very large allowances....
right up to the very end. Does this one have power of attorney over all of her mother's affairs?
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Certain Hope on October 03, 2007, 01:58:47 PM ---Makes me wonder, Bones... how aware that sweet, elderly woman was of her daughter's issues throughout her life.
My grandma always made allowances for my aunt's idiosyncracies... and they had to be some very, very large allowances....
right up to the very end. Does this one have power of attorney over all of her mother's affairs?
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I think another sister is acting as power of attorney as she handles her mother's money and has to be consulted regarding large decisions. I think she is also pissed off at her Nsister for violating her boundaries as well.
Bones
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