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Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
Certain Hope:
Oh, Bones... I'm sorry. He probably really doesn't know what it is he wants... other than to just blithely float through life in a noncommittal sorta way. That's my own spin on it, sure, but does seem to be a common theme.
And I do believe that you've grown alot. Just wondered whether you saw it in yourself... and if that new growth has brought about maybe some new dreams (or revitalization of some old ones).
You've always seemed so interested in learning new things/skills...
maybe some of that can be transferred over into the area of your personal life, as well?
It's never too late to develop new.. ermm... interests, you know.
Just kinda thinking aloud here, of course.
I've made the error (several times) of thinking that I needed to be in a relationship in order to be complete, so... that clearly can lead to some serious troubles.
Are you thinking that you might be ready to just fly solo?
Seems like you're feeling as though you pretty much already are alone!
((((((Bones))))))) I know that feeling, too.
Maybe the moral of the story is... it's not about what he wants, but rather about what you want?
Love,
Carolyn
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Overcomer on June 10, 2008, 02:17:25 PM ---Bones: I am with you!! Seven years with a serial bitcher who I cannot please, who I walk on eggshells around, who is defensive and stupid. I am on my way (mentally) out the door............
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Or someone who is passive-aggressive....making promises that he conveniently forgets and/or never follows through with.
Bones
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Certain Hope on June 10, 2008, 02:32:17 PM ---Oh, Bones... I'm sorry. He probably really doesn't know what it is he wants... other than to just blithely float through life in a noncommittal sorta way. That's my own spin on it, sure, but does seem to be a common theme.
And I do believe that you've grown alot. Just wondered whether you saw it in yourself... and if that new growth has brought about maybe some new dreams (or revitalization of some old ones).
You've always seemed so interested in learning new things/skills...
maybe some of that can be transferred over into the area of your personal life, as well?
It's never too late to develop new.. ermm... interests, you know.
Just kinda thinking aloud here, of course.
I've made the error (several times) of thinking that I needed to be in a relationship in order to be complete, so... that clearly can lead to some serious troubles.
Are you thinking that you might be ready to just fly solo?
Seems like you're feeling as though you pretty much already are alone!
((((((Bones))))))) I know that feeling, too.
Maybe the moral of the story is... it's not about what he wants, but rather about what you want?
Love,
Carolyn
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True, that. Having been alone most of my life, it shouldn't feel new flying solo.
Bones
Certain Hope:
Bones, are you thinking of setting some ultimatums?
It's difficult stuff...
if you want to talk about it, ever, I'll listen.
Love,
Carolyn
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Certain Hope on June 12, 2008, 08:30:53 PM ---Bones, are you thinking of setting some ultimatums?
It's difficult stuff...
if you want to talk about it, ever, I'll listen.
Love,
Carolyn
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I'm trying to figure out how to word the ultimatums so they don't come off sounding hysterical or so angry that they are ineffective.
Bones
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