Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[BonesMS]

So far, things have been quiet this week on the part of NDoofus.  I still have not responded to any of her previous e-mails.

Bones

[Hopalong]

I think you deserve new friends, Bones...

anybody compatible around?

love
Hops

[BonesMS]

So far, nothing yet.

My work schedule is a bit hectic for that.  I meet people but.........

Bones

[Ami]

Juat thinking of you, Bones. I find that friends seem to come to me,in an effortless way,now. They seem to come in, in an easy way and feel "right".
 I meet s/one whom I want to love(as a friend)  and then it just evolves from there.
 As I felt more defined ,inside, my outside seemed to reflect it and "give" me what I needed.Just some thoughts.   Love  Ami

[BonesMS]

Juat thinking of you, Bones. I find that friends seem to come to me,in an effortless way,now. They seem to come in, in an easy way and feel "right".
 I meet s/one whom I want to love(as a friend)  and then it just evolves from there.
 As I felt more defined ,inside, my outside seemed to reflect it and "give" me what I needed.Just some thoughts.   Love  Ami

Thanks, Ami!  This gives me more to think about.

Bones

[BonesMS]

I've also been involved with volunteer, and club, activities in addition to my full-time job so I do encounter a variety of people.  Making friends has never been easy for me for as long as I can remember.  I have reason to suspect that I may have Asperger's which has never been officially diagnosed.  (Asperger's was unknown when I was a child.)

Bones

[BonesMS]

Just got TWO e-mails from NDoofus!  One of them is Trek-related.  I don't want to respond to her because I know the cost involved.

Bones

[Ami]

Hi Bones,
 Just saying "Hello".
 N Doofus will always be a "fixture" ,it seems.
  I am wishing you well, Bones, friend. Sending you thoughts of peace.          Love to you,    Ami

[BonesMS]

Hi Bones,
 Just saying "Hello".
 N Doofus will always be a "fixture" ,it seems.
  I am wishing you well, Bones, friend. Sending you thoughts of peace.          Love to you,    Ami

Thanks, Ami!

It just irks me that NDoofus is so oblivious to other people's boundaries!

Bones

[BonesMS]

I've also realized that I have no patience with other Narcissists that I encounter.

Recently, at work, I was conducting a telephone intake for a young woman who is about to become homeless.  Given the circumstances, and other possible factors that could determine eligibility for certain programs, there are certain questions that I am required to ask.  One second, I'm talking to this woman, the next second a different voice comes on the line DEMANDING WHY I'M ASKING THESE QUESTION?!?

My initial response:  "Who are you?"

New voice:  "I'M HER MOTHER!"

Me:  "I was speaking with your adult daughter.  Please put her back on the phone."

The call resumes with the original young woman as I ask additional questions.  Then......

New voice:  "WHY DO YOU NEED ALL THIS?!?!?!?"

Me:  "Ma'am, I was speaking with your adult daughter.  I am not discussing her issues with you.  Put her back on the phone."

By this point, I'm beginning to lose patience with intrusive mother.  As I resume the conversation with the original caller, Nmother snatches the phone for a THIRD time and starts RANTING at me about how all of this is inconvenient to HER!  By this point, my patience is GONE!

Me:  "Ma'am, this phone call is between me and your adult daughter.  I will not discuss her issues with you.  If you continue to interfere with my interview with her, I will terminate this phone call immediately!"

New voice:  "But she's only (daughter's age) and I KNOW EVERYTHING!"

Me:  "This is NOT ABOUT YOU!  GET OFF THE PHONE, PUT YOUR DAUGHTER BACK ON THE LINE OR I AM HANGING UP!  I WILL NOT DISCUSS ANY OF HER BUSINESS WITH YOU!"

Nmother huffed but I was finally able to complete the intake with the original caller without any further interference.  Sheesh!!!!!!

Bones

[Ami]

N's are everywhere. I guess it is up to us to try to keep them, at bay, the best we can. You did great with that woman's M, Bones. Well done!                            Hugs,  Ami

[BonesMS]

N's are everywhere. I guess it is up to us to try to keep them, at bay, the best we can. You did great with that woman's M, Bones. Well done!                            Hugs,  Ami

Thanks, Ami.

Some of the calls I get can be really challenging at times!

Bones

[Ami]

Well, Bones.
It is hard trying to maintain, ourselves as we walk through the world. It is hard trying to get ourselves, first of all, and then maintain ourselves, in the face of other people's attempts to undermine us , at times.
 You are doing really well, Bones.    Love   Ami

[seasons]

Oh my gosh Bones,

Your conversation sounded just like my older Narcissistic sister was on the phone. But she would TRY and usually win when speaking for her adult son. Grrrrrrrr

God for you!!! and good for her daughter, giving her a voice.

Job well done. ((seasons))

[BonesMS]

Well, Bones.
It is hard trying to maintain, ourselves as we walk through the world. It is hard trying to get ourselves, first of all, and then maintain ourselves, in the face of other people's attempts to undermine us , at times.
 You are doing really well, Bones.    Love   Ami

Thanks, Ami!

Bones