Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[BonesMS]

I got a phone call from the doctor's office that conducted the sleep study.  They didn't tell me the results on the phone and they want to meet with me, in person, on September 11th. 

On top of it all, I'm going to have to ask bf if he can deal with NDoofus because her old behaviors are starting up again and I have no energy to deal with her stupidity.  I'm still awaiting all of the test results and will be meeting with the cardiologist tomorrow.  Until I know what I'm dealing with, I've cut out red meat and eating more fruits and vegetables.  NDoofus calls me telling me she wants to bring me a steak.  I told her not now until I've finished meeting with my doctors and see if I have to be on a restricted diet regarding red meat.  She starts blathering mindlessly about how she cooks the steak in olive oil.  I told her, again, NOT NOW!  She still kept blathering about how I should call her.  I emphasized that bf is helping me for now and coordinate with him.  URGH!!!!!   

Bones

[cats paw]

Bones,

  Let us know, when you're able, how it went with the cardiologist this AM.

  Glad you've got bf to deal with ND's balls that always seem to come out of left field.

cats paw

[BonesMS]

Bones,

  Let us know, when you're able, how it went with the cardiologist this AM.

  Glad you've got bf to deal with ND's balls that always seem to come out of left field.

cats paw

Thanks, Cats Paw.

I just got home from the cardiologist a short time ago.  I still have an abnormal EKG which indicates a blockage in one part of my heart.  I'm NOT happy about the blockage so I have to focus on developiing a heart healthy diet and getting more exercise.

Bones

[Ami]

Hi Bones
 Will execise unblock the problem? I think of exercise as a positive addiction.           Ami

[BonesMS]

Hi Bones
 Will execise unblock the problem? I think of exercise as a positive addiction.           Ami

Thanks, Ami.

My primary physician is advising that I exercise.  I've been trying to walk more even though I'm still feeling light-headed and dizzy.

Bones

[Ami]

Are you light headed and dizzy b/c of the heart blockage or don't they know?  I am NOT saying this is the case for you,but when I get upset I get light headed . It took me a while to recognize what it was.This was the case for me,anyway.   Ami

[BonesMS]

Are you light headed and dizzy b/c of the heart blockage or don't they know?  I am NOT saying this is the case for you,but when I get upset I get light headed . It took me a while to recognize what it was.This was the case for me,anyway.   Ami

Thanks, Ami.

I was feeling lousy before I went to the doctor the first time.  I was put on Lexapro (10 mg) and Trazadone (100 mg) for two weeks and my balance, light-headedness and dizziness got worse.  The primary care physician is still in the process of adjusting my medication so it could still be a side effect of the meds.  I'm concerned that heart symptoms are different for women than for men but the doctors keep talking about heart symptoms that are more commen in men as if they automatically apply to all women.  At the cardiologist, while the doctor was recording his notes in a hand-held device, he kept emphasizing my GERD even though I recently started having abnormal EKGs.  That worries me because if I go to the Emergency Room with unusual symptoms that could be indicative of a new heart problem, they could attempt to insist that it's GERD and send me back home while the symptoms continue.  That could mean the difference between life and death.

Bones

[BonesMS]

In spite of asking bf to run interception regarding NDoofus, ND is still attempting to call every other day.  I've gotten to the point that as soon as I see her number pop up, I let it go to the answering machine.  Just like the "rescuer" who does not rescue, her type of "help" does NOT help!  She does not ask what you need, she "announces" what she is going to do and expects you to go along with her ideas.  When told, "No, that is not appropriate for this situation", she attempts to passively-aggressively force you to do what she wants and completely ignores the facts because she firmly believes that all of her assumptions are always, magically, true. 

I've talked to bf again about her ramping up her pressure on me so he's going to see what he can do to get her to coordinate more with him and leave me alone.

Bones

[cats paw]

Bones,

  Your concerns about symptomology differences, as well as your concerns about GERD differential diagnoses if you ever go to the ER,
are valid subjects for your docs to discuss with you.  Have they talked about doing further testing, and if not, their rationale for their decisions? 

   It's hard to have any kind of abnormal test, much less anything cardiac.  I had hyperthyroidism before I went hypo, and I had lots of irregular heartbeats and dizziness.  It was attributed to my thyroid, but it was still very worrisome while it was going on.

   The other valid concerns are about where the blockage is and what that means.  If they haven't explained these things to you, let them know that any further info to help mitigate your concerns would be appreciated.

   You've probably done these things, I just wanted to say I think wanting to discuss your concerns with your docs is more than reasonable, and is your right as a patient.

cats paw 

[BonesMS]

Bones,

  Your concerns about symptomology differences, as well as your concerns about GERD differential diagnoses if you ever go to the ER,
are valid subjects for your docs to discuss with you.  Have they talked about doing further testing, and if not, their rationale for their decisions? 

   It's hard to have any kind of abnormal test, much less anything cardiac.  I had hyperthyroidism before I went hypo, and I had lots of irregular heartbeats and dizziness.  It was attributed to my thyroid, but it was still very worrisome while it was going on.

   The other valid concerns are about where the blockage is and what that means.  If they haven't explained these things to you, let them know that any further info to help mitigate your concerns would be appreciated.

   You've probably done these things, I just wanted to say I think wanting to discuss your concerns with your docs is more than reasonable, and is your right as a patient.

cats paw 

Normally, I would have been asking a lot of questions.  This time, I went into shock and couldn't verbalize much of anything that made any sense.  (One of my Aspie symptoms.)  I'm still trying to process this information so I can find a better way to verbalize what I need to.

Bones

[Ami]

Dear Bones
 I know how hard it is to thinkn when you are in a stressful situation. I am sorry you are going through this. My heart goes out to you.
                Ami

[BonesMS]

Dear Bones
 I know how hard it is to thinkn when you are in a stressful situation. I am sorry you are going through this. My heart goes out to you.
                Ami

Thanks, Ami!

I really appreciate it!

Bones

[Ami]

You are welcome, Bones!
 I wish I could help you. It is so scary to go through these types of situations. I am thinking of you.       Ami
 

[BonesMS]

You are welcome, Bones!
 I wish I could help you. It is so scary to go through these types of situations. I am thinking of you.       Ami
 

Thanks, Ami.  I'm trying to deal with this one day at a time.

Bones

[Hopalong]

Sending you love and courage to build a strong heart, Bones.

The human body can renew and regenerate itself incredibly well.

I believe that if you adopt a very heart-healthy diet and regular exercise (can you join a cardiology-type exercise program? sometimes they're covered by insurance--ask your doc!)...and read Pritikin.

Heart disease (even blockage) IS reversible.

I KNOW you can build yourself a strong heart.

xxxxooo thinking of you,
Hops