Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[Izzy_*now*]

hi bones,
For a long as I have been reading your posts, I have nothng to submit on a positive vein!

I sense you are always in the lookout for the Ns surrounding you, but do you not ever have a positive move forward in your life to tell us here?

If I am wrong, I apologize.
Izzy

[BonesMS]

I just need to vent!

Bones

[Ami]

hi bones,
For a long as I have been reading your posts, I have nothng to submit on a positive vein!

I sense you are always in the lookout for the Ns surrounding you, but do you not ever have a positive move forward in your life to tell us here?

If I am wrong, I apologize.
Izzy

YUCH, Izzy.  I don't like that. It is an arrow.                                    Ami


PS She is obviously hurting, Izzy. Maybe,you should examine YOUR need to throw an arrow at a hurting person.

[BonesMS]

Thanks, Ami.

I'm in the midst of peeling back layers of the "onion", on my own, without the benefit of a professional therapist to guide me through this maze.  Hearing the worn-out phrases of:  "That's in the past!", "Buck up!", "Get over it already!", "You need to FEEL differently because I DON'T LIKE your emotions!", and so forth, are NOT helpful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   

Bones

[Ami]

Thanks, Ami.

I'm in the midst of peeling back layers of the "onion", on my own, without the benefit of a professional therapist to guide me through this maze.  Hearing the worn-out phrases of:  "That's in the past!", "Buck up!", "Get over it already!", "You need to FEEL differently because I DON'T LIKE your emotions!", and so forth, are NOT helpful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   

Bones

God, Do I know that!!!!!          Ami

[Izzy_*now*]

Thanks, Ami.

I'm in the midst of peeling back layers of the "onion", on my own, without the benefit of a professional therapist to guide me through this maze.  Hearing the worn-out phrases of:  "That's in the past!", "Buck up!", "Get over it already!", "You need to FEEL differently because I DON'T LIKE your emotions!", and so forth, are NOT helpful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   

Bones

That was not the  point bones. I was wondering if you have some positve strides forward to tell us, or is something just not working--insights, etc. ?Oh yes I remember one. It was that your assertiveness came through. That's good, and is becoming easier to do?
Izzy

[BonesMS]

Just give me my VOICE and let me vent!!!!!!

Bones

[BonesMS]

I've learned a new concept on another survivors' board.......Trolls!!!!!

Bones

[Ami]

YUP! I learned that, too!           Ami

[Ami]

How are you doing today, Bonsie?                Ami

[BonesMS]

How are you doing today, Bonsie?                Ami

I'm hanging in there, one day at a time.

I'm in the process of reading some library books on home-based business to get some ideas of what I might be able to do.

Bones

[Ami]

Which ones sound good?  You know, if you are licensed as a counselor, they have call in counseling services. Have you heard of that? People call lines for counseling and pay for the "appointments".  It is a phone based counseling service, IOW     Ami

[BonesMS]

Which ones sound good?  You know, if you are licensed as a counselor, they have call in counseling services. Have you heard of that? People call lines for counseling and pay for the "appointments".  It is a phone based counseling service, IOW     Ami

I'm not a licensed or certified counselor or psychologist.  I've learned the hard way that trying to find an appropriate supervisor, to obtain the required hours, is mainly about "WHO you know" instead of "WHAT you know".  After attempting to work in the counseling field for about the past four years, I am feeling "burned out" in that regard.  I'm also reluctant about dealing with "office politics" the older I get.  Some of the stuff I have seen recently makes me wonder WHERE office decorum and office couture has gone!  I've seen some show up in an office wearing stuff that left NOTHING to the imagination and they talked as if they were still out on the street!  (And they were supposed to be PROFESSIONALS!)  I couldn't hide my facial expressions about this, as I was basically old enough to be their mother and had been taught what office decorum was supposed to be... and so, I would eventually hear the usual...."You're a POOR fit!  Get out!"...by people young enough to be my son or daughter.

When I recently attended a workshop at vocational rehabilitation, the guy who was leading the workshop told me, quite bluntly, "Age discrimination happens...but you can't prove it!  Because of your age, your level of education, your health issues, and your disabilities that qualify you for voc. rehab. assistance, there are NO jobs that are willing to talk to you or hire you."  That's when we spoke of the possibility of self-employment doing something I have always LOVED to do....genealogical research! 

So while I'm waiting to be scheduled for another workshop, I'm doing homework on my own about becoming a look-up provider for people who are unable to travel to the DC area to visit the National Archives and the Library of Congress for research.  I could do that for them since I have gained experience doing my own research there.

And so it goes......

Bones

[Ami]

That sounds like it might be really good Bones cuz you have a passion for it!             Ami

[BonesMS]

That sounds like it might be really good Bones cuz you have a passion for it!             Ami

Thanks, Ami!

Bones