Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[seasons]

I'm still working on writing my business plan for my genealogy look-up provider service and I have been putting out "feelers" to see who might be interested in having me look up documents, on their behalf, at the National Archives.  I got one response.  However, as soon as she realized that she would need to pay me for my work, she has stopped responding.  Is it only N's that demand something for nothing?

Bones

That stinks, but so predictable. Sorry Bones.

Hope you are able to find better health/balance as you battle your chronic health issues. ((hugs)) seasons

[Ami]

((((Bones)))) I really admire your spirit, Bones, after all you have been through and are going through!         xxooo  Ami

[BonesMS]

I'm still working on writing my business plan for my genealogy look-up provider service and I have been putting out "feelers" to see who might be interested in having me look up documents, on their behalf, at the National Archives.  I got one response.  However, as soon as she realized that she would need to pay me for my work, she has stopped responding.  Is it only N's that demand something for nothing?

Bones

That stinks, but so predictable. Sorry Bones.

Hope you are able to find better health/balance as you battle your chronic health issues. ((hugs)) seasons

Thanks, ((((((((((((((Seasons)))))))))))))))))))))))))

Bones

[BonesMS]

((((Bones)))) I really admire your spirit, Bones, after all you have been through and are going through!         xxooo  Ami

Thanks, (((((((((((((((((((Ami)))))))))))))))))))))))))

Bones

[BonesMS]

I think I've noticed another area of growth regarding boundaries.

Recently, I posted a genealogy inquiry to a discussion list and received a private response that included a very obnoxious political statement, that was a hoax, that had ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH GENEALOGY!  I politely asked this individual not to include political statements and hoaxes, ESPECIALLY since they had NOTHING TO DO WITH GENEALOGY.  His reaction was basically, "MY OPINIONS ARE ALWAYS RIGHT AND I WILL FORCE THEM DOWN YOUR THROAT!"

I told him that I will no longer accept any e-mails from him and that his messages will be reported as spam from now on given his attitude.  (I was smelling the STENCH of an N!)  He attempted to react with the attitude of "I OWN YOU!" to which the e-mail was immediately reported as spam WITHOUT responding to his idiocy!

Bones

[BonesMS]

The first letter in this advice column sounds like a NIGHTMARE WITH A NARCISSIST!!!!!

http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/annie-s-mailbox-r-2009-10-30.html

If it was one of us, what would we do to stop this NMonster?

Bones

[BonesMS]

Just touching base as I'm physically feeling out-of-sorts.  This orthostatic hypotension is a pain-in-the-a$$!   

Bones

[BonesMS]

Just a thought or two....

When N's violate boundaries, it is all about CONTROL, CONTROL, CONTROL!!!!

Examples:

An N therapist tells me:  "I'll CONTROL your addiction for you!" (while trying to DESTROY my hard-earned sobriety!)

An N shows up UNINVITED at my front door and DEMANDS that I DROP everything IMMEDIATELY and ENTERTAIN HER!

In the first letter of Annie's Mailbox of Friday, October 30, 2009, an NM-I-L attempts to CONTROL her son and daughter-in-law!

(Please add other examples of C-O-N-T-R-O-L by OBNOXIOUS N's!  Thank you!)

Bones

[BonesMS]

Just touching base...

Bones

[Ami]

Hi Bonesie
  Thinking of you!                                                            xxxoo

[BonesMS]

Hi Bonesie
  Thinking of you!                                                            xxxoo

Thanks, Ami.

Bones

[Hopalong]

Hey Bones,
I thought about writing examples of Ncontrolling incidents, then realized I have a lifetime of them in my head and I don't want to add to that space by reliving them.

I'm in solidarity with you dealing with it though.

love to you, and I hope you're feeling a bit better today...

Hops

[BonesMS]

Hey Bones,
I thought about writing examples of Ncontrolling incidents, then realized I have a lifetime of them in my head and I don't want to add to that space by reliving them.

I'm in solidarity with you dealing with it though.

love to you, and I hope you're feeling a bit better today...

Hops

Thanks, Hops.

I'm in the "Name It, Claim It, Dump It" mode while learning to recognize the warning signs of someone attempting to control me that way again so I can head them off at the pass!

Bones

[BonesMS]

Weather has the aches and pains going.

Bones

[BonesMS]

N-Characteristics that I have observed:

REFUSING to take responsibility for the BIG MESSES they create!

REFUSING to apologize for damages they cause.

ATTEMPTING to DUMP responsibilities on others that they find INCONVENIENT!

ATTEMPTING TO FORCE ABSOLUTE, TOTAL, UNQUESTIONED CONTROL, CONTROL, CONTROL, down others' throats!

Responding IN THE EXTREME whenever ANYONE DARES TO DISAGREE with their ROYAL SELVES!

ATTEMPTING to USE OTHERS as INANIMATE OBJECTS!

(I'll think of more later.....)

Bones