Author Topic: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?  (Read 1305559 times)

KatG

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #1515 on: April 12, 2010, 07:38:07 PM »
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #1516 on: April 12, 2010, 07:41:30 PM »
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #1517 on: April 13, 2010, 11:09:50 AM »
Just checking in to vent a little today.

I've established a page on Facebook offering my services, for a fee, to help others researching their family histories.  I've gotten some excellent questions that I don't mind answering at all......and then there are the WEIRDIES......!!!!  For example, one basically asked that I read her mind and guess what she wants to find.  When I quoted what I would charge her, per hour, she hasn't been heard from since.  A second one asked if I could do the work BEFORE she paid me!  I explained how much it would cost to travel to the repository and that cost needs to be covered BEFORE I make the trip in addition to my retainer fee.  The third, and most OBNOXIOUS one, RANTED at me for DARING to ask to be paid for my work.  I pointed out that both my business page and the genealogy sites that I've been on have been mentioning fees all along and what those fees cover.  Then he apologized.

This is NOT a new problem!  When I was in high school, making crocheted jewelry, I've encountered TOTAL STRANGERS DEMANDING that I hand over my work to them FOR FREE!!!!  With my then-teenage bravado, I would look them in the eye and blurt:  "I DON'T KNOW YOU!"

URGHHHHH!!!!!!

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #1518 on: April 14, 2010, 04:26:29 PM »
Landed in the Emergency Room this morning.  Will talk later.

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #1519 on: April 14, 2010, 04:37:28 PM »
I'm really sorry to hear it, Bones.

Keep us posted.

Feel better fast.

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #1520 on: April 14, 2010, 05:02:48 PM »
Sorry to hear that ((Bones)).

Hope your feeling better. Keep us posted.     seasons xo
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #1521 on: April 14, 2010, 06:11:27 PM »
I'm really sorry to hear it, Bones.

Keep us posted.

Feel better fast.

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #1522 on: April 14, 2010, 06:12:34 PM »
Sorry to hear that ((Bones)).

Hope your feeling better. Keep us posted.     seasons xo

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #1523 on: April 15, 2010, 07:39:28 AM »
Still resting today.  What landed me in the E.R. yesterday was an attack of IBS.  NOT fun by a long shot!

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #1524 on: April 16, 2010, 09:13:16 AM »
I'm hoping that the worse of the IBS is over now!  I'm tired of it!

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #1525 on: April 16, 2010, 12:59:40 PM »

I hope the worse is over for you too, Bones!

Take care of yourself. seasons xo
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #1526 on: April 16, 2010, 01:11:42 PM »

I hope the worse is over for you too, Bones!

Take care of yourself. seasons xo

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #1527 on: April 16, 2010, 01:49:17 PM »
Sorry ((((Bones)))
I hate that type of thing---awful!
Hope you are doing better, Friend!            x o x  Ami
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Most of our problems come from losing contact with our instincts,with the age old wisdom stored within us.
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #1528 on: April 16, 2010, 02:08:56 PM »
Sorry ((((Bones)))
I hate that type of thing---awful!
Hope you are doing better, Friend!            x o x  Ami

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #1529 on: April 18, 2010, 08:52:45 AM »
 :|

Still recuperating.

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