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BonesMS

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #1770 on: September 12, 2010, 06:01:30 AM »
Maybe it's just me and my twisted sense of humor....during the urologist stuff, I've been thinking of what might be funny and writing them down.

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« Reply #1771 on: September 12, 2010, 09:04:36 AM »
Another random thought....I've been watching the TV series, "Master Chef", and thinking that many of these contestants learned how to cook from loving family members.  Then I look back at what NWomb-Donor did, in the area of "cooking" and realized that was a HUGE area of neglect because she DESPISED any mess in HER kitchen that was a natural result of cooking from scratch!   :x
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« Reply #1772 on: September 12, 2010, 10:16:51 PM »
And YOU learned to love amazingly healthful, nutrient rich foods anyway, even sushi!

Don't let that ghost into your brain...OUTTA your kitchen with her, Bones!

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« Reply #1773 on: September 13, 2010, 05:58:24 AM »
And YOU learned to love amazingly healthful, nutrient rich foods anyway, even sushi!

Don't let that ghost into your brain...OUTTA your kitchen with her, Bones!

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Hops

Thanks, Hops!

I'm having a bit of a rough time this morning as I went downtown to the Museum of Natural History yesterday.  I under-estimated the amount of sensory overload I would encounter and, for someone with Asperger's, that is a DISASTER!  UGH!   :P

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #1774 on: September 14, 2010, 01:02:54 PM »
Depressed
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #1775 on: September 15, 2010, 07:26:12 AM »
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« Reply #1776 on: September 15, 2010, 11:08:50 AM »
very smart of you to realize that, Bones...
I bet it took some deliberate self soothing afterward to feel okay again.

I'm glad you talk sometimes about Asperger's. It's such an "invisible"
thing and the more people learn, the better.

(You're all geniuses, though, of course...)  :D

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« Reply #1777 on: September 15, 2010, 03:39:13 PM »
very smart of you to realize that, Bones...
I bet it took some deliberate self soothing afterward to feel okay again.

I'm glad you talk sometimes about Asperger's. It's such an "invisible"
thing and the more people learn, the better.

(You're all geniuses, though, of course...)  :D

xo
Hops

Thanks, Hops!

I did some deliberate self-soothing which is one of the reasons why I prefer to live alone.  Those who are NT's tend to freak out when they accidentally witness stimming.  I still feel "out-of-it" due to the sensory overloads I experienced with all the crowds and the noise level.  It's going to take me several DAYS if not WEEKS to re-set my nervous system!

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« Reply #1778 on: September 16, 2010, 08:06:41 AM »
Still feeling depressed today.  Even my physical systems are off-kilter.   :P
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« Reply #1779 on: September 17, 2010, 06:48:19 AM »
Seasonal Affective Disorder is kicking in, HARD, and my sleep is being disrupted.  Woke up at 3:00 in the morning!   :P
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« Reply #1780 on: September 18, 2010, 08:16:41 AM »
It has recently occurred to me that the N, that I notified about her stuff on November 30, 2009, has NOT responded back to me for several months after I informed her that she and/or her minion needed to call ahead to let me know when her stuff was going to be picked up.  I had told both of them, at that time, that I live in a building with a security door and there is restricted parking.  If they don't call ahead, they CANNOT get in.  If they park in a reserved spot, the owner of that reserved parking place WILL call the police, along with the tow truck, and their car WILL be ticketed and towed.  Apparently the QUEEN N did NOT like that information!  She has been giving me the SILENT TREATMENT.  (Why am I NOT surprised?)

If I hear nothing more from either her, or her minion, by November 30, 2010, I plan to prepare a letter, to be sent certified and be signed for, informing her that she has had over THIRTY YEARS to make a decision about her belongings.  She left her stuff in April 1980.  She was notified in the beginning of April 1999 that I was moving at the end of May 1999 and that she NEEDED TO MAKE A DECISION CONCERNING HER BELONGINGS.  She was notified AGAIN November 30, 2009 regarding her belongings.  (Because it took that long to find her stuff after the kerfuffle of moving and trying to reorganize my own stuff.)  So as of November 30, 2010, her belongings will be considered ABANDONED PROPERTY and will be treated accordingly within 90 days after that.  (If I STILL hear nothing, then I plan to start selling it so I can put the money toward my medical bills.)

If she attempts to scream LAWSUIT, I say "BRING IT ON!"  Judges don't like having their court dockets cluttered with frivolous lawsuits over abandoned junk that has NOT been looked at or touched for this amount of time!

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #1781 on: September 19, 2010, 08:44:09 AM »
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #1782 on: September 20, 2010, 09:15:43 AM »
Feels like I'm coming down with the first cold of the season.   :(

So tired.......
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« Reply #1783 on: September 21, 2010, 07:18:51 AM »
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #1784 on: September 22, 2010, 08:33:23 AM »
I'm trying to figure out what I might have done wrong...again.

Last night, I went to a meeting and said "hello" to the person who was already in the room.  I got absolutely NO response.  I noticed that she was listening to an iPod with ear-buds in her ears so I thought maybe she couldn't hear me over what she was listening to.  I walked over to her and playfully waved "Hi".  At that she deliberately looked away and refused to speak.  I'm befuddled.  What did I do that pissed her off?????????   :?
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