Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[BonesMS]

Question:  What IS it about members of the male species that make it impossible for them to HEAR important information?

Yesterday, my doctor's office called me regarding the results of my bone scan.  (THAT kind of call can be frightening, especially when it's not time for the appointment.)  The results showed that the bones in my left hip are thinning in spite of taking Actonel every month.  That means I need to increase my calcium and, at the same time, given my financial limitations, I can't afford the supplements.  I immediately informed Mr. Idiot about the doctor's phone call and ASKED FOR HIS HELP, (which is NOT easy for me to do given my experiences growing up).  What does he do?  Shows up at my place, EMPTY-HANDED and gives me the usual bullsh*t:  "I'll get 'round to it later!"  That usually translates into DOING NOTHING because it's NOT important to HIM.  (Never mind the fact that he has been tying up my washer and dryer for over a week, IGNORING the fact that I ALSO LIVE HERE and NEED TO DO LAUNDRY TOO!)  No matter how many times I explain the OBVIOUS, he simply WILL NOT HEAR ME!  (It's like talking to a CHILD!)

[Redhead Erin]

This is a good time of the year to throw his laundry out on the lawn.  It will be cold and nasty when he collects it. 

then you should demand 2 rolls of quarters a week, since he doews not have to go to the laundromat and you are saving him all this trouble.

Not all men are like that, Bones.  the trouble is, the ones that are, are like snarling, biting dogs--they fill up your space and keep the nice ones away.  Is there any chance you can lose this idiot?  ((((Bones)))))

[BonesMS]

This is a good time of the year to throw his laundry out on the lawn.  It will be cold and nasty when he collects it. 

then you should demand 2 rolls of quarters a week, since he doews not have to go to the laundromat and you are saving him all this trouble.

Not all men are like that, Bones.  the trouble is, the ones that are, are like snarling, biting dogs--they fill up your space and keep the nice ones away.  Is there any chance you can lose this idiot?  ((((Bones)))))

Thanks, (((((((Erin)))))))).

It would be nice to find someone who understands my situation, supports me, and help me out financially without going through a LOT of hassle repeatedly.  Unfortunately, at my age, Prince Charming doesn't exist!

Bones

[Redhead Erin]

But do you need that kind of irritation?  What is he supplying in your life that makes him worth your while?

[BonesMS]

But do you need that kind of irritation?  What is he supplying in your life that makes him worth your while?

Right now he's paying some rent to supplement my pension.   

[BonesMS]

WHAT PLANET IS THIS FATHER LIVING ON THAT HE WOULD RISK HIS 10-YEAR-OLD DAUGHTER'S SAFETY?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?   


DEAR ABBY: My husband recently asked how I would feel about him buying a plane ticket for his brother "Jake" to visit us and his parents over the holidays. I told him I wouldn't like it -- not because my husband would be paying for the ticket, but because Jake is a registered sex offender.

My husband is now upset with me, saying Jake "served his time." I understand that, but the underage girl he messed around with was his niece. My daughter is 10 and starting to develop. She's also affectionate with family. I don't want her hugging Uncle Jake.

My husband and I are now not speaking. He told me that if his family isn't welcome in our house, he will start treating my family badly. Am I wrong for not wanting Jake sleeping under the same roof as my daughter? -- PROTECTIVE MOM IN THE MIDWEST

DEAR PROTECTIVE MOM: No, you're not wrong. That your husband would try to blackmail you into allowing a registered sex offender to sleep in the same house as your adolescent daughter is deplorable. Your daughter is old enough to be told that Uncle Jake has a problem with young girls, and that if he ever makes a move on her, you want to know immediately.

It isn't like Jake did time for bank robbery. Sex offenders are usually prohibited from having contact with minors. The man has a sexual impulse disorder that shouldn't be ignored, and your husband should not allow any risk that your daughter might be molested.

[BonesMS]

Where's that TV Show....STUPID CRIMINALS or AMERICA'S DUMBEST CRIMINALS??   


http://abclocal.go.com/wpvi/story?section=news/local&id=8404894

[BonesMS]

Checking in before I head off to bed........

[BonesMS]

This sounds familiar when trying to reason with an unreasonable relative:

From "Dear Abby", October 27, 2011:

DEAR ABBY: My mom goes overboard with gifts for my two sons when she goes on vacation or when she shops for birthdays and Christmas. I have asked her to scale back and not buy them each a box full of stuff. I tried to be tactful, but she said they "expect" Grandma to give them stuff.

The problem is she gives them random things that hold no interest for them. My sons are always kind and thank her, but their rooms are packed full of toys, many never opened, because they have too much stuff.

When I asked Mom to just give the boys a book about the next place she visits, she became defensive. I don't know how to tell her in a way she'll understand that she's wasting her hard-earned money on gifts my children won't use or have no interest in. Can you help me? -- TOO MUCH STUFF IN IOWA

DEAR TOO MUCH: Try something like this: "Mom, you are a generous sweetheart, but you are giving them too much stuff. They're inundated! There are toys in their rooms that have never been opened because they have outgrown them. That's why this year we are donating the unopened ones to a homeless shelter. It hurts me to see you spend money on items the boys don't use -- so please, cut back on the number of gifts, and before spending your hard-earned money, ask me what they can use."

[BonesMS]

 

[BonesMS]

Having a bit of a busy weekend with resting in between.  Will talk later.

[BonesMS]

Just checking in before heading out.

[BonesMS]

Had two back-to-back CERT activities on two consecutive days so feeling tired at the moment.

[BonesMS]

Had our first snow hit my area yesterday.  I HATE winter!

[sKePTiKal]

Advice from Jimmy Buffett: I gotta go where it's WARM!!

Any chance you could, Bones? Would you want to?