Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[BonesMS]

Ever try to check out at Walmart or the grocery store when the computers go down? IT'S NOT POSSIBLE - not even with cash.

Yep!  The poor kiddies don't know what to do with themselves without the computers to do the work FOR them!

On a lighter note, I had the opportunity to use a coupon at a nearby restaurant.  As I was sitting and eating, this young mother walked by holding a little toddler by the hand.  The baby was just barely old enough to walk and was CUTE as all get out!  As the baby approached my table, she looked at me and gave me the BIGGEST GRIN and waved her little hand saying "Bye-bye!"  She was just TOO CUTE!!!!     Little teeny baby with a HUGE bubbly personality!!!!  She made me giggle!!!  I hope that child NEVER loses that! 

[BonesMS]

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[BonesMS]

I LOVE it when Judge Judy RIPS into a Narcissistic Parent!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

Just watched a case a few minutes ago where this Jack A$$ attempted to justify financially screwing his daughter who just turned 18 and Judge Judy let him HAVE IT with everything she had!!!!  WOOOOO-HOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   

At the end of the case, when the litigants are interviewed outside the courtroom, Jack A$$ was bitching about how DARE she SMEAR him on national television and that he will NEVER speak to her again!!!  I'm yelling back at the TV,  Jack A$$, your daughter is better off WITHOUT you and your Narcissistic Bull Sh*t!!!!!

YAY, Judge Judy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   

[Ales2]

Bones - I saw that episode too! You are so right! One is better to learn sooner rather than later that the parents are Ns. Sometimes its just the context of learning it that  causes the problem - i.e the kid is turned out and destitute before realizing they are RICHER without this involvement in their lives. 

In my case, as much as I can be glad my NMom did not ruin my family - I was so confused about myself and relationships for so many years that I did not actually have a chance to have one! Now I know - and still hoping I will have a family of my own!

[BonesMS]

Bones - I saw that episode too! You are so right! One is better to learn sooner rather than later that the parents are Ns. Sometimes its just the context of learning it that  causes the problem - i.e the kid is turned out and destitute before realizing they are RICHER without this involvement in their lives. 

In my case, as much as I can be glad my NMom did not ruin my family - I was so confused about myself and relationships for so many years that I did not actually have a chance to have one! Now I know - and still hoping I will have a family of my own!

I understand about the confusion....especially when we had no other points of reference while growing up due to the fact that the N's CONTROLLED EVERYTHING during our childhoods.

[BonesMS]

Had a bit of an experience this morning.

I'm participating in a study which also involves doing a pulmonary function test that could be done in my home.  (They know already that I have asthma.)  When I made four different attempts with the spirometer, I kept getting "D" and "F" levels which are NOT good at all.  (It's possible that my asthma was getting ready to kick up but I had not started experiencing symptoms yet.)  After the fourth attempt, I started feeling "wheezy" and informed the people involved with this clinical study that I will need to pause the test and get my inhaler.  (At first, I think I scared them but I told them I would be fine since I was nipping the symptoms in the bud, so to speak.)

After we waited until the medication was in my system, we started a new round of the pulmonary function test with the notation about the medication and I started achieving PERFECT scores!  (Definitely documented that my symptoms were NOT part of my being "crazy" as the NBitch often decreed that they were!)

[Meh]

Ever try to check out at Walmart or the grocery store when the computers go down? IT'S NOT POSSIBLE - not even with cash.

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[Meh]

(Definitely documented that my symptoms were NOT part of my being "crazy" as the NBitch often decreed that they were!)

No, you're not crazy Bones 

Both my mother and brother also said that my medical symptoms were not real and that I was making them up to get attention. I still have them and it's confirmed by doctors.

It's sad that they made us feel crazy when we were young by being cruel like this. What a loss of CONFIDENCE in one's own senses and experiences and perceptions this causes.

[BonesMS]

(Definitely documented that my symptoms were NOT part of my being "crazy" as the NBitch often decreed that they were!)

No, you're not crazy Bones 

Both my mother and brother also said that my medical symptoms were not real and that I was making them up to get attention. I still have them and it's confirmed by doctors.

It's sad that they made us feel crazy when we were young by being cruel like this. What a loss of CONFIDENCE in one's own senses and experiences and perceptions this causes.

Thanks, Starlight.

Not only that, then there's the medical expenses that ensues as a direct result of neglect by the NB*tch that we end up having to deal with.

[sKePTiKal]

Yeah, I know the physical symptoms well. I believe - but there's no way to really know - that with proper mothering I wouldn't have developed the symptoms in the first place. It's kinda like my reaction to my mom was an autoimmune disease (with a mind of it's own!). The more I heal now, the less my symptoms show up now.

[BonesMS]

Yeah, I know the physical symptoms well. I believe - but there's no way to really know - that with proper mothering I wouldn't have developed the symptoms in the first place. It's kinda like my reaction to my mom was an autoimmune disease (with a mind of it's own!). The more I heal now, the less my symptoms show up now.

Thanks, P.R.

One of the pieces of evidence I came across, when I was going through papers that had been given me from the NB*tch's house was a note that she wrote around the time she took me to the pediatrician as a baby.  The doctor TOLD her about my asthma at that time, she probably wrote it down in front of him, then took me home and ignored everything that wasn't convenient to HER.

[debkor]

Hi Bones,

I was looking at.....Is it always N behavior to Violate Other's Boundaries?   Just the other day parent that has lost custody of children (court order) from state (called by teen S) to come get him was stopped and sent away from school.  Court order on file.

N's believe that Other's violate thier boundaries.  N parent said.........I am his mother!!!

They sure don't think normal.

Deb

[BonesMS]

Hi Bones,

I was looking at.....Is it always N behavior to Violate Other's Boundaries?   Just the other day parent that has lost custody of children (court order) from state (called by teen S) to come get him was stopped and sent away from school.  Court order on file.

N's believe that Other's violate thier boundaries.  N parent said.........I am his mother!!!

They sure don't think normal.

Deb

N's don't know how to think normal because they are convinced that the entire universe revolves around THEM!

[debkor]

They sure do bones...They sure do.