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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #3585 on: June 25, 2012, 10:14:25 PM »
Just wanted to send you a hug, (((((Bones))))))

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« Reply #3586 on: June 26, 2012, 06:50:30 AM »
Just wanted to send you a hug, (((((Bones))))))

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« Reply #3587 on: June 27, 2012, 02:50:06 AM »
Can't sleep.
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #3589 on: June 28, 2012, 04:28:51 PM »
I just received a brochure in the mail from a company known as PESI regarding a workshop titled:  "Emotional Manipulators & Codependents:  Understanding the Attraction".  The description inside the brochure specifically mentions Borderline, Narcissistic, and Antisocial Personality Disorders.  I'm going to check out the website at:  www.pesi.com to see if I can post a more detailed description from that rather than try to type it out word-for-word from the brochure.

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« Reply #3590 on: June 28, 2012, 04:34:38 PM »
Here's a link that gives a more detailed description of the seminar on Emotional Manipulators & Codependents:

http://www.pesi.com/bookstore/Emotional_Manipulators_and_Codependents__Understanding_the_Attraction-details.aspx

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #3591 on: June 29, 2012, 07:00:18 AM »
Today's "Dear Abby":

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20120629

I don't know which is worse....an NQueen who attempts to sabotage every single relationship their children embark on or attempts to have an "arranged dating" similar to an "arranged marriage" here in the US!   :P
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« Reply #3592 on: June 30, 2012, 07:45:23 AM »
Hey Bones! Are you OK?

I was going to bed and saw the storm that rolled through.... just checkin on all my peeps in that area!
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« Reply #3593 on: June 30, 2012, 09:23:22 AM »
Hey Bones! Are you OK?

I was going to bed and saw the storm that rolled through.... just checkin on all my peeps in that area!

Hi, P.R.

I'm OK.  I'm using WiFi at a nearby restaurant because my Internet has been knocked out.  I have lights, but no Internet.  I was hearing the wind last night and it was EERIE!!  I'm in the process of contacting other CERT members to get an assessment of what the damage looks like in my area.

In the meantime, I'm posting today's "Dear Abby".  Sounds like the letter writer is dealing with an N:

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20120630

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #3594 on: June 30, 2012, 09:48:11 AM »
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« Reply #3595 on: June 30, 2012, 11:43:32 AM »
Just got an e-mail a little while ago from a fellow club member kvetching that his air conditioning is not working today due to last night's storm.  For several sentences he complained that he doesn't like to sweat, he's uncomfortable, and the same old song of "Me, Me, Me!"  I have very little patience this morning after seeing the storm damage around my area and responded with:  "Be grateful that your roof wasn't torn off last night!"  Some residences lost roofs either due to the wind ripping them off, collapsing, or having large trees thrown onto them.  Some people DIED last night as a direct result of the storm throwing trees onto where they were!  And this dude wants to complain because he has to sweat?!?!?  Be grateful he is ALIVE to sweat!!!!  GEEZ!!!!!!

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« Reply #3596 on: June 30, 2012, 01:36:01 PM »
Glad to hear you're OK. I've had a quite a few folks to check on. STAY AS COOL AS YOU CAN! The heat will break sooner or later.
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #3597 on: July 02, 2012, 07:07:18 AM »
Bones? No power yet?
I've heard some of the suburbs are starting to get power; haven't checked in w/Baltimore for a day. Didn't want to drain her cell phone.
Did it cool off there, like it did here last night? Pretty bad when 90 sounds "cool", huh?
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #3598 on: July 02, 2012, 09:24:42 AM »
Bones? No power yet?
I've heard some of the suburbs are starting to get power; haven't checked in w/Baltimore for a day. Didn't want to drain her cell phone.
Did it cool off there, like it did here last night? Pretty bad when 90 sounds "cool", huh?

Thanks, P.R.

The electricity kept fluctuating with the power company turning it on, then off, then on, then off again.  Drove my neighbors nuts and they were either banging on my door or calling my cellphone asking me what was going on and why.  As it turned out, several members of my CERT group were called out for deployment and I was one of the team.  This was my very first experience working in an actual Emergency Operations Center.  I had studied it, in theory, when I was taking classes to become qualified to do this and now I had the opportunity to actually see it in action.  My team helped to answer the phones to refer storm victims to various resources nearby.

One caller did NOT like the answer she was getting and kept calling back in the hope of getting the answer she wanted.  (Never happened.)  She called in to inform us that a tree had fallen onto her vehicle and it was completely totaled.  Unfortunately, she only had liability insurance on it and she also made it a point to tell us she is a renter, not a home owner.  Then she demanded that she be given restitution for her totaled vehicle!   :shock: :?  (Huh?  *Scratches head*)  It was explained that the EOC is unable to provide that kind of assistance.  She did NOT like that answer and demanded to speak to someone higher up!  (At the time she called, all of the higher ups were in the midst of a conference call with other officials across the state to coordinate what needed to be done next for this emergency.)  The first CERT member informed her of this meeting and that she would get a call back as soon as this meeting concluded.  She did NOT like that answer either as she demanded IMMEDIATE RESTITUTION!  She hangs up and immediately redials, hoping to get a different person with the answer she wanted.  That's when the second CERT member picked up the phone and had to give her the same answer as the first CERT member.  (We were all sitting together, taking turns answering the one phone so that no one would get burnt out and we could brainstorm possible solutions to this one headache.)  Needless to say, the caller did NOT like the answer she got from the second CERT member and DEMANDED that we pull the supervisor out of the meeting IMMEDIATELY because she was entitled to an answer NOW!   :? :?  The second CERT member calmly explained, again, that the supervisor could not be interrupted and that she would get a return call as soon as the meeting was over.  She hangs up and immediately calls back a THIRD time and I was the lucky one to get her.  (By then, I had become familiar with her scenario and recognized the call as soon as she started up with me.)  I told her to "please hold while I consult with other emergency workers", which placated her temporarily, and CERT member number two picked up the phone and explained, AGAIN, that she would get a call back as soon as the meeting concluded.  About a minute after that call, our supervisor returned and we filled him in on what was going on with this one caller.  (I did not envy his having to call her back as I knew that she was NOT going to like the answer she was going to get......the EOC is NOT in a position to GIVE her a NEW vehicle for free!  She gambled with purchasing only liability insurance and, unfortunately, she lost the bet!)  *Shakes head*

BTW, here is today's "Dear Abby".  Sounds like it is themed on N's!

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20120702

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #3599 on: July 02, 2012, 05:19:12 PM »
Jeez. What is with some people? Entitled, entitled, entitled... and of course, they've done nothing wrong - and were obviously not taught basic etiquette or human decency either. Good on you for putting up with it - while at the same time putting out real help.
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