Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[BonesMS]

Their advice is particularly bad today.  Why do you bother reading them?  They only upset you.

I read the Below-the-Line comments as they seem to have more intelligence than the "Annie's".  How the "Annie's" got their job, God only knows!

[BonesMS]

Today's "Dear Margo":

http://www.creators.com/advice/dear-margo/not-everyone-is-looking-for-a-mate.html

[BonesMS]

Today's "Dear Margo" sounds familiar:

http://www.creators.com/advice/dear-margo/time-to-accept-a-closed-door.html

[BonesMS]

The first letter in "Annie's Mailbox" today is a DOOZIE!

http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/considering-allie.html

"Allie" sounds like an N now and the parents sound like enabling co-N's who seem hell-bent on trashing, if not destroying, a wedding if it doesn't focus on Allie at ALL times at ALL costs.  (This has been going on since the letter writer was TEN YEARS OLD.  Now the letter writer is an adult, getting married, trying to plan a wedding with NO help from her dysfunctional FOO and getting crap.)

[BonesMS]

As I was watching this episode on TV yesterday evening,

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0505247/

I recognized several elements of NPD in the character of Charlie Burnside....Narcissistic Supply from others, making everything about himself, displaying Narcissistic Rage when someone dared to defy him.......I think we all know the drill.

[BonesMS]

checking in..................

[BonesMS]

touching base..........................

[BonesMS]

Today's "Annie's Mailbox":

http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/scissors-at-the-ready.html

[BonesMS]

checking in..........................

[Redhead Erin]

Here is a much better class of advice column. 

http://therumpus.net/2012/05/dear-sugar-the-rumpus-advice-column-98-monsters-and-ghosts/

[BonesMS]

Here is a much better class of advice column. 

http://therumpus.net/2012/05/dear-sugar-the-rumpus-advice-column-98-monsters-and-ghosts/

okay.......................................

[Hopalong]

I think that "Sugar" column is absolutely breathtaking.

Thank you, Erin.

(((((((((Bones))))))))

Hops

[BonesMS]

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[BonesMS]

Having the Right to Say "NO"

I've been feeling under the weather for a bit after having a mild asthma flare-up.  One of the things I've learned, when dealing with health issues, is that when my body says:  "REST!", I stay home and rest.

Yesterday evening, I received an e-mail from a neighbor, (not a friend, only an acquaintance), wanting me to drop what I was doing and meet "privately" with her.  (She has consistently demonstrated that she cannot be trusted as she LOVES to stir up trouble and act self-important while doing so.)  Rather than go into any details about my health, (which is NONE of her business), I told her I was busy and stated that whatever she wanted to discuss could easily be done via e-mail.  She quickly responded with:  "Never mind!"

Her Modus Operandi is to say crap to someone's face then disavow she said it later.  (Can't disavow it when and if it is written in an e-mail.)  I don't have time for that kind of nonsense.  It feels good to practice saying "NO" when the situation calls for it.

BTW, here's today's "Dear Abby":

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20120720

[BonesMS]

Today's "Dear Margo":

http://www.creators.com/advice/dear-margo/unacceptable-behavior.html