Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[BonesMS]

Today's "Annie's Mailbox":

http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/cleaning-the-office-frat-house-style.html

[BonesMS]

Today's "Dear Abby":

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20130411

[BonesMS]

Today's "Dear Prudence":

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2013/04/dear_prudence_my_wife_s_personality_has_changed_since_going_on_paxil.html

[BonesMS]

My computer crashed yesterday and there is a problem with the hard drive.  It appears I may have to replace my computer but I don't have the funds to do that.   

I don't know when I'm going to have computer access again.  I'm at the library right now and I'm limited as to how much I can do. The library's system automatically kicks me off and won't let me log in again for another 24-hours.   

[BonesMS]

Still working on the computer situation.

[sKePTiKal]

Unless something just "gave out" on your hard drive...

a lot of times, I've found that once they get more than 1/2 full... they start having issues!! In that case, backing up files to a jump drive, CD, or an external hard drive, is the first step.

THEN, go on and delete those files off the internal drive. Once you've "cleaned up" everything... then defragment the drive. This can take awhile depending on how many times you've saved documents, pictures, etc... then deleted them.

I HOPE it's something simple like this. There are a bunch of other things that could go wrong; BUT usually an expert can save what you have on the hard drive, even if you can't get to it from the computer yourself. I'll keep my fingers crossed for ya!!

[BonesMS]

Unless something just "gave out" on your hard drive...

a lot of times, I've found that once they get more than 1/2 full... they start having issues!! In that case, backing up files to a jump drive, CD, or an external hard drive, is the first step.

THEN, go on and delete those files off the internal drive. Once you've "cleaned up" everything... then defragment the drive. This can take awhile depending on how many times you've saved documents, pictures, etc... then deleted them.

I HOPE it's something simple like this. There are a bunch of other things that could go wrong; BUT usually an expert can save what you have on the hard drive, even if you can't get to it from the computer yourself. I'll keep my fingers crossed for ya!!

Fortunately, I had most of what I needed backed up.  The hard drive problem is more serious and the old laptop won't boot up at all.  It looks like I'll have to have a professional take a closer look at it and see what can be done.

[BonesMS]

Still trying to track down what I need on the computer that another friend gave me as a stop-gap measure.

[BonesMS]

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2013/04/dear_prudence_our_son_is_graduating_college_and_wants_our_mentally_disabled.html

Catching up on Advice Columns.

[BonesMS]

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2013/04/dear_prudence_i_lied_on_my_resume_about_my_education.html

*Shaking my head*   

[BonesMS]

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20130421

Catching up on "Dear Abby".

[BonesMS]

http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/backstabbing-friends-with-influence.html

*shaking my head*

[BonesMS]

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2013/04/dear_prudence_my_breasts_have_grown_larger_after_breast_feeding_to_my_dismay.html

Today's "Dear Prudence".

[BonesMS]

This is thought provoking!!!!

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/family/2013/02/abusive_parents_what_do_grown_children_owe_the_mothers_and_fathers_who_made.html

[Meh]

I really like this article Bones, Thank you for posting it, it pretty much describes at some points how I feel also about my parents. Warren Buffett says It's a waste.

The thing I identify with in the article at the moment is how her mother told her not to have children.

There was always that message in my family also that having children was a bad burden, and not having children makes life better somehow.
A very flat perspective of family/children.

I wonder how I would have felt about having children had I grown up in a pro-child household. Shrug...always wonder about these things.

Yah, that is an interesting read, one therapist I had years ago said that re-connecting with my father would help me with my other relationships...though I really don't think so and this article seems to say it is bad to re-connect.

So exhausting, conflicting advice everywhere. Kind of comforting reading about Lincoln's lack of involvement in his father's death and funeral.