Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[BonesMS]

Feeling aggravated as a second crown has fallen out while I was brushing my teeth.  Seeing the dentist tomorrow to get them put back in and find out WHY they keep falling out!

More aggravation!  NOW I have to find a new dentist!  I hope to find one closer to home that can work with retirees on a fixed income.

Conversation in dentist's office yesterday:

Staff person:  Your new treatment plan will cost about $2,000.

Me:  What?!?  What EXACTLY is in this new "treatment plan"?  I look at the details and noticed that one of the expensive items that they want to charge me for is finishing the implant that my insurance and I have ALREADY PAID FOR!  I point this out and get told:

Staff person:  Oh, no, no, no!  You're wrong!  You have to pay since your insurance won't pay to have it finished.

Me:  That does NOT make any sense!  You're telling me that my insurance paid to have the procedure started but WON'T pay to have it completed?  Then the dentist walks in as I'm asking this question.

Dentist:  Well, that's just the way insurance companies are.

Me:  I am a retiree depending on a FIXED income.  I'm dealing with the aftermath of flood damage and a hot water heater that has to be replaced.  My pension CANNOT stretch any further and I CANNOT pay $2,000 up front for a long list of procedures that hasn't been done yet!

Staff person:  Put it on a credit card.

Me:  You're NOT listening.  This is a debt that I CANNOT afford!  I have NO way to pay this!  I am TAPPED OUT!  My pension can NO longer stretch!

Staff person:  But it's only $50.00 a month.

Me:  You're NOT listening.  This is a debt that I CANNOT afford!  My pension CANNOT be stretched to pay that!  I CANNOT pay a $2,000 debt with money that I do NOT have!

Dentist:  Well, come back when you can pay for this.

By this point, I'm smelling a rat with double-dipping which is why I suspect my insurance company is balking at paying AGAIN for the implant that has already been paid for.  I can understand prioritizing the list, choosing the item that is most important, and focusing on getting that ONE item taken care of.  But a $2,000 package with a LONG list of items, to be paid for up front, BEFORE they will even look at a cracked tooth, or a crown that needs to be replaced....that just feels obscene.  With my other health issues going on, I could find myself in a position of being unable to finish the procedures....the dentist gets paid for work that was NEVER done...and I get left holding the bag without any expectation of a refund for work that was NEVER done?  I think it's time to look for a new dentist, closer to home, that is willing to  work with senior citizens on a fixed income.   

Finally was able to speak with someone at my dental insurance yesterday.  Come to find out that my insurance WILL pay to complete the implant!  They were just as puzzled as I am about why I was being given the "song and dance" by my now EX-dentist and his staff.  Bottom line:  My now EX-dentist and his staff LIED to me!  Once you start lying in order to double-dip, (getting BOTH insurance payment PLUS 100% payment from your patient(s) instead of the 50%), you're done!  If I can't trust you, as my doctor or dentist, to do the right thing, you are FINISHED and you are FIRED!

[Twoapenny]

http://www.creators.com/advice/dear-margo/oh-what-lovely-feet-you-have-my-dear-2013-08-16.html

YIKES!!!!   

That first one is disgusting, she should have walked out of there right there and then.  What a revolting old man.  The second one sounds like she needs to call Children's Services if they're younger siblings?  If not then I guess they've got the same opportunities she's got and can get out like she did?

[BonesMS]

http://www.creators.com/advice/dear-margo/oh-what-lovely-feet-you-have-my-dear-2013-08-16.html

YIKES!!!!   

That first one is disgusting, she should have walked out of there right there and then.  What a revolting old man.  The second one sounds like she needs to call Children's Services if they're younger siblings?  If not then I guess they've got the same opportunities she's got and can get out like she did?

The first one sounds like she is really young and doesn't understand that sexual harassment is ILLEGAL!!!  Someone my age would have spotted that and probably would do enough damage to make him squeak a few octaves higher!  THEN I would have walked out!  Madea anyone?

The siblings of the second one sound like they are adults given employment issues, etc.  There will never be enough money to fix THAT mess!

[BonesMS]

http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/serious-symptoms-warrant-a-doctor-s-opinion-not-a-spouse-s.html

The columnists are REALLY stupid TODAY!!!   

[BonesMS]

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20130817

[BonesMS]

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[BonesMS]

http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/hospice-nurse-offers-a-little-too-much-comfort.html

[BonesMS]

Just got home from a CERT exercise.  I was surprised that I was made a leader of the medical team.  The two members that were assigned to me attempted to do their own thing and it felt like I was attempting to herd cats.  One finally got the message of what the expectations were.  The other one ignored me, left, then tried to come back and I told him that since I could not rely on him to follow directions involving medical responsibilities, then don't waste my time.  I told him to make himself useful somewhere else.

It felt different and, at the same time, it felt good.  I don't know how else to describe it.

[Twoapenny]

Just got home from a CERT exercise.  I was surprised that I was made a leader of the medical team.  The two members that were assigned to me attempted to do their own thing and it felt like I was attempting to herd cats.  One finally got the message of what the expectations were.  The other one ignored me, left, then tried to come back and I told him that since I could not rely on him to follow directions involving medical responsibilities, then don't waste my time.  I told him to make himself useful somewhere else.

It felt different and, at the same time, it felt good.  I don't know how else to describe it.

Sounds good, Bonesie, sounds good

[BonesMS]

Just got home from a CERT exercise.  I was surprised that I was made a leader of the medical team.  The two members that were assigned to me attempted to do their own thing and it felt like I was attempting to herd cats.  One finally got the message of what the expectations were.  The other one ignored me, left, then tried to come back and I told him that since I could not rely on him to follow directions involving medical responsibilities, then don't waste my time.  I told him to make himself useful somewhere else.

It felt different and, at the same time, it felt good.  I don't know how else to describe it.

Sounds good, Bonesie, sounds good

Thanks, (((((((((((((((((Tupp)))))))))))))))))

[BonesMS]

http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/living-in-oblivion.html

[BonesMS]

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[Hopalong]

Bones, I am SO happy your dental work is going to be covered!

I am joyfully imagining a big Bones GRIN.

xxoo
Hops

[BonesMS]

Bones, I am SO happy your dental work is going to be covered!

I am joyfully imagining a big Bones GRIN.

xxoo
Hops

Thanks, Hops.

I'll be meeting with the new dentist next Monday.  I hope to get this resolved soon as it's uncomfortable to eat.

[BonesMS]

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2013/08/dear_prudence_my_niece_is_about_to_marry_my_secret_son_by_an_affair.html