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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #5161 on: November 21, 2013, 07:20:47 AM »
http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2013/11/dear_prudence_my_husband_played_pen_pal_with_prisoners_for_years.html

Regarding that first letter......OH @#$%!!!!!!!!   :shock:

The last letter might have triggers for survivors.
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« Reply #5162 on: November 21, 2013, 10:03:32 PM »
Yikers.
Husband must be lonely or need to feel important, and in a way, it was unfair to the released prisoners, who need someone who CAN follow through. They've got plenty on their plates already (as does this wife).

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« Reply #5163 on: November 22, 2013, 04:02:40 AM »
Yikers.
Husband must be lonely or need to feel important, and in a way, it was unfair to the released prisoners, who need someone who CAN follow through. They've got plenty on their plates already (as does this wife).

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Yeah.  I would NOT blame the wife if she packed up herself and her kids and got out of there!  The husband is an absolute IDIOT! 
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« Reply #5166 on: November 22, 2013, 10:30:54 AM »
Having PTSD flashbacks about what took place 50 years ago on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday.  On Friday, President Kennedy was assassinated.  On Saturday, my brother was shot, (he survived).  On Sunday, I watched Lee Harvey Oswald get murdered on live television.  I was only eleven years old but I got punished by NWomb-Donor because I got upset and cried.  I realize now, how much her priorities were SCREWED!!!!



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« Reply #5167 on: November 23, 2013, 05:21:20 AM »
http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20131123

Today's letter might have triggers for anyone with a history of self-mutilation and struggling with depression.

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« Reply #5168 on: November 23, 2013, 05:25:32 AM »
http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/dead-at-7.html

How can older drivers be in DENIAL when their vision and reflexes have changed with age?  I know my vision has changed, which is WHY I've cut WAY BACK on my own driving and have been trying to arrange for alternate transportation whenever and wherever possible.  I know the day will come when I will have to relinquish my keys and THAT is a REALITY.

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« Reply #5169 on: November 23, 2013, 06:31:36 AM »
Having PTSD flashbacks about what took place 50 years ago on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday.  On Friday, President Kennedy was assassinated.  On Saturday, my brother was shot, (he survived).  On Sunday, I watched Lee Harvey Oswald get murdered on live television.  I was only eleven years old but I got punished by NWomb-Donor because I got upset and cried.  I realize now, how much her priorities were SCREWED!!!!





Oh Bones, what a lot to be having to relive.  I hope this passes for you and you can come through the other side, it's horrible when those memories demand your attention and make you go through those moments again.  ((((((((((((((((((((((((Bones))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

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« Reply #5170 on: November 23, 2013, 06:34:11 AM »
http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/dead-at-7.html

How can older drivers be in DENIAL when their vision and reflexes have changed with age?  I know my vision has changed, which is WHY I've cut WAY BACK on my own driving and have been trying to arrange for alternate transportation whenever and wherever possible.  I know the day will come when I will have to relinquish my keys and THAT is a REALITY.



Yep, I find driving at night a problem now (and in the UK it's dark at 4 in the winter so it's night for quite a lot of the time).  The next place we move to will be a big town with good bus links so that I don't have to do it anymore!

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« Reply #5171 on: November 23, 2013, 06:43:45 AM »
Having PTSD flashbacks about what took place 50 years ago on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday.  On Friday, President Kennedy was assassinated.  On Saturday, my brother was shot, (he survived).  On Sunday, I watched Lee Harvey Oswald get murdered on live television.  I was only eleven years old but I got punished by NWomb-Donor because I got upset and cried.  I realize now, how much her priorities were SCREWED!!!!





Oh Bones, what a lot to be having to relive.  I hope this passes for you and you can come through the other side, it's horrible when those memories demand your attention and make you go through those moments again.  ((((((((((((((((((((((((Bones))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Thanks, ((((((((((((((((((((Tupp))))))))))))

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« Reply #5172 on: November 23, 2013, 06:47:06 AM »
http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/dead-at-7.html

How can older drivers be in DENIAL when their vision and reflexes have changed with age?  I know my vision has changed, which is WHY I've cut WAY BACK on my own driving and have been trying to arrange for alternate transportation whenever and wherever possible.  I know the day will come when I will have to relinquish my keys and THAT is a REALITY.



Yep, I find driving at night a problem now (and in the UK it's dark at 4 in the winter so it's night for quite a lot of the time).  The next place we move to will be a big town with good bus links so that I don't have to do it anymore!

I hear ya, Tupp!

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #5173 on: November 24, 2013, 05:56:52 AM »
Tupp,

May I ask a silly question?

Being on this side of the Great Pond, I'm not too familiar with the various holiday foods in England.  I've seen Plum Pudding which looks like cake to me.  In England, what is the difference between English Puddings and cakes?

Thanks for indulging me in this.
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« Reply #5174 on: November 24, 2013, 09:59:04 AM »
Tupp,

May I ask a silly question?

Being on this side of the Great Pond, I'm not too familiar with the various holiday foods in England.  I've seen Plum Pudding which looks like cake to me.  In England, what is the difference between English Puddings and cakes?

Thanks for indulging me in this.

Ooh Bonesie that's a good question!  I'm not an expert but I think it's that a pudding is steamed whilst a cake is baked in the oven.  I think steamed puddings tend to be a bit heavier and more dense than oven baked cakes, although I have heard that people are making plum pudding cake now which is the ingredients of plum pudding but it's baked rather than steamed, if that makes sense!  All taste equally delicious if you ask me :)