Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[BonesMS]

holy carp, LOL Bones wow, that was some really good comic relief   

I had NO idea how BIZARRE a boss could get!   

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Checking in.

[BonesMS]

This must be the year for N's to come out of hiding and start bugging us again!   

I heard a knock on my door a few moments ago.  I called out, thinking it was one of my neighbors in my condo building, and I heard someone going up the stairs instead.  When I opened my door, I found a stack of Christmas presents, in fancy wrap, on my doormat.  When I opened up the card that came with these gifts, I was NOT happy!!!  The gifts were from NDOOFUS!!!!  How she got inside a secure building with a security system, I have NO idea!

Then she writes inside the card:  "(Bones), Refuse the gifts because they're too little - or give them to (Mr. Blue).  Thinking of you this Christmas - God Bless You!"

What IS it with this passive-aggressive stuff?!?!?!   

I got rid of everything she dumped on my doorstep.  Even Mr. Blue didn't want any of it because it was clearly CRAP!  NDoofus may have wrapped it all up in the fanciest gift wrap possible but CRAP wrapped in fanciness is STILL CRAP!!!!  She's probably expecting me to break my NC and call her to "thank" her for the "gifts".  I'm still remaining NC and she can go SCREW herself!

[BonesMS]

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[BonesMS]

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20131229

I'd tell these so-called "relatives" to EFF OFF!!!  It's NONE of their business!!!!

[Twoapenny]

This must be the year for N's to come out of hiding and start bugging us again!   

I heard a knock on my door a few moments ago.  I called out, thinking it was one of my neighbors in my condo building, and I heard someone going up the stairs instead.  When I opened my door, I found a stack of Christmas presents, in fancy wrap, on my doormat.  When I opened up the card that came with these gifts, I was NOT happy!!!  The gifts were from NDOOFUS!!!!  How she got inside a secure building with a security system, I have NO idea!

Then she writes inside the card:  "(Bones), Refuse the gifts because they're too little - or give them to (Mr. Blue).  Thinking of you this Christmas - God Bless You!"

What IS it with this passive-aggressive stuff?!?!?!   

I got rid of everything she dumped on my doorstep.  Even Mr. Blue didn't want any of it because it was clearly CRAP!  NDoofus may have wrapped it all up in the fanciest gift wrap possible but CRAP wrapped in fanciness is STILL CRAP!!!!  She's probably expecting me to break my NC and call her to "thank" her for the "gifts".  I'm still remaining NC and she can go SCREW herself!

Oh Bonesie.  Is that one of your rellies or a former friend?  I can never get my head around that sort of thing.  I remember one year my mum gave me this beautiful hand crafted gift bag.  It looked like the sort of thing you'd put a silk scarf in, or a piece of jewellery, something really classy and elegant.  Inside was a three pack of socks, with the price tag still on, £3.99.  Passive aggressive messages abound!  Ignore is the best thing, I think, as you're doing.  Hope the rest of your week has been okay xx

[BonesMS]

This must be the year for N's to come out of hiding and start bugging us again!   

I heard a knock on my door a few moments ago.  I called out, thinking it was one of my neighbors in my condo building, and I heard someone going up the stairs instead.  When I opened my door, I found a stack of Christmas presents, in fancy wrap, on my doormat.  When I opened up the card that came with these gifts, I was NOT happy!!!  The gifts were from NDOOFUS!!!!  How she got inside a secure building with a security system, I have NO idea!

Then she writes inside the card:  "(Bones), Refuse the gifts because they're too little - or give them to (Mr. Blue).  Thinking of you this Christmas - God Bless You!"

What IS it with this passive-aggressive stuff?!?!?!   

I got rid of everything she dumped on my doorstep.  Even Mr. Blue didn't want any of it because it was clearly CRAP!  NDoofus may have wrapped it all up in the fanciest gift wrap possible but CRAP wrapped in fanciness is STILL CRAP!!!!  She's probably expecting me to break my NC and call her to "thank" her for the "gifts".  I'm still remaining NC and she can go SCREW herself!

Oh Bonesie.  Is that one of your rellies or a former friend?  I can never get my head around that sort of thing.  I remember one year my mum gave me this beautiful hand crafted gift bag.  It looked like the sort of thing you'd put a silk scarf in, or a piece of jewellery, something really classy and elegant.  Inside was a three pack of socks, with the price tag still on, £3.99.  Passive aggressive messages abound!  Ignore is the best thing, I think, as you're doing.  Hope the rest of your week has been okay xx

Thanks, Tupp.

NDoofus is the former friend who created a mess at my graduation back in 2007.  I've been NC for nearly five years now.  Based on the description of your mum and this NDoofus, they sound like twins separated at birth!  They both do the same crap by "gifting" crap in fancy wrap with Passive-aggressive messages!   

[BonesMS]

Regarding the box of rotting fruit that she dumped on my doorstep.  The box was from a company named "Harry and David".  I have NO idea how long she hung onto that box of fruit, after it was gifted to her, before she decided to dump it on me.  I've looked up the company and their prices are NOT cheap!  She would NEVER pay that kind of price for a gift to someone who has been NC as long as I have.  Typical N-CRAP!!!!   

[Meh]

Can you like take it back to her and leave the rotten stuff on her porch?   

currently my mother and father don't have my address any longer they kind of lost my trust a long time ago etc. so they can't mail me anything, they can not show up unannounced or even be "coincidentally" in the neighborhood. It's their own doing.

My mother actually gave me her used underwear if it makes you feel any better  

[Meh]

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20131229

I'd tell these so-called "relatives" to EFF OFF!!!  It's NONE of their business!!!!

Yah with the hair dresser situation it's kind of like whatever. The lady shouldn't have to fire her hair stylist of 17 years.

LOL:  "eat before you go and go as infrequently as possible"   all because people don't have good dining manners 

[Twoapenny]

Can you like take it back to her and leave the rotten stuff on her porch?   

currently my mother and father don't have my address any longer they kind of lost my trust a long time ago etc. so they can't mail me anything, they can not show up unannounced or even be "coincidentally" in the neighborhood. It's their own doing.

My mother actually gave me her used underwear if it makes you feel any better  

Green, I don't know whether to laugh or cry.  WTF?   

[BonesMS]

Can you like take it back to her and leave the rotten stuff on her porch?    

currently my mother and father don't have my address any longer they kind of lost my trust a long time ago etc. so they can't mail me anything, they can not show up unannounced or even be "coincidentally" in the neighborhood. It's their own doing.

My mother actually gave me her used underwear if it makes you feel any better  

It's already been tossed in the garbage and hauled away.  Even going over to NDoofus' neighborhood would give her the attention she craves and trying to force me to give her ... which would break the NC.  I think I figured out what she actually did as I could not find that particular box listed individually.  It was a box of six comice pears that WERE PART of a gift tower she received, possibly from her financially well-off sister and brother-in-law, that included chocolate covered cherries, popcorn, mixed nuts, and other goodies.  She did NOT want the pears, but hung onto them for awhile until they started to turn mushy and smell strong.  Then she wrapped that rotting garbage in fancy wrap and dumped them on my doorstep.  


Used underwear?!?!?!?!   EEEWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!  That NWomb-Donor is indescribable!!!!