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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #5970 on: July 23, 2014, 10:01:18 PM »
Made one of my neighbors very unhappy today.  Several neighbors and I were in the pool, one of my neighbors has a one-year-old, and, unfortunately, the baby threw up in the pool.  The baby's mother tried to cover it up and not let the lifeguard know but I informed the lifeguard anyway, which forced him to order everyone out of the water until he dealt with the bio-hazard as he is required to do.  (That's his job.)  She tried to debate the issue and another neighbor and I tried to explain that bio-hazards are not to be taken lightly.  She packed up her infant and left.  Oh well ... what can you do?

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« Reply #5974 on: July 24, 2014, 10:58:11 AM »
Re: the neighbor in the pool - some people are easier than others.  Toddler and infant mothers are so used to dealing with excretions that they lose perspective and pool draining must seem like a major undertaking for small potatoes but for most others the rules provide protection. You can take comfort in this one for sure.

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #5975 on: July 24, 2014, 11:00:23 AM »
Re: the neighbor in the pool - some people are easier than others.  Toddler and infant mothers are so used to dealing with excretions that they lose perspective and pool draining must seem like a major undertaking for small potatoes but for most others the rules provide protection. You can take comfort in this one for sure.

Thanks, GS. 

It's one thing if the baby spit up on her, outside of the pool.  It's a whole different ballgame when it happens, in the water, and there are others who are affected by it.  Not fun.
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #5976 on: July 24, 2014, 01:58:15 PM »
Totally different Bones, totally different. Sort f like picking somebody else's dog's poop.

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« Reply #5977 on: July 24, 2014, 02:06:50 PM »
Totally different Bones, totally different. Sort f like picking somebody else's dog's poop.

Exactly!!  NASTY!!!!   :x
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #5978 on: July 24, 2014, 02:14:30 PM »
I don't envy the lifeguard his job when he has to enforce the rules at a relatively small pool.  One of the rules, that the condo board, asked the pool company to enforce, was to stop residents of dumping their underage kids at the pool and leaving with the expectation that the lifeguard was going to babysit their kids for them.  That is NOT what we are paying the lifeguard to do.  The rule, that is now in place, is that no child under the age of 12 is to be left at the pool without a parent/guardian with them at all times.  One parent tried to do an 'end-run" around this rule and finally got caught.  (One of the lifeguards was too easy-going and let her slide.)  We had a substitute lifeguard, who did not know her, did not know her children, and did what he was paid to do ... enforce the rules about no underage children without a parent/guardian.  Well, this parent threw a tantrum because the lifeguard DARED to say NO to what she wanted to do.  Her tantrum got so bad that the lifeguard called his supervisor and the supervisor showed up and reminded her of the pool rules.  She hasn't brought her kids back since.

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« Reply #5979 on: July 24, 2014, 03:09:40 PM »
Spotted this on Facebook and made me think that this university student must have encountered an N!  GEEZ!!!!:


"If anyone ever had any doubt, this jaw-dropper from "Not Always Right" illustrates exactly what the religious right is all about:

(I’m working in the deli section of my store part-time and studying computer science at a local university. Tomorrow I have an exam and it’s making it hard to concentrate at work, as the elderly woman I’m serving notices.)

Customer: “Excuse me, young man. I said I wanted the smoked ham, not the honey ham.”

Me: “Oh, I’m sorry about that. I’m just a little distracted. Smoked ham coming right up.”

Customer: “You really should pay closer attention to your work.”

Me: “Yes, ma’am. I just have an exam tomorrow and it’s a little hard to concentrate.”

Customer: “You look a little old to still be in high school.”

Me: “I’m not in high school. I’m studying computer science at [University].”

Customer: “[University]? Oh, no, no, no. That won’t do at all.”

Me: *stopping slicing* “Excuse me?”

Customer: “Oh, honey, you need to leave that university right away. You’re not smart enough to go to college.”

Me: “Uh…”

Customer: “If you were, you wouldn’t be working here. Besides, God ordained you to be part of the servant class. The purpose of your life is to serve the good people, like me.”

(My jaw is hanging open.)

Customer: “You need to invest yourself totally in your work here. This is what people like you were meant for. You should never try to rise above your station. You’ll make God very angry.”

Me: “…well. I’m just going to step away from my ‘station’ for a moment. [Coworker], could you give me a hand here? I really need to step out.”

(I walked into the cooler, closed the door all the way, and didn’t come back until the customer had gone and I had calmed down.)"



That young man had more patience than me!  That customer had some NERVE!!!  She HAD to be an N!!!!   :P
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #5982 on: July 26, 2014, 09:14:48 AM »
Had a really rough day yesterday ... first dealing with an emergency affecting my 81-year-old neighbor then, in the middle of that emergency, I get hit with an attack of spastic colitis/possible kidney stone that bent me double.  NOT fun!

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #5983 on: July 26, 2014, 11:06:27 AM »
Sorry to hear that Bones.  How are you today?

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« Reply #5984 on: July 26, 2014, 11:18:58 AM »
Sorry to hear that Bones.  How are you today?

Taking things slow this morning.  I still have more follow-up to do.

Thanks, GS.
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