Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[BonesMS]

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[BonesMS]

checking in.....

[Hopalong]

ho-ho Bones--you were up early!
Sleep's not very easy for me either, drives me crazy.

More walking helps but it still ain't right.
xo
Hops

[BonesMS]

ho-ho Bones--you were up early!
Sleep's not very easy for me either, drives me crazy.

More walking helps but it still ain't right.
xo
Hops

Thanks, Hops.

[BonesMS]

I just stumbled across a Facebook message from my brother, to a former classmate of his, where I learned that he is now disabled and had to go to Canada for surgery.  I went ahead and sent him a private message telling him that I hope things are getting better for him.  If he responds with hostility, then it's on him. 

[BonesMS]

checking in....

[BonesMS]

I just stumbled across a Facebook message from my brother, to a former classmate of his, where I learned that he is now disabled and had to go to Canada for surgery.  I went ahead and sent him a private message telling him that I hope things are getting better for him.  If he responds with hostility, then it's on him. 

Yesterday, I sent a message to my brother via Facebook.

Today, I get word that he died yesterday from cancer.

This year has been HELL!

[BonesMS]

I just stumbled across a Facebook message from my brother, to a former classmate of his, where I learned that he is now disabled and had to go to Canada for surgery.  I went ahead and sent him a private message telling him that I hope things are getting better for him.  If he responds with hostility, then it's on him. 

Yesterday, I sent a message to my brother via Facebook.

Today, I get word that he died yesterday from cancer.

This year has been HELL!

And....the family DYSFUNCTION continues......

After trying to find out how to contact my brother's ex-wife and getting the blow-off, the same family member who informed me that my brother has died proceeds to tell me that he finds my "opinions" on my genealogy tree "offensive".  My response?  "My tree is no longer public.  I'm sorry you feel that way.  I thought we could mend fences in our old age."

I'm DONE with their BULLSHIT!  SCREW THEM!!!!

[BonesMS]

I just stumbled across a Facebook message from my brother, to a former classmate of his, where I learned that he is now disabled and had to go to Canada for surgery.  I went ahead and sent him a private message telling him that I hope things are getting better for him.  If he responds with hostility, then it's on him. 

Yesterday, I sent a message to my brother via Facebook.

Today, I get word that he died yesterday from cancer.

This year has been HELL!

And....the family DYSFUNCTION continues......

After trying to find out how to contact my brother's ex-wife and getting the blow-off, the same family member who informed me that my brother has died proceeds to tell me that he finds my "opinions" on my genealogy tree "offensive".  My response?  "My tree is no longer public.  I'm sorry you feel that way.  I thought we could mend fences in our old age."

I'm DONE with their BULLSHIT!  SCREW THEM!!!!

NOW he wants to introduce me to his kids!!!!  WHAT GIVES?!?!?!?!?!?

[Hopalong]

Hmmm.
Maybe by saying he'd like to introduce you to his kids, he actually means he noticed what you said about mending fences.
Maybe this is his way to respond to that...but he's offering an action (let's have you meet my kids) instead of words.

Could be a good thing?

Hope so,
Hops

[BonesMS]

Hmmm.
Maybe by saying he'd like to introduce you to his kids, he actually means he noticed what you said about mending fences.
Maybe this is his way to respond to that...but he's offering an action (let's have you meet my kids) instead of words.

Could be a good thing?

Hope so,
Hops

At this point, I'm no longer interested.  When NWomb-Donor died, I attempted to maintain contact with this family member only to have the phone slammed down in my ear.  When his brother, my other nephew, died in 2013, he and his other brothers didn't bother to inform me when they notified my brother.  His excuse?  He "assumed" I already knew. How in the HELL does he expect me to automatically know?  Telepathy?  This dysfunctional crap has gone on for so long that I am TIRED of it!  I've got better things to do with my time and energy than to deal with phonies I cannot trust.  I refuse to put his kids in the middle of his crap!

[BonesMS]

Hmmm.
Maybe by saying he'd like to introduce you to his kids, he actually means he noticed what you said about mending fences.
Maybe this is his way to respond to that...but he's offering an action (let's have you meet my kids) instead of words.

Could be a good thing?

Hope so,
Hops

At this point, I'm no longer interested.  When NWomb-Donor died, I attempted to maintain contact with this family member only to have the phone slammed down in my ear.  When his brother, my other nephew, died in 2013, he and his other brothers didn't bother to inform me when they notified my brother.  His excuse?  He "assumed" I already knew. How in the HELL does he expect me to automatically know?  Telepathy?  This dysfunctional crap has gone on for so long that I am TIRED of it!  I've got better things to do with my time and energy than to deal with phonies I cannot trust.  I refuse to put his kids in the middle of his crap!

One of the drawbacks to situations like this is having to notify other relatives, even if they are also dysfunctional.  It then becomes a damned if I do and damned if I don't scenario.  When I notified another cousin, he started to turn the conversation into a Tea Bigot Rant against Cousin Obama and I WAS NOT HAVING THAT!  SMACKDOWN!  I do NOT need more CRAP!

[Twoapenny]

I just stumbled across a Facebook message from my brother, to a former classmate of his, where I learned that he is now disabled and had to go to Canada for surgery.  I went ahead and sent him a private message telling him that I hope things are getting better for him.  If he responds with hostility, then it's on him. 

Yesterday, I sent a message to my brother via Facebook.

Today, I get word that he died yesterday from cancer.

This year has been HELL!

Aw Bones I was so sorry to read this.  I've not been getting online much so I'm a bit out of touch with posts and what have you so have been scrolling through and read about some of the other things that have happened and I'm so sorry that there has been so much hurt and sadness for you to deal with.  I'm so sorry that all of this has been coming into your life.  Sending cyber hugs from across the pond (it's times like this I wish we all 'knew' each other because sometimes a bloody big hug is the only thing that does any good).

((((((((((((((((((((((((Bones)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

[BonesMS]

I just stumbled across a Facebook message from my brother, to a former classmate of his, where I learned that he is now disabled and had to go to Canada for surgery.  I went ahead and sent him a private message telling him that I hope things are getting better for him.  If he responds with hostility, then it's on him. 

Yesterday, I sent a message to my brother via Facebook.

Today, I get word that he died yesterday from cancer.

This year has been HELL!

Aw Bones I was so sorry to read this.  I've not been getting online much so I'm a bit out of touch with posts and what have you so have been scrolling through and read about some of the other things that have happened and I'm so sorry that there has been so much hurt and sadness for you to deal with.  I'm so sorry that all of this has been coming into your life.  Sending cyber hugs from across the pond (it's times like this I wish we all 'knew' each other because sometimes a bloody big hug is the only thing that does any good).

((((((((((((((((((((((((Bones)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Thanks, (((((((((((((((((((((((((((Tupp)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Right now I need to be with people who understand because the rellies are just BATSHIT CRAZY!!!!!!

[Hopalong]

Oh (((((((((((((Bones))))))))))))))).

Relies. Ugh.

Friends. (((((((((Whew)))))))))

VESMB. Hallelujah.

Hang in there,
Hops