A 3-D friend of mine is having a rough time too. Yesterday, she got word that a good friend of hers was dying and that if she wanted the chance to say goodbye, to get to the nursing home ASAP. At the moment she got the news, she was preparing to pick me up a couple of hours later to go to a club meeting. She called me and asked if I was willing to be picked up earlier than planned, go with her to the nursing home to say goodbye to her dying friend, then go on to the club meeting. I told her I would be waiting and ready to help if needed.
We got to the nursing home and my friend asked me if I preferred to wait in the lobby as she knows I'm still struggling with the grief of losing my brother. I told her I would go with her as she shouldn't have to walk into that situation alone. We went into the room to say goodbye and I saw that her friend was already in a coma, with agonal breathing, and a clear death rattle that told me that death was imminent. I also saw my friend struggling not to cry as she stroked her friend's shoulder and spoke softly to her. We didn't stay long and as we walked back to the car, my friend expressed her gratitude that I stayed through this in spite of my own grief.
About four hours after we left, her friend quietly passed away. This year is starting out rough!
