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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #6662 on: April 10, 2015, 05:50:55 AM »
It seems so hard to make one's voice heard but I think I managed to make myself heard last night at a meeting.  The topic came up that during a previous meeting, another member put me on the spot by pointing me out to the entire room after I had specifically stated that I was NOT prepared to speak.  What made the situation more awkward was that we were all being videotaped and I didn't want to talk....at all....during this videotaped meeting.  I had stated BEFORE this meeting that I am NOT in a good place emotionally and, therefore, prefer to keep my thoughts to myself while we were being video-recorded.  (The recording would end up on the Internet.)  Having my request ignored really irritated me and not being able to confront this idiot, due to being videotaped added to my irritation.  Last night's meeting was private so I was able to speak my mind about what was done.  The person who violated my boundaries immediately started making excuses that "he didn't know"...."nobody told him", etc.  The chairperson pointed out to him that he HAD BEEN TOLD...TWICE....at the start of the meeting NOT to do what he did!  Then another person started trying to hand me a guilt trip for objecting and couldn't understand why I was upset.  I clearly stated my reasons...AGAIN.  Then the second person comments, "But....you can speak just fine.  What's the problem?"  I told her that the ONLY reason I managed to remain calm during that videotaped meeting was because I did NOT want my meltdown recorded and on the Internet IN PERPETUITY!!!!!  I made sure to state that I felt like my boundaries were violated and I DON'T LIKE THAT!  When I set a boundary, RESPECT MY BOUNDARY!  The person who put me on the spot apologized to me.  The second person just gave me the fish-eye but finally shut up.  SHEESH!!! 
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #6663 on: April 10, 2015, 11:56:41 AM »
I was not in a good mood anyway as earlier in the day, I had arranged a meeting to discuss the ramifications of the damages that had occurred throughout the community where we live.  The meeting was scheduled to start at 6:00 PM.  I arrived at the meeting place at 5:30 PM, with the documentation in hand that was to be discussed, and WAITED UNTIL 6:30 PM with NO sign of the person showing up.  I walked back to my home, which is about one to two MINUTES away to check and see if he tried to call me about an unexpected delay.  (Things happen.)  No sooner do I walk in my door and before I can check my caller ID, the phone rings and the dude is trying to hand me a song and dance about how he had been waiting for me for 20-30 minutes at the meeting place.  I BUSTED HIS CHOPS ABOUT THAT LIE!  Yeah, I was PISSED OFF!!!  He back-pedaled real fast!
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #6664 on: April 11, 2015, 05:52:30 AM »
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #6666 on: April 13, 2015, 07:20:51 AM »
While reading one of the BTL comments in "Dear Abby", one of the comments sent chills up my spine.  The commentator mentioned that she has a child who is allergic to peanuts and her in-laws want to "cure" him by giving him peanuts!!!!!   :shock:  What is WRONG with some of these people?!?!?!?!?!?
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« Reply #6667 on: April 13, 2015, 07:53:03 AM »
Yesterday, I was participating in a search and rescue exercise that was being recorded by the media.  At the outset, the Public Information Officer, (PIO), instructed the media NOT to approach or speak to individual participants in the search as they will be immediately directed back to the PIO; the search participants need to focus on the task at hand as we were coordinating the search using horses, bloodhounds, other breeds of dogs with a variety of skills, helicopter, police officers from different jurisdictions, and "ground-pounders".  What does one member of the media do, IMMEDIATELY after the meeting with the PIO concludes??????  The member of the media walks away from the PIO to an individual searcher and asks:  "Can I talk to you for a few minutes?  I want to discuss some questions."  The ding-dong was INSTANTLY directed BACK TO THE PIO!!!!!  What part of the word "No" did this media person NOT understand?!?!?!?!  GEEZ!!!!  *Shaking my head*  No wonder celebrities get pissed off after awhile with the media!!!!!  They just do NOT understand the concept of BOUNDARIES!!!!!

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« Reply #6668 on: April 14, 2015, 06:22:16 AM »
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« Reply #6669 on: April 14, 2015, 03:11:43 PM »
Sometimes, when I think I have seen or heard everything....something else comes along that has me scratching my head at the sheer STUPIDITY!!!!!!   :?

I get online this morning and spot an e-mail that was sent to me after 10:30 PM last night!  By then, I'm already in bed ASLEEP!  In the e-mail, which happened to be from my neighbor, they explain that they have been smelling a STRONG gas smell from the neighboring unit to theirs and they are afraid it might be a gas leak!!!!  Then they ask me what should they do about it?!?!?!  (BTW, these neighbors sending me this e-mail had a gas leak of their own so they should KNOW the drill!  What are they waiting for?!?!?!  An engraved invitation or a gas explosion?!?!?!?   :shock:)  I sent back a reply stating:  "CALL THE GAS COMPANY....NOW!!!!" 

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #6670 on: April 15, 2015, 07:33:16 AM »
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #6671 on: April 16, 2015, 06:45:13 AM »
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