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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #7036 on: November 13, 2015, 06:14:49 AM »
http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/2015/11/12/1/family-balks-when-thanksgiving-hostess-throws#disqus-comments

Reminds me of the crap that got thrown at me when I was "invited" to a "family gathering".  When I called to RSVP the invitation, that was when I was ORDERED to criss-cross the county picking up THEIR friends FOR them!  (I did NOT know ANY of these people and NONE of them lived anywhere near me!)  I replied, "Sorry, no, I am not doing that."  That's when I got cussed at, called more names, and told that I was DISINVITED!  I didn't care!  Less aggravation for me.
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #7038 on: November 14, 2015, 03:05:32 AM »
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« Reply #7039 on: November 15, 2015, 05:30:06 AM »
Dealing with a LOT of ugly emotions!  The medical bills that resulted from this kidney stone are starting to pile in and I'm struggling to be able to pay them from a fixed income.  I sent a message to other members of the club, that I belong to, informing them that I can't attend their scheduled holiday party this year due to the fact that I can't afford it.  One club member replies, "But ... the holidays are supposed to be FULL OF JOY!!!  I wish an abundance of JOY for you!"  I bit my tongue and decided not to respond to that!  I was SORELY tempted to reply:  "F**K OFF!!!  Your comment doesn't pay the bills!"   :P

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« Reply #7040 on: November 16, 2015, 03:24:22 AM »
During this past weekend, I learned that there was some ugly fallout from our recent class reunion.  As a committee, we had arranged for the local hotel to offer former classmates a discount for a block of rooms.  Well, one of our former classmates decided to EXTEND his stay for over two weeks and REFUSED to leave!  (I wouldn't be surprised that he was ordering room service, putting it on the tab, and NOT paying!)  The hotel staff person called a member of the committee about this issue and the other member called me asking for my assistance in locating this person's family.  I was able to find contact information and relayed this back, the local police were contacted, and this individual was finally removed from the premises.  Now the hotel has to repair damages because this person TRASHED his room so badly that it is literally a bio-hazard!  I was told that when the police showed up, they had to put masks on because the stench was so bad!!!   :P  I knew this person has issues but I never realized how bad those issues really are!

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #7041 on: November 17, 2015, 01:35:50 AM »
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #7042 on: November 18, 2015, 05:31:26 AM »
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Today's letter sounds familiar.   :P
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #7043 on: November 18, 2015, 12:16:02 PM »
http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox.html

Today's letter sounds familiar.   :P

Wow, yes!  I just don't understand some people :(

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #7044 on: November 18, 2015, 12:18:40 PM »
Dealing with a LOT of ugly emotions!  The medical bills that resulted from this kidney stone are starting to pile in and I'm struggling to be able to pay them from a fixed income.  I sent a message to other members of the club, that I belong to, informing them that I can't attend their scheduled holiday party this year due to the fact that I can't afford it.  One club member replies, "But ... the holidays are supposed to be FULL OF JOY!!!  I wish an abundance of JOY for you!"  I bit my tongue and decided not to respond to that!  I was SORELY tempted to reply:  "F**K OFF!!!  Your comment doesn't pay the bills!"   :P



People can be suprisingly lacking in understanding at difficult times and it's so hard to cope with on top of everything else that has to be coped with.  I remember one particularly bad week with my son when he'd been so unwell I'd really worried he was going to end up in hospital.  A friend - who knew how poorly he'd been - walked in and launched into a elaborate tale of how difficult it had been for her to get her nails done because her regular manicurist was on holiday :)  I'm not as controlled as you, Bones, and I didn't bite my tongue :) x

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #7045 on: November 18, 2015, 12:34:45 PM »
Dealing with a LOT of ugly emotions!  The medical bills that resulted from this kidney stone are starting to pile in and I'm struggling to be able to pay them from a fixed income.  I sent a message to other members of the club, that I belong to, informing them that I can't attend their scheduled holiday party this year due to the fact that I can't afford it.  One club member replies, "But ... the holidays are supposed to be FULL OF JOY!!!  I wish an abundance of JOY for you!"  I bit my tongue and decided not to respond to that!  I was SORELY tempted to reply:  "F**K OFF!!!  Your comment doesn't pay the bills!"   :P



People can be suprisingly lacking in understanding at difficult times and it's so hard to cope with on top of everything else that has to be coped with.  I remember one particularly bad week with my son when he'd been so unwell I'd really worried he was going to end up in hospital.  A friend - who knew how poorly he'd been - walked in and launched into a elaborate tale of how difficult it had been for her to get her nails done because her regular manicurist was on holiday :)  I'm not as controlled as you, Bones, and I didn't bite my tongue :) x

I would not have blamed you if you tossed her out on her butt!!!  This "friend" was an IDIOT!!!!

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #7047 on: November 20, 2015, 04:33:36 AM »
http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/2015/11/20/0/aunt-weighs-responsibility-for-her-late-in-life#disqus-comments

Dear Abby is being really stupid today!   :P  The sister had already said "No" to raising someone else's child and she has a right to be concerned about this being sprung on her if the other sister dies suddenly before the child is 18.  If I recall correctly, Michael Jackson pulled that stunt on Diana Ross.  She had NO idea she was named a guardian for his three kids until after he suddenly died!  She said "No" and had every right to say "No".  This sister should NOT be guilted into doing something that she had already said "No" to simply because she's related by blood to her sister.  Sheesh!!!!!!
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #7049 on: November 21, 2015, 05:59:20 AM »
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