Had to get nasty when I received an e-mail demanding that I "suck it up", ignore my health issues, and attend a holiday get-together that I had already said "No" to! What part of the word "No" is NOT understood?!?!?! This idiot accused me of being "antisocial" and that my health issues "SHOULD" be in the past by now! I'm still facing more surgical procedures and I'm in NO mood for dealing with idiots!
Oh Bones, I'm so sorry, other people's lack of consideration and utter stupidity at times just leaves me cold! It's hard enough dealing with health issues and trying to 'keep your pecker up' (I don't know if that's a phrase that you use in the US but in the UK it means keeping yourself cheerful) without having to deal with these sorts of draining people as well. I now declare myself antisocial and I'm proud of it! After years of putting myself through all sorts of torment tolerating horrible people for the sake of being polite or keeping the peace I'm very glad of the fact that I'm now able to say no and avoid those I find draining or irritating (which frighteningly enough turned out to be just about everyone I knew at one point in my life!). I hope they leave you alone now and that your health settles soon. xx
Thanks, Tupp!!!
When I do socialize, I choose to be where I can be energized, like at the Drum Festival. At the same time, I'm learning what it means to be a "Spoonie" when I have to deal with limited energy, (spoons). Once my energy for the day is depleted, then I'm down for the count for several days. Dealing with A$$HOLE$ who suck energy is NOT on my agenda and I refuse to be bullied into doing anything that is detrimental to my health! F**K THAT!!!
Yes, I know exactly what you mean! There are people and places that I know I will come away from feeling good, and some that I know will wear me out. Some you can't avoid - like hospital appointments, for example, never an uplifting experience, but, like you, I balance it now and avoid doing other things that will tire me out as well. Socialising should be fun! I don't understand why people insist you do something you don't enjoy?! I have a group of friends who all go out together for each other's birthdays - same people, same pub, same conversation, they've been doing it for twenty years. I genuinely would rather stay at home and read a book. Took me years to feel okay about just saying no - I still see them and get them a little gift but I do it another time and it's much nicer. We should all be enjoying our lives as much as we can at any time and I think cutting out unnecessary stress is essential
x
