http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2016/02/dear_prudence_i_m_scared_to_tell_my_husband_i_was_molested_as_a_child.html
Trigger Warnings!!!!!
If I was in a relationship now I don't think I'd want to talk about any of the past stuff, not so much out of fear of their reaction to it but more because I am just done with it all and I don't want it to be part of my life anymore. Talking about it always seems to bring it to the fore. I really, really appreciated talking things through with a therapist over the years and she always used to talk about her office being like a box where I could take stuff out, examine it and then leave it behind. She said she'd look after it for me and if I needed to go through it again I knew where it would be. I really liked that idea and I find it reassuring now to think of 'them' tucked away in her office, well and truly out of my life.
