Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[Twoapenny]

Aw Bones I'm sorry it is still a problem, depression is such a hard one to deal with, do you find it hard to get motivated?  I know that is a problem for me if I feel depressed, such a deep feeling of tiredness that is so hard to shift xx

[BonesMS]

Aw Bones I'm sorry it is still a problem, depression is such a hard one to deal with, do you find it hard to get motivated?  I know that is a problem for me if I feel depressed, such a deep feeling of tiredness that is so hard to shift xx

Yeah, it's hard to find the energy to get motivated.  I get so frustrated with myself.

[Hopalong]

I'm sorry too, (((((((((((Bones)))))))))).

Sending you some Amazonian warrior-woman SUPPORT, as you stare the Big D in the eyeball.

May the Force soon be with you again!

love,
Hops

[JustKathy]

https://theinvisiblescar.wordpress.com/2017/05/01/you-dont-owe-your-toxic-mother-a-card-candy-or-quality-time-on-mothers-day/

Bones, thank you SO much for posting this. I rarely venture onto this thread because, at 533 pages and counting, it can be overwhelming. Just catching up on some reading today, and have gone back several pages here to find this. Wonderful blog! My own depression is lifted (even if temporarily) by reading anything that validates my experience. This is an excellent resource and I feel much better today for having read some of the pages.

Hugs and thanks,

Kathy

[BonesMS]

I'm sorry too, (((((((((((Bones)))))))))).

Sending you some Amazonian warrior-woman SUPPORT, as you stare the Big D in the eyeball.

May the Force soon be with you again!

love,
Hops

Thanks.

[BonesMS]

https://theinvisiblescar.wordpress.com/2017/05/01/you-dont-owe-your-toxic-mother-a-card-candy-or-quality-time-on-mothers-day/

Bones, thank you SO much for posting this. I rarely venture onto this thread because, at 533 pages and counting, it can be overwhelming. Just catching up on some reading today, and have gone back several pages here to find this. Wonderful blog! My own depression is lifted (even if temporarily) by reading anything that validates my experience. This is an excellent resource and I feel much better today for having read some of the pages.

Hugs and thanks,

Kathy

You're welcome and thanks, Kathy.

[Twoapenny]

Aw Bones I'm sorry it is still a problem, depression is such a hard one to deal with, do you find it hard to get motivated?  I know that is a problem for me if I feel depressed, such a deep feeling of tiredness that is so hard to shift xx

Yeah, it's hard to find the energy to get motivated.  I get so frustrated with myself.

Argh, it's a cycle, isn't it, we want to feel better, do more and so on but can't quite pull it off and then we get fed up with ourselves for not being able to do it.  I hope it starts to lift soon, Bonesie, it's such a tough one to deal with xx

[BonesMS]

Aw Bones I'm sorry it is still a problem, depression is such a hard one to deal with, do you find it hard to get motivated?  I know that is a problem for me if I feel depressed, such a deep feeling of tiredness that is so hard to shift xx

Yeah, it's hard to find the energy to get motivated.  I get so frustrated with myself.

Argh, it's a cycle, isn't it, we want to feel better, do more and so on but can't quite pull it off and then we get fed up with ourselves for not being able to do it.  I hope it starts to lift soon, Bonesie, it's such a tough one to deal with xx

Thanks, Tupp.

What's also adding to my frustration with myself is that I recently got a new book to read and it's gotten buried in the clutter that I can't seem to get ahead of.  The more I try to declutter, the more exhausted I get.

[Twoapenny]

Aw Bones I'm sorry it is still a problem, depression is such a hard one to deal with, do you find it hard to get motivated?  I know that is a problem for me if I feel depressed, such a deep feeling of tiredness that is so hard to shift xx

Yeah, it's hard to find the energy to get motivated.  I get so frustrated with myself.

Argh, it's a cycle, isn't it, we want to feel better, do more and so on but can't quite pull it off and then we get fed up with ourselves for not being able to do it.  I hope it starts to lift soon, Bonesie, it's such a tough one to deal with xx

Thanks, Tupp.

What's also adding to my frustration with myself is that I recently got a new book to read and it's gotten buried in the clutter that I can't seem to get ahead of.  The more I try to declutter, the more exhausted I get.

This is when I wish we knew each other in the real world and that I only lived around the corner as I love decluttering, especially at other people's houses!  It's frustrating not being able to help in a practical way.  Can you manage the 'ten minutes at a time' approach?  I find that helpful when things overwhelm me (which they seem to a lot at times).

(((((((((((((((((((Bonesie)))))))))))))))))))))))))))

[BonesMS]

Aw Bones I'm sorry it is still a problem, depression is such a hard one to deal with, do you find it hard to get motivated?  I know that is a problem for me if I feel depressed, such a deep feeling of tiredness that is so hard to shift xx

Yeah, it's hard to find the energy to get motivated.  I get so frustrated with myself.

Argh, it's a cycle, isn't it, we want to feel better, do more and so on but can't quite pull it off and then we get fed up with ourselves for not being able to do it.  I hope it starts to lift soon, Bonesie, it's such a tough one to deal with xx

Thanks, Tupp.

What's also adding to my frustration with myself is that I recently got a new book to read and it's gotten buried in the clutter that I can't seem to get ahead of.  The more I try to declutter, the more exhausted I get.

This is when I wish we knew each other in the real world and that I only lived around the corner as I love decluttering, especially at other people's houses!  It's frustrating not being able to help in a practical way.  Can you manage the 'ten minutes at a time' approach?  I find that helpful when things overwhelm me (which they seem to a lot at times).

(((((((((((((((((((Bonesie)))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Thanks, (((((((((((((((Tupp)))))))))))))))))))))))

I've been trying to clear out trash to the dumpster in small increments since I have to walk down to the far end of the parking lot carrying both a cane plus the trash bags.  That gets exhausting after one or two trips.

[BonesMS]

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-4626634/The-emotions-feel-mother-loathed-dies.html

For those of us struggling with this.

[Twoapenny]

Aw Bones I'm sorry it is still a problem, depression is such a hard one to deal with, do you find it hard to get motivated?  I know that is a problem for me if I feel depressed, such a deep feeling of tiredness that is so hard to shift xx

Yeah, it's hard to find the energy to get motivated.  I get so frustrated with myself.

Argh, it's a cycle, isn't it, we want to feel better, do more and so on but can't quite pull it off and then we get fed up with ourselves for not being able to do it.  I hope it starts to lift soon, Bonesie, it's such a tough one to deal with xx

Thanks, Tupp.

What's also adding to my frustration with myself is that I recently got a new book to read and it's gotten buried in the clutter that I can't seem to get ahead of.  The more I try to declutter, the more exhausted I get.

This is when I wish we knew each other in the real world and that I only lived around the corner as I love decluttering, especially at other people's houses!  It's frustrating not being able to help in a practical way.  Can you manage the 'ten minutes at a time' approach?  I find that helpful when things overwhelm me (which they seem to a lot at times).

(((((((((((((((((((Bonesie)))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Thanks, (((((((((((((((Tupp)))))))))))))))))))))))

I've been trying to clear out trash to the dumpster in small increments since I have to walk down to the far end of the parking lot carrying both a cane plus the trash bags.  That gets exhausting after one or two trips.

Yep that would be exhausting for anyone, add depression to the mix as well and I think it's pretty amazing that you are managing to do that.  We need fairies!  Wouldn't it be amazing, do you guys have the children's story of The Elves and The Shoemaker?  I always think that's what so many of us need, kind hearted little creatures that come in when you're sleeping and get lots of work done for you   I hope things get a bit better, Bonesie, it's very hard to manage that sort of thing by yourself xx

[Twoapenny]

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-4626634/The-emotions-feel-mother-loathed-dies.html

For those of us struggling with this.

Gosh that rang so many bells, particularly when she says that she lost her mum many years before she died.  I can remember so clearly just breaking down and sobbing when it finally dawned on me that she was never going to change.  That was when I really felt the loss.  I can only imagine that I will feel relief when she passes.  I've absolutely no intention of going to her funeral, partly because I don't want to say goodbye to her but more because I don't want to have to see all the other family members who enabled her and let her damage her own kids the way that she did and never once stepped in to help or try to give us any kind of alternative.

[BonesMS]

Aw Bones I'm sorry it is still a problem, depression is such a hard one to deal with, do you find it hard to get motivated?  I know that is a problem for me if I feel depressed, such a deep feeling of tiredness that is so hard to shift xx

Yeah, it's hard to find the energy to get motivated.  I get so frustrated with myself.

Argh, it's a cycle, isn't it, we want to feel better, do more and so on but can't quite pull it off and then we get fed up with ourselves for not being able to do it.  I hope it starts to lift soon, Bonesie, it's such a tough one to deal with xx

Thanks, Tupp.

What's also adding to my frustration with myself is that I recently got a new book to read and it's gotten buried in the clutter that I can't seem to get ahead of.  The more I try to declutter, the more exhausted I get.

This is when I wish we knew each other in the real world and that I only lived around the corner as I love decluttering, especially at other people's houses!  It's frustrating not being able to help in a practical way.  Can you manage the 'ten minutes at a time' approach?  I find that helpful when things overwhelm me (which they seem to a lot at times).

(((((((((((((((((((Bonesie)))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Thanks, (((((((((((((((Tupp)))))))))))))))))))))))

I've been trying to clear out trash to the dumpster in small increments since I have to walk down to the far end of the parking lot carrying both a cane plus the trash bags.  That gets exhausting after one or two trips.

Yep that would be exhausting for anyone, add depression to the mix as well and I think it's pretty amazing that you are managing to do that.  We need fairies!  Wouldn't it be amazing, do you guys have the children's story of The Elves and The Shoemaker?  I always think that's what so many of us need, kind hearted little creatures that come in when you're sleeping and get lots of work done for you   I hope things get a bit better, Bonesie, it's very hard to manage that sort of thing by yourself xx

Thanks, Tupp!

I wish I did have elves to help me.

[BonesMS]

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-4626634/The-emotions-feel-mother-loathed-dies.html

For those of us struggling with this.

Gosh that rang so many bells, particularly when she says that she lost her mum many years before she died.  I can remember so clearly just breaking down and sobbing when it finally dawned on me that she was never going to change.  That was when I really felt the loss.  I can only imagine that I will feel relief when she passes.  I've absolutely no intention of going to her funeral, partly because I don't want to say goodbye to her but more because I don't want to have to see all the other family members who enabled her and let her damage her own kids the way that she did and never once stepped in to help or try to give us any kind of alternative.

(((((((((((((((((((((((Tupp)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))