I Can't...

[Certain Hope]

This sounds like a good one to practice 


http://www.healthyboundaries.com/article4.html

I Choose, at This Moment, Not to.....
By Julie Jordan Scott

How often do you hear from your children, your partner, your comrades in the business world utter those dreaded two words.
You know the ones: "I can't".


"I can't take a break" or "I can't understand you!" or "I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel" or "I can't be a success at ......"
None of these "I can't" statements are truth.
The speaker may believe they are truth, which to them transforms the "I can't" into concrete.

Instead, lets take some time to transform the thinking which begins the cementing process.
Look at this example: I choose, at this moment, not to ..... "end this statement with whatever you are choosing not to do".
So, you would say, "I choose, at this moment, not to take a break" or "I choose, at this moment, not to take the energy and effort necessary to understand you."
Or "I choose at this moment not to use my flashlight to find the path to the end of the tunnel" or "I choose, at this moment, to not determine what it would take to be a success at .... and then single mindedly apply myself to my success."
This is one way to put an end to the dreaded "I can't" statement.


Unless something is physically impossible, such as a Man giving birth, saying the words, "I can't" are simply false. The truth lies in the choice.
Replacing "I can't" with, "I choose, at this moment, not to" keeps your integrity in tact, places you firmly in that space of time, and allows you to look forward to the choices in your next moments.


Plus its so simple. Look at the letters.
I
Choose
At this moment
Not
To


An acronym for "I can't".

Experiment with this expression this coming week. If you hear "I can't" cross your lips, replace it with the choice statement.

Check in with yourself and see what a difference it makes both in each individual circumstance as well as in the big picture of the entire week.

[Iphi]

I choose, at this moment, not to resist this moist slice of chocolate cake with the chocolate fudge icing, nor do I choose to resist this glass of Two Buck Chuck.

Integrity never felt so good.   

Thanks CH, as you can see I am already putting this into practice.

[Certain Hope]

I choose, at this moment, not to resist this moist slice of chocolate cake with the chocolate fudge icing, nor do I choose to resist this glass of Two Buck Chuck.

Integrity never felt so good.   

Thanks CH, as you can see I am already putting this into practice.

LOL... we-ellll!!  I guess you won't have room for that super deluxe caramel covered bowla butter pecan ice cream I was gonna offer you, Missy Iphi 


Okay, now please do tell... what is Two Buck Chuck?

Hugs to you 
Hope

[changing]

I choose at this moment not to let my own insecurities keep me down and hidden. I choose at this moment to stop rescuing others at my expense, including my NH, and if NH tries to coerce me any further, I choose at this moment to issue no more warnings, but instead take to action and let the authorities mete out his just deserts.

[Certain Hope]

I choose at this moment not to let my own insecurities keep me down and hidden. I choose at this moment to stop rescuing others at my expense, including my NH, and if NH tries to coerce me any further, I choose at this moment to issue no more warnings, but instead take to action and let the authorities mete out his just deserts.

(((((((Changing)))))))) Those sound like wonderful can't-choices to me.

I choose, at this moment, not to try to figure everything out before taking the next step toward the goal of health and wholeness.

[lighter]

Another good one Hope

[Iphi]

Psst Two Buck Chuck is an extremely affordable red wine from California available at Trader Joe's stores.  It's actually more accurately described as 4 buck Chuck outside of California.