'Guard the gates of your mind with vigilance'.
My thoughts are; our mind, our heart and soul; is like a garden: it's soil to be guarded from infestation of thistles 'n' thorns.
.... 'Do not let the narcissist in your life have the right or power to determine for you what your motivations or thoughts are. They can make us feel guilty for our good or right behavior simply by convincing us that our motivations are sullied. Don't hand over that kind of power to them. Know your own mind. Don't surrender what you know about yourself to the bogus verdict of the narcissist. They are not in your head unless you let them in by acceding to their pretense at knowing your mind better than you do. Guard the gates of your mind with vigilance. Don't let just anyone in there to mess around and rearrange things to their satisfaction. If you don't guard the door to your mind and soul then you can be assured there is someone who is willing to break and enter and steal everything that is of value.'
Dear Lise,
This site is all-in-all profoundly brilliant!
'Thought Crimes' psychological and subsequent emotional abuse, remains ignored, and yet, it's a destroyer. Bruises and cuts heal relatively quickly.
But not so, with this heinous crime of which lacks legal address.
Following on, perused the 'Brainwashing' articles, this is from (2) .....
If you were raised by a narcissist, you will tend to find yourself trapped in a succession of relationships with narcissists because you seem to be a "magnet" for them. The truth is this: everyone bumps into narcissists in the course of life. The difference between you and the other person is that you have been taught to discount your own experience in favor of the reality-revision of another person. You have been trained to deny what your own eyes and ears tell you in favor of whatever the narcissist says happened. A non-ACON bumps into a narcissist and is quickly put-off by the narcissist's chronic lying, revisionism, and self-centeredness. Something just seems "off" to them and they walk away before the narcissist can do any damage. You, on the other hand, have a sense of familiarity with the narcissist. You've been here before. Maybe it'll go better this time around. If you work hard enough, if you just love them enough, maybe you can (unconsciously) prove that the original narcissist in your life would finally love you back. Without realizing it, you try to revise your history with your Nparent by a succession of relationships with other narcissists. It always ends badly. It always will.
You've been brain-washed to believe the problem is you. No, the problem is the narcissist. Your only problem is that you tolerate them. You must de-program yourself before you find yourself once again trying to dance with a narcissist.
Such truth.
Indeed, the whole site, is a most insightful, liberating, resource, both practical and experiential. Offering empathy with aide and comfort to the victims/targets of NPD.
Thank you for sharing this resource.
Love, Leah
