Ok Janet. I'm getting it now.
This stuff started about 2 weeks ago, when you first told Ami you were uncomfortable with her confiding about the affair. She still kept on, you say, and then finally, got upset that you set the boundary, wanted to end things with you, and eventually you decided you'd had enough.
As I said, sometimes I do NOT comprehend all of what goes on, you're right. It doesn't mean i'm unintelligent, I'm just kind of behind the 8 ball in getting an overall picture on things at times. Thanks for re-explaining that it was Ami who originally wanted to continue to talk about things you didn't and that it was she who mentioned terminating the friendship.
Now, Ami, do you agree with Janet, that:
A.) She told you she was not wanting to discuss the affair with you about 2 weeks ago because it was triggering her?
B.) That you did not stop trying to discuss it with Janet in spite of her letting you know it was causing her problems?
C.) That, when Janet tried to stop discussing it, you then attempted to end the friendship with her?
D.) That, when Janet finally decided to end things, you then posted covertly about someone who ended a friendship with you, meaning "Janet" to the public board (not that i personally have an issue about this, or none of us would ever post about the N's in our lives either. It's a freedom of speech forum)
And now this is for you, Janet:
Do you feel that you may have violated Ami's privacy, by posting private convos between you and her on the public forum?
Do you feel that might have been seen by Ami as violation of her boundaries to privacy, even though you were no longer friends?
For both of you:
Are you able to see the wrongs in yourselves and possibly forgive each other's trespasses now and part in peace?
~Laura
