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Re: Shunned's Tale of Twiggy - Part 1
« on: November 14, 2007, 12:23:31 PM »
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Twiggy let her mom into her head, so she wouldn't "get in trouble" anymore. She started to hate the parts of her that got her into trouble - that didn't meet with mother's approval as the "way we are". She let her mom push her own self-hate, shame, paranoia, etc onto Twiggy

BINGO.

Amber, you really are dazzling.
At the same time, you are tired.

It's okay to be tired. It's normal. Transitions are exhausting, whether it's planning a move or moving within yourself. You've been doing both.

Maybe if you made a little list of just three things you'd like to do.
Three not-huge things.
And did them one day, and called that day a good day. Even if you only did two of them.

And that night, write down another three.
Etc.

You deserve to not have your nerves screaming at you.
You're right, there was never anything wrong with you in the first place.

And now, through your own amazing effort, you've come to see there is nothing really wrong with you now.

love,
Hops
"That'll do, pig, that'll do."

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Re: Shunned's Tale of Twiggy - Part 1
« Reply #1 on: November 21, 2007, 08:02:03 AM »
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no attention was paid to her for being raped, injured - and she got in trouble for the effects of all this ON HER BROTHER

A young woman in Saudi probably knows exactly how you feel, Amber. She's in the news right now because she was gang raped, and she's been given an increased sentence for HER crime...up to 200 lashes.

Her original crime was arranging to meet a non-blood-relative man to retrieve from him a picture (innocent, nothing prurient) of her. It's against Saudi law for a woman to meet a nonrelated man.

What you describe about your family's attitude really does remind me of "honor crimes". I recoil so profoundly from these cultures -- that casually mutilate young girls, that punish rape victims, etc.

love and sorrow,
Hops

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Re: Shunned's Tale of Twiggy - Part 1
« Reply #2 on: November 21, 2007, 09:12:58 AM »
"Honor Crimes" both brutal and barbaric, and they have been occurring in the UK, sadly, for years, the most recent, was absolutely heartbreaking, carried out by the father, brothers and uncle.  "Honor Crime" is included in the UK Domestic Violence awareness mandate.

Here, the introduction of the fully supported Sharia Law Courts, is imminent.

Sharia Law

An Islamic court in Nigeria upheld a sentence of death by stoning for a woman accused of adultery. The case is the latest in a series of sentences passed under sharia law - a set of religious laws adopted in northern regions of Nigeria, which have predominantly Muslim inhabitants.

Sharia law, which derives from the teachings of the Koran and from Sunna (the practice of the prophet Mohammed), is implemented to varying degrees in different Islamic countries - from the beheadings of Saudi Arabia, to the relatively liberal social mores of Malaysia.

In Afghanistan, and elsewhere, women are being stoned to death.

In many cases, it is for the crime of 'Assumed' adultery, because she was seen talking to a male non-relative.

Rape victims, are found guilty, and convicted.

"Sharia Law governs the lives of people in ways which are not governed by the law," says Lynn Welchman, director of the Centre for Islamic and Middle Eastern Law. "Over 50 countries are members of the Organisation of Islamic Conference, and you can expect there will be some form of compliance with sharia - either in people's personal lives or enforced through the courts by the state. A lot of states in the Middle East are taking more elements of sharia into their state laws."


Safiya H, 35, was sentenced to death by stoning in October for allegedly having a child with a married neighbour. She had the child after her divorce, but maintained the father was her former husband and that they were married when the child was conceived. The court convicted her, but Safiya won an appeal, this time alleging that she had sex out of wedlock before sharia law took effect.

Amina L put forward a similar argument during her trial, but it was rejected by the courts.

In Bauchi, Adama U, who was 19 and pregnant, was sentenced to 100 lashes for having sex with her fiance.  The fiance went unpunished.



But, throughout the world, there is much DENIAL.


Hearts cry out all over the globe, for women entrapped in this system, with no escape.

Love, Leah
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Re: Shunned's Tale of Twiggy - Part 1
« Reply #3 on: December 18, 2007, 02:43:52 PM »
I'm sorry you feel a bit shunned, Amber.
I love the story about the incident with your dog! That seemed like such a clarifying moment.

I am enjoying reading your Twiggy and Role writings...it is very dense and intense work you're doing, and I'm sorry I haven't joined or contributed anything to the analyses (I'm also looking forward to your  addressing the physiological side of nicotine addiction too--I know you willl when it's time). I do cheer you on wholeheartedly, and I'm glad you spoke up in this post saying, if this is a fair paraphrase: hey, cheer so I can hear you!

What a healthy thing. I need that too. And it's okay to ask for what we need ... esp. when we can let go of the outcome.

I think it took putting a dog in the story for me to get it...  :)

Your art, even when you just mention it, helps me see you. And your hubby, and the things and places you love.

Love and cheers to you,
Hops
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Re: Shunned's Tale of Twiggy - Part 1
« Reply #4 on: December 21, 2007, 06:46:41 AM »
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"Look what you made me do"

Dear Amber,

Can definitely resonate with your role with your mother in "Look what you made me do"

For no matter what the distance from my mother, if she were in the kitchen, and I was outside, her voice would rage "Look what you made me do" with dire consequences.


From my recent working through the various aspects of "Feel Like an Object" it is now I realize, and fully understand, what the impactive role of depersonalization actually is when done unto a person, worked against a person.

So, now, I have come to understand what your Role in your personal Life Story (((((((((( Amber )))))))))) truly means, to you.

Much love to you,

Leah
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Re: Shunned's Tale of Twiggy - Part 1
« Reply #5 on: December 21, 2007, 11:13:06 AM »
Phenomal, Amber.
Just
freaking
phenomenal.

Very very happy for you.

(And one day you may sell a painting and buy matching Ferraris, if they make them electric.)

love
Hops
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Re: Shunned's Tale of Twiggy - Part 1
« Reply #6 on: December 21, 2007, 02:19:51 PM »
Dear ((((((( Amber )))))))))

for your breakthrough momentum.

love to you,

Leah
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