John Stasso had "Don't get me started" I have "OH BROTHER!"

[reallyME]

As I have been reading all the petty...yes, I said PETTY stuff on this board lately, I just sit here thinking, "What on earth are these people hoping to accomplish here?  I don't think it's that they don't have a voice, I think it's that they want to get back actual CONTROL over their rights to speak, act, live.

I have not come from having N's as parents at all, so I can't fully relate to the idea of not having had the motherly love to the extent that some can.  What I do know is that turning people psychologically into the ones who wounded you, does not solve the problem, unless your new target is your therapist who knows how to direct your defenses.  The people on this board are as mixed up as you are, whomever "you" are (nobody specifically).  If you are wanting them to give you what your mother didn't, it's not likely to happen, since they too never had the same thing you are lacking.

I'm getting to a place that I am considering just taking a break from here.  I see arguments over the most ridiculous of things that, even if you had your own way, something new would then come up just to keep the drama going, that many are so comfortable and familiar with.

I'm not directing this to any one person, purposely, because if it fits, then you can deal with it however, but if not, you can also ignore it.  I'm speaking to the board as a whole right now.  It may seem like I'm saying "ha ha I'm better than you cause I'm not really part of this stuff" but it's not that.  I'm not better than anyone.  I am wise for not getting wrapped up in petty "right-fighting" that, when it's all said and done, what have you proven on this board?  Nothing really.

Just something to think about, as I find myself more often than not saying "OH BROTHER!"

P.s.  feel perfectly free to launch into an "oh brother" on me if you wish.  I really don't internalize much of what happens here to be honest with you.  I love ya all. I just think some things going on are pretty silly.

~Laura

[Hopalong]

Hey RM,

I know you're not aiming at anybody but I think I'm the most recent contributor to what's exasperating you.

Made the best amends I can, but I'll apologize to you personally, too.

love
Hops

[reallyME]

Aw Hoppy, actually i really wasn't aiming it at you, after the first time I asked you the question in the original post.  There have been many others who are getting pretty hung up over things that, in the long run, don't shape their lives one way or another.

I appreciate the apology, but honestly, I didn't address things for you to feel the need to apologize.  I was addressing them to point out the futility when any of us take what other members do on this board, personally.

You're fine with me, Hops.  I still consider you worthy of special honor for your wisdom and I still follow your posts with utter awe.  It's true.

Blessya

~Laura

[Hopalong]

Thank you, Laura!
Didn't expect such kindness -- I'm very touched.

I'll stop apologizing for screwing up!
Been feeling like a beagle who got caught puddling the rug. 

You made me feel better.

(((((((RM))))))

love
Hops

[reallyME]

I am so glad, Hops.  You are one of the very LAST people on this group whom I'd ever want to cause to feel bad or guilty.  You are someone whom I have come to admire a lot, along with many of the others.

Just might want to realize, like I said, that anything posted on this board, amounts to text and not anything that can physically harm you in any way, like the N's in your life have.

Just some reassurance, my friend.

~Laura