Dear Cat-
I know that you have been exhausted by what you have been doing, and your care and compassion and patience have been tested to their very limits. You are doing the right and loving thing,which is very hard.
I am glad that your husband cares so about you and is protective of you as well- he is a good and loving man.
My own father remained critical and uncaring in his last days- it was very tough for me. His wife removed him from their large fancy home and placed him in a disgusting facility, and visited him rarely. I came daily almost always though it was far away, tried to see if he could be released to my home, etc. I paid for food, diapers, clothes, etc, even though he was quite wealthy-the place didn't even provide basics, in my opinion, and his wife took away even his robe and glasses!
My father was unremmittingly critical of every aspect of me and my life, ordered me about constantly and unkindly, and repeatedly let me know that I was an unworthy fool, my efforts to care for him were clumsy and irritating, etc.
My brother never visited once or came to the funeral, and my father's wife was never there much, either, and she purposely gave the staff a wrong cell number. I did what I could, though I knew that he would have preferred the company and help of others. When he passed, I did not feel pangs of remorse due to my treating him unkindly in return, or ignoring him in his extremity, as I did all that I could to treat him well. There is a sad sort of peace in that.
Please take care of yourself, and get the rest that you can, in body,mind and soul. ((((((((((Cat)))))))))) I am sorry that it is so hard for you now.
Love From Your Friend,
Changing
