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Overcomer

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Daughter getting married
« on: December 30, 2007, 10:45:54 PM »
My daughter is 20.  She and Lou have been friends for seven years-best friends!!  They have NEVER kissed.  They have never had sex.  THey have never been more than BEST friends.  I told her today......"tell Lou that he needs to poop or get off the pot....."  I was frustrated and didn't want her to get hurt.  She loved him for a very long time but they just were never more than friends.  They went to college together.  They went travelling all over the country together.......constantly together.....but NO sex and no kissing.  No hand holding.  NOTHING!!!  She was frustrated.

So then we get home from eating and they announced.  THEY ARE ENGAGED!!!  I cried and just couldn't believe it.  I had been hoping for something like this but just thought she would be a 40 year old women who had never had sex and would never have children..........an old maid because she put ALL her cards into Lou.....and now....they are engaged!!  My H is stressed!!  Where are they going to get the money??  They said they were going to have a very small wedding.....they even talked about eloping......I guess from no kissing and sex to married and consummating the relationship all in one feel swoop......................
Kelly

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Re: Daughter getting married
« Reply #1 on: December 30, 2007, 11:03:22 PM »



    Kelly, how cool is that![/color]

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Re: Daughter getting married
« Reply #2 on: December 30, 2007, 11:33:14 PM »
I am so happy for you,Kelly.I think that this was the guy that you always thought was right for her. Am I right? Maybe he is just very shy. That is not unheard of.                                                     Love   Ami                   
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Re: Daughter getting married
« Reply #3 on: December 30, 2007, 11:33:22 PM »
Overcomer-

Congratulations to you and to the affianced couple! I know that you will be an ideal mother and mother-in-law.

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Re: Daughter getting married
« Reply #4 on: December 31, 2007, 12:40:46 AM »
Wow, Kel, that's exciting!

I wish them every happiness.
And you too.

Lou's lucky you're batting for him to join the family.

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Re: Daughter getting married
« Reply #5 on: December 31, 2007, 12:42:40 AM »
Congrats and......



if it doesn't work out..... she's just 20yo.



Plenty of time to meet new people.

Let us know how the wedding plans are coming.
 





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Re: Daughter getting married
« Reply #6 on: December 31, 2007, 12:59:50 AM »
Overwelmed!  I think my D is more surprised and shocked then the rest of us.  It is what she has hoped for for many a year but we thought he would break her heart.  She is at least an inch taller than he is and he seems a bit un comfortable withthat.  But  we Are  happy as clams!
Kelly

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Re: Daughter getting married
« Reply #7 on: December 31, 2007, 01:05:24 AM »
So.....

 sounds like your daughter's wearing flats at the wedding: )

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« Reply #8 on: December 31, 2007, 01:07:58 AM »
Absolutely!  But we have never worn heels because they hurt too darn much!
Kelly

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Re: Daughter getting married
« Reply #9 on: December 31, 2007, 06:38:15 AM »

Dear Kelly,

Congratulations to you all as a family.

Your Daughter and Lou are best friends and that is a solid foundation to build a lifetime marriage upon.

May you all enjoy friendship and love.

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« Reply #10 on: December 31, 2007, 07:22:16 AM »
Well, here is a mother who is happy to see a doughter marrying at 20 and I am a mother who does not want my son to marry at 22.
Good that your wishes came true, OC. I personally would prefer kids to get married until they are at least 28 or 30. But, the beauty of the world is that we are different. It would be very boring if we were all the same.
Congratulations OC. God bless you. You are a wonderful person.

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Re: Daughter getting married
« Reply #11 on: December 31, 2007, 10:35:06 AM »
::raising hand:: I'm all about waiting till 30 or over to get married, myself.

My mother raised me that way and it never ever ever occurred to me to marry till I was over 30. 

Not once.

I don't even think we're who we're going to be till we're around 30. 

Now...

that said...

there are those that know who they are at 20 and they're very well suited to marriage and having a family.

My cousin was one of those people and I adore her and her husband..... they were truly meant to be together right out of college, so I understand both sides of this.


If Overcomer loves this young man and she thinks her daughter is ready.... she has better perspective than I do, regarding her daughter.

I will say this.... my cousin's mother? 

She went to college to find a man

She said it outright. 

She raised daughters to  do that, (and they did) though it turned out that the cousin, I speak of, has the career and her husband stays home with the children. 

This same child was also cooking dinner for the family when she was 7yo :? 

Not your typical child.... she was born wise.... a very old soul.

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Re: Daughter getting married
« Reply #12 on: December 31, 2007, 01:06:34 PM »
I got married at 28, and I remember actually thinking, well, I'm TWENTY-EIGHT, so I must know what I'm doing.

Not.

Got divorced at 36. Got remarried at 38, and I remember actually hoping, well, I'm THIRTY-EIGHT, so I hope I know what I'm doing.

Not.

I'm 57 and hoping to meet someone...

Oy.

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Re: Daughter getting married
« Reply #13 on: December 31, 2007, 01:42:01 PM »
I felt the same way at 30 and 37, Hops, lol. 

And I had all the information, was getting hit over the head with it.... to make better choices.

I have a very hard time sticking with my first instincts, which turned out to be right on the mark. 

Gotta trust the instincts.

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Re: Daughter getting married
« Reply #14 on: December 31, 2007, 02:35:29 PM »
Well now you are Hoppy and Lighter, and you do know what you are doing!!!!!

Love,

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