Update on work at the furniture store.....etc...

[Overcomer]

The consulting group is working like crazy.  My mom is obviously eating this up....so the guy told me to call my mom.  I asked her what she thought of all this and she went on to tell me.....then she said something that kind of sealed the deal for me...........she said (and I am paraphrasing) "to stay at the furniture just to get your strokes is not fair to your daughter....."  As I ruminated on that statement it became very apparent that my mom sacrificed me and my brother's security growing up to get her strokes AND she has harmed our relationship over the years just to get her strokes.  Those men said that everyone has needs based on the Maslow's hierarchy....my mom has used the business to meet her higher needs.   She has put so much money into the business to make everyone think she is successful just to fill her higher needs.  At the furniture store I get my needs met and I am happy.  So far less money and more hours but no anxiety.....

I will make further demands and if they are not met.  The answer is NOOOOOOOOO!  I will stay.......at the furniture store.

I got out the book in which I was interviewed for..............WILL I EVER BE GOOD ENOUGH BY MCBRIDE.................it reiterated what I know.  These women will never change.  They are setting up a new schedule where everyone has to work until 7 pm.....I guarantee my aunt won't have to....unacceptable...

[Overcomer]

My decision is this.  Not now.  I have a job interview for a store I would really like to work for.  I will put off my decision until I know what gives with the new store.  If I do not get the job then I will put my demands in writing, have my mom sign it and go back to the store....although I like the furniture store it is demanding and they treat the sales staff like dirt...

[Gaining Strength]

You are doing such a great job taking care of yourself.  I am so amazed and impressed and encouraged and inspired.  Way to go Kelly.

[mudpuppy]

If I do not get the job then I will put my demands in writing, have my mom sign it and go back to the store....

Kelly,

Don't want to sound discouraging, but it is possible, if not probable, that her signature on a document is a one way ticket to court.
If you go into it  prepared for that beforehand no problem;  but to these people a signed contract is no more to be honored than a handshake or a promise. They usually lose in court but the process is long and expensive.
No guarantee she will not honor a contract of course, but best to prepare for the worst.

mud

[Overcomer]

yes.....the rules do not apply to her...

[Overcomer]

Update:  The consulting group wanted me to come in on Saturday so I could start working.  We had a meeting to announcement my mom's retirement and my stepping up.  We are shortening the store hours, etc.  I typed out a no notice resignation letter.  I walked into the furniture store early in the morning.....no one was in my department.  I put my letter on the manager's desk and then went and cleaned out my cubby.  I messaged my dear friend who I have bonded with and told her to inform the management of my letter and asked her to handle any deals and split the deals with me.....she messaged me back and said "gttood for you."

I will miss everyone but I will not miss the hours.  I worked my butt off in December and really did not make much.......it would have gotten better but it amounted to only $400 per week.....

So I am back but I still am in the running for a store that opens in May.  This will give me ample time to see if my mom really plans on backing off or if she is just jerking my chain.  I think she spent around $70,000 on the consultants............a pretty expensive price tag to yank my chain but we will see...

[Overcomer]

Well, I have been back all week.  My mom came in for a conference call.  I asked her where we were going to have it and she said "the office where you are sitting now."  She didn't say MY office, but she didn't say YOUR office either.

My aunt says my mom is depressed.  She compulsively went in to hang a picture in the gift gallery and BANG it smashed into a million pieces.

Just LEAVE mom!!!

Have another job interview.....gotta keep my options open!