What is normal (emotionally healthy)-----In Your Opinion?

[Ami]

I know that many people don't like the term "normal", so I added emotionally healthy.
Yesterday,I saw the movie "Juno." I know that many people have not seen it, so it is not helpful to talk about specifics in such a way that you would have to have seen it to understand.
 I will just talk about general  traits she had which I would call "emotionally healthy"
 She could stay s/what solid(in her core) in the face of outside change. I see this in my Aunt and in my friend, Melanie.
 Outside things do not 'break" them. They are ,relatively,solid in their cores.
 She could have her own feelings based on HER insides, not changing to suit the outside. She could keep her values in the face of other people losing theirs.
 She could go after what was important to her. She could be stable inside(emotionally) ,even when  the outside was threatening .
 Those are just a few thoughts . I would love to hear your opinions.              Ami

[reallyME]

Your post led me to start one of my own, called Fish Oil.

I can relate to your friend for sure.  I can make decisions, feel feelings, based on my insides, vs feeling I need to change to suit others.  I do not ponder and second guess myself very much over things. 

I also do not feel this need to somehow KNOW what the future is going to be.  I like suprises and I prefer to deal with most things as they come across my path, virtually unprepared.

On the other hand, when it comes to my children or my life being at stake, I can be very PARANOID.  I don't want to go to a park for a picnic where there is deep water around.  I'd spend the entire time, watching my girls like a hawk (when they were toddlers) and being berated by my husband for it.

I do not like my 8 yr old going to the park alone, right behind our house.  I do not feel safe about that.

It depends on the situation, but normally, if people are being balanced and emotionally healthy around me, I'm "good" (meaning, content)

[Ami]

Dear Laura,
 HOW did you get there--emotionally stable inside--in the face of outside change? Is this "new" for you?       Ami

[alone48]

Ami,

I did see the movie Juno and enjoyed it very much. It reminds me that youth and elders can use their age to get away with just saying what's on their mind. This in the guise of being open, they either haven't perfected or have gotten past the point of caring what others think. Not a bad trait to have it you could use some finnesse with it.

[reallyME]

it was all God and Him getting me to really OPEN my eyes to what right and wrong was all about, Ami

[Ami]

Yes Laura---He did an emotional 'surgery" on you to make you "healthy". He does a good job, doesn't He ?
                       Ami

[Ami]

Dear Alone,
  What I meant in the movie ,Juno,  was how   she handled the various situations  in a way that was true to herself and her values. She seemed to be driven by her own "core". Do you agree or disagree, Alone?     Ami

[alone48]

Oh yes, I do agree. What I meant though, was she needed some seasoning so that she could have said it without being so blunt. Bluntness has a purpose, but sometimes too much makes you not listen to what the person is saying. I thought she was hilarious though. Maybe if I had been more like that at her age I wouldn't be where I am now.

[Ami]

Yes, Alone, if we could have kept our "cores", we would not have made the mistakes we did, I don't think--bleh(pain and suffering)
                   Love    Ami

[alone48]

Amy, did you cry in the movie? I did and I was with my daughter. She thinks I'm a sap anyway.

[Bella_French]

Dear Ami,

Thats a good question!

Psychological health professionals would probably measure emotional health in terms of our ability to function,  as well as interact with society in an effective manner (whatever that is, lol)

X bella

[Ami]

Dear Alone.
  I cried at one point.I can't remember the point, though. I saw it with my son(20). It was sweet to share it with him.
                  Ami

[Ami]

Dear Bella,
  I have heard that your emotional health is based on how well you can handle change. If this is the case,I am not in good shape(lol)         Love   Ami

[Bella_French]

Dear Ami, Hmm....That is an interesting point of view, and perhaps with some merit. But  I do tend to think that its perhaps a bit unfair as a barometer for emotional health .

Most people who handle change well are either experienced with change, or inexperienced but extremely self confident (often due to being in an advantaged position such as fitting in eaisily or being beautiful, young & resilient, or wealthy), or they prefer change because it means escaping accountability or becoming tied down.

Also, I think we ladies are geared up to prefer stability.

X bella


 

[Leah]

Dear Ami, Hmm....That is an interesting point of view, and perhaps with some merit. But  I do tend to think that its perhaps a bit unfair as a barometer for emotional health .

Most people who handle change well are either experienced with change, or inexperienced but extremely self confident (often due to being in an advantaged position such as fitting in eaisily or being beautiful, young & resilient, or wealthy), or they prefer change because it means escaping accountability or becoming tied down.

Also, I think we ladies are geared up to prefer stability.

X bella
 

Dear Bella,

I like the term 'Stability' and so, I looked it up ..........

Advanced Trait Descriptions : Stability

calm, patient, easy-going, never gets too emotional, remains cool when others panic, not quick tempered, less prone to depression, trusting, optimistic, self confident, not swayed by emotions, not prone to envy, rarely worries, well adjusted, less prone to physical and mental sickness, more likely to exercise, able to bounce back from hardships.


Love, Leah