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Hopalong

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Re: What Do I Do Now?
« Reply #15 on: February 13, 2008, 11:16:33 PM »
Beth...

Maybe it's your sister?
All her interest and trying to pull you into a family fantasy, after so long without?

That would stir me up like pea soup in your situation.

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Re: What Do I Do Now?
« Reply #16 on: February 14, 2008, 07:39:27 AM »
Hops,
I think that may be a huge contributor to my confusion. Especially since, as she has strengthened our relationship, my mother is thwarted in keeping us at odds. So she tries sneakier ways to pit us against each other. That really might be it. Also, my sister really wants us to come visit (the main reason I would go) and they live near my parents. Very good insight. Let me kick it around some more.
Are you still reeling from your brother????????
Love, Beth
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Re: What Do I Do Now?
« Reply #17 on: February 14, 2008, 09:20:51 AM »
As I heal, I realize that I NEED connection . Before, I was more isolated ,emotionally. I did not value connection,as much as I do, now.
 I see that dogs need connection. In fact ,studies have been done where dogs get depressed ,if they are not touched as much as they were, previously.We are social animals, as they are.
  I think that your human need for connection is good , Beth. It is really hard to "throw out" a family. That is probably why you are struggling.
  Just wanted to add that.  Thank so much for your loving words to me about Scott.                        Love   Ami
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Re: What Do I Do Now?
« Reply #18 on: February 14, 2008, 09:58:47 AM »
Thank you, Ami. That is a good point. I think it goes back to what Bella said... I don't want to be like them, even though it would be 'justified.'

Ami, I can't express how I feel abot you losing Scott. I can't even entertain the though of losing one of my children. You are doing an amazing job of holding it together. How is your other son doing? And the rest of your family?

Love, Beth
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Re: What Do I Do Now?
« Reply #19 on: February 14, 2008, 09:59:37 AM »
(((((((((Beth)))))))))

I haven't read all the replies, but I'll repeat the advice my T gave me.

You do what is right for you.  You parents have to take care of their own emotions.  You shouldn't feel guilty about doing what makes you happy and what you are comfortable with.

It sounds really simple, but it's actually really hard.

Best of luck.
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