Ex employee opening a store a mile away

[Overcomer]

Have found out that an ex employee who my mom fired is opening a store just like ours a mile away.  I told my mom that if the motivation for his store is revenge then God cannot bless him.  But I also told her that if the motivation for our store is to meet her need for attention then God has not blessed us and he will continue to not.  This puts a whole new spin on things.  He hired one of our key people away and she was trying to get other great people to go as well.  Any insight?

[Gaining Strength]

My first reaction is that the former employee sees an opportunity that you have talked about for some time.  You have mentioned many times that your mother refuses to do some things that would really increase business.  Seems like that employee recognizes a way to reach clientel that your store is not reaching.

[write]

Your faith is strong Kelly- your words are spot-on.

G_d is knowing there is enough for everyone, maybe this will open your mother's eyes and you can use it to show her something as GS cleverly remembers!

~W

[Gaining Strength]

By the way OC, maybe there is a more pleasant opportunity for you at this other store?

[Overcomer]

Funny and I still have a good relationship with him and I even suggested it during one of my moments with mom but that is one place he will not go.  No I am still working towards making it and leaving but today I am going to give her an ultimatum-let me run the store without you or I will leave as soon as possible.

[write]

woo-hoo, you go Kelly!!!

[Ami]

I feel good about your ultimatum, Kelly. Let us know what happens.                                   Ami

[Certain Hope]

Dear Kelly,

Well... you'd think she might learn that the world really doesn't rotate around her and that life goes on, even for people whom she dismisses! Maybe this is one of those life crises which has the potential for shaking npd awake... I dunno. What was your mom's reaction to all this?

And I'm curious, what were her grounds for firing this man in the first place?

Love,
Carolyn

[Overcomer]

He always had a dream to open a Christian bookstore.  He used my mom to fund the dream.  He conned her into saying him too much etc.  Then my mom hired my drunken boyfriend who convinced her that the first guy was worthless so she get him go but the drunk got to stay.  There was really bad blood all the way around.  In all actuality BOTH men needed to go.  The first guy did one thing wrong-he did not worship the ground my mom walked on.

[Certain Hope]

In all actuality BOTH men needed to go.  The first guy did one thing wrong-he did not worship the ground my mom walked on.

Thanks for your response, Kelly... just about what I expected.

Carolyn

[Bella_French]

Dear Kelly,

I am in business myself and always feel a bit `scared' when more competition arises. One company started up early last year that completely ripped off several of my best  designs, and advertised them in the same place as I do.

I did feel vulnerable about it. But I also thought, if that guy is so insecure that he can't even think up his own ideas, then hes not going to be much competition.

A year later, our business is still  growing steadily and we are surviving. If he is taking away any of our business, I do not resent it. He probably has kids to feed, and we're doing ok. I still keep coming up with new ideas, but I am bit more careful with protecting myself now.

Good luck with you ultimatum kelly!

X bella

[Overcomer]

Well my mom and aunt and I had a meeting today and mom totally took charge.  I realized that this new venture will probably invigorate her!  She is always up for a fight.  If she acts like this tomorrow I will not be in a position to take over-it is really time to go as soon as I can.

[Ami]

Dear Kelly,
  I WISH your M could appreciate you. I can tell from knowing you here, that any "normal" M would be happy to have a daughter like you. I am sorry that your M is too shut down to see what she has.              Love, Ami

[Certain Hope]

(((((((Kelly))))))) I don't believe that your mom will ever allow you to take over.  I'm sorry... just don't see that entering her mind. The queen simply doesn't abdicate her throne willingly... and I feel that the quicker you remove that possibility from your list of "maybes"... the better off you'll be.

Love,
Carolyn

[Overcomer]

Yes indeed.  But I told her yesterday-If we do not start running this store differently you might as well get your checkbook out and keep writing checks.