Dear Ami,
Yes, it is true, none of us are perfect, myself included. Yet, that does not excuse any behavior or lack of accountability. It does not
It is NO excuse for blatantly using someone, a woman, a mother in her early stages of grief, as an object, to work through some self absorbed need of working out from being "judgemental" etc etc - and whatever other self absorbed needs.
Where was the consideration of another?
I resonate with the outpouring from your heart, Ami, indeed I do, for I identity, as I too, was an object, for a purpose, then discarded. And all the rest is plain to * see * as those in silence * see * also, of which I know.
I am going to speak openly and honestly only about what has taken place on the board, and can therefore be verified, by the postings themselves:
In all honesty, I was shocked that an outwardly professing "Bible" Christian would treat another Christian like that -- yet experience tells me, that this does happen. However, what would Jesus do ?
I was shocked: that the days - weeks - prior to your sad loss -- every day Carolyn was posting with Bible Scriptures to you, in constant flow of posts to you -- giving "support" to you in your healing.
Then you had your sudden sad loss -- and you were "cut-off"
Carolyn judged and decided in her action - or none.
I have apologized to you, Ami, for my boorish, insensitive, self-seeking approach to this. What I thought was an honest confession which could bring a deeper understanding, freedom, and intimacy - - well, I was totally wrong, especially in my timing.
How anyone can use a mother in the early stages of grief for the purpose of working out a self-absorbed need -- is a revelation.
Ami, your voice is valid.
Leah x
