Anastasia,
welcome, from one newbe to another. It has felt so good to find a place to pour out what ever i felt. What has given me the greatest relief is that I have done so without being attacked, chastised and told how inappropriately stupid and poltically incorrect I am. We are all hurting, and use what ever mean at our disposal that we have. For some of us, our religious foundations are what has kept us from becoming as those who have offended, abused and hurt us. It has given us the strengths to endure, and happens to be a common thread (get it) among many of us. I respect your right to contribute without your beliefs and I thank you to accept that I an many others choose to share ours. We are here to support and heal with out aggression and anger, and after reading you posting, I am feeling that coming from you. Please remember we are all here for support not to fight with each other and tear each other down, finding fault when that is where we have already been. As I am new and I do not know how to direct you to one, perhaps there is a thread for those who prefer to leave ones beliefs out of the equation, that one of the long term posters can help you find as they did when they helped me find this one.
Nogadge