The truth is, I know she has no desire to deal with us and the kids anyways. I just get so annoyed - I can't understand that people around her do not think it is strange that she has no contact with her grandkids (Oh... I forgot... she send them 5 dollars in a card on major holidays), yet talks to my sister three times a day. She brags about her cats and what they do and is totally uninterested in what her grandchildren do. I just don't get it. WHY DOES NO ONE NOTICE THIS?????
Grats,
Don't be so sure that no one notices this. I bet some do. I noticed what my friend was telling me about her mother with herself and grandchildren. I did a,, oh now I bet she really loves you and the kids. WRONG THING TO DO! I know this now from being on here and learning from you all.
Of course I noticed certain things but I tried to smooth over things for my friend instead of validating. I thought maybe I would hurt her if I agreed with her feelings and what I observed. I wound up taking her voice/feelings or at least not acknowledging them because I had the bad mommy taboo.
But I didn't know. I have now apologized and validated that I thought the same as she did from my own observations. It was OK to say to her, (your right, your mom is not all that).
I just wanted you to know. People do notice. Maybe not all but some do notice. They just don't say anything.
Love
Deb
