Can't believe it. Please, pray for me.

[Lupita]

A student was trashing my classroom. Tape everywhere, I mean sotch tape, clips in the floor, my things out of the desk, out of the drowers, dates and work erased from the board, my hispanic decoration broken. He did it several times, until somebody gave me the tip who was doing it. The principal called him, he conffessed.
Today in chapel, infront of all the high school and middle school students, the bible teacher asked him to stand up, then he told everybody, "you see this guy?" "He protets my stuff, do not mess with my stuff"
I felt so sad.
And this is the bible teacher.
I told the student: "God must be very proud of what you do, protecting Mr. Bible teacher's belongings and destroying mine".

Sometimes I am sad I work with Christian people.

God will help me to find another job. Please, pray for me so I can find another job.

On top I had a car accident. Fortunately nobody got hurt. And it was not my fault.

[Ami]

I am SO sorry,Lupita. I will pray for you. I KNOW what you mean anout Christian schools b/c Scott went to a Christian school(Catholic).
If you went to the bathroom, s/one would steal your stuff.
Lupita, I am so so sorry.                  Ami



((((((((Lupita)))))))))))))

[Lupita]

Thank you Ami. Your kind words of support are very welcome, and I am thankful for that you took the time to give me some consolation.

Sometimes I hve doubts of my faith. But God is good and will help me to recover. With God'd help I will find a job in a better place.

Today I did not go to work. My head hurts from the accident. My neck and my back also hurt. My lights do not work well and did not want to drive in the darkness. To go to school on time I have to start driving at 6:45 and it is very dark. I have to check my car before. I will do that today.

The message that I think God is sending me is that things could be worse. I have to be thankful for what  I have and not to cry for what I do not have.

Thank you and God bless you.

[Ami]

Lupita,
 I am so sorry you are hurting. Many,many Christians are in name ,only. It is just how it is.
 I never saw such horrible behavior in kids ,as at the Catholic High School that Scott attended. He told me a time when the whole football team really ganged up on a "weaker" kid. It was out of a horror show.
  There is s/thing about" fake "Christians that can make them worse than other people. I don't know what,but I have seen it.
  God really comforted me ,after Scott's death. He sent me a person to love me, out of the blue. I have healed so much b/c of love. Pray for God to send you people to love you,Lupita.
 'When my mother and father forsake me, the Lord will lift me up". You fall under that ,as I do.
 I will start praying that God sends you people JUST for you.
 IF I did not have the love of my life, I could NEVER have gotten through this death--never!!!              Love    Ami

(((((((((Lupita))))))))))))
 

[Lupita]

I hear you.
When you see "devoted Christians" you do not expect such a behavior. The problem with that is that you are not prepared, you are cought off guard.
When you expect something bad you are better protected. But you think, these are Christian people, they are not going to hurt me. But they do.
What I dislike is when they go to chapel and raise their hands up and yell Jesus Jesus, and leave the chapel and disrespect the teacher and still kid's lunches, and vandalize classrooms, etc.

Of course I have to say that the bad behavior is not the majority of the students. But the opposite. Just a few bahave that bad. But still, it hurts.

Sometimes there are activities I cannot develop just because of those few students, it goes in detriment of the entire classroom.

But what most appalle me is that when those three students were distroying my things, a substitute teacher was there and she chosed to close her eyes. I really hope that she is not there today. Even worse, she is the mother of one of my students.

I have read stories of parents who participated in fighting with kids, some parents are very immature. They are the ones that contribute the most to the problems.

I am wondering what am I doing wrong?

[Overcomer]

Lup-I believe all schools have politics.  My kids have gone to a Christian school their whole lives and for the most part it has been a good experience.  I have seen some pack behaviors that were ridiculous-boards out of control firing administrator and principals mid term.  I would not let my kids trick or treat because I would have been a social outcast-well that changed after I had my break down break out!  I would try for a public job out here in the midwest!

[James]

Hi Lupita......i read your story and feel your frustation and pain. I have done a lot of reading of the works of Alice Miller. Do you know who she is? Her descriptions of the human condition (cause and effects) gave me considerable insight into myself and others and the nature of human relationships, sometimes providing suprising insights into problems in my everyday life. If you haven't read her work, and would like to, a good introduction to the body of her research would be her books "The Drama of the Gifted Child" and" For Your Own Good". Some of the most important material i have ever read (IMO) is here, as she describes it. ps... glad you weren't hurt seriously in your accident.   warmly James

[hardtotrust]

We already have to deal with enough hypocrisy everyday, everywhere. But when it comes from people and places where things are supposed to be different, to be better and even a role model... That's outraging.

Praying for you right now.

Hugs.
 

[debkor]

Hey Lup,

Ah Geeze, I'm sorry you are going through so much crap.  I have no doubt in my mind that you will find another job.  You are a good teacher in a bad situation.  There will be an end/closure to this.

Lup they sound like a really odd group you work with. 

IMO it sounds (maybe like) the bible teacher was exposing the student for what he did in front of everyone but played with the words. 

I think he made the student an example, as much as he could, without (public) embarrassing him, although he did in a round about way.

I think (maybe) he ackowledged what he did to you, Lup , in a way that (in these days) the school won't get sued. He put the student out there (in a way) made him own up to what he did.  Think about it Lup.  He pulled this student out of everyone.  There was a hidden message there for you, the student and himself.  I think he validated you Lup,  Just MO. 

I don't really know though. Just some thoughts.

Love
Deb

[Leah]

Dear (((((( Lupita )))))))

I am saddened to read what you have been going through at this school, as a professional woman who diligently works hard in her teaching role.  My hope and prayers are that you find another teaching post, one in which you will be valued and treated with dignity as a person.

I am so sorry you have endured this experience.

Love, Leah

[Lupita]

Overcomer, James, hardtotrust, Debkor, Foenix, Lea, Thank you so much for your kind words. I really needed them. The openings, I mean real openings, come the first week of August or last week of July. What they do is that they interview during all July and make a decision right before classes start. They do not make decisions before, since they do not want a full year contract for the first time, if they wait until the last minute, they give you a partial contact. That way they can fire you any time. If they hier you before the school start, thet have to sign a contract for the whole year. They do not want to do that for the first time.

Foreign Language is hard to get, they only have one. Math and English is easier but I do not have those.

Thank you for your prayers.

[Leah]

Hi Lupita,

Just a thought.  Here in the UK we have International Language Schools / Colleges where there is seemingly a demand for teachers of languages.  Do you have similar in the US? 

If the answer is yes, then I feel that the working conditions may well be far more pleasant and enjoyable.

We spend the best part of our daily lives at work and how I wish we could enjoy our day moreso!  I have worked for a couple of awful companies in the past and have been most unhappy with dreading Monday mornings, so I do understand a little.

Love, Leah

[Lupita]

I do not think he was validating me, Debkor. He was humilliating me. But, I know he had to feel something when I told him in private that God must be proud of him. I mean to the student. Bible teacher is a maffia person, he is a control frieck, and that school is going to regret giving him so much power. He is going to own that school very soon. Now he put his sister to teach also. So, he is creating his team.
With God'd help, I will not be there next year. I ahve to find someting. I do not want to be there. Besides, they pay little, they work you like a mule and they treat me like sh*t.
God will help me. I am prying that God will help me.

[James]

Lupita... it might be a good idea to leave the child, in you, at home with reassurances. Maybe that way the adult can think clearer in the uncomfortable situation of an interview and protect both parts of you without being triggered by old child fears. Wish you luck  James

[debkor]

Lup,

Thanks for answering me Lup.  Oh boy!  you really need to get out of there.

Meanwhile try to do nice things for yourself.  Try to detach from the craziness.  Easier said then done because I know they can so piss you off.  Very frustrating.

I will pray Lup that you will be in another school at the end of the summer.  I really think you will be. 

Lots of Love
Deb