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Lupita

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Tell me what you think.


It would be wonderful if we can start our day with relaxation, meditation and positive affirmations. Our thoughts create our feeling and our attitude. Our attitude will be reflected towards us by others. If we want to elicit a positive response from others, we need to reflect and have a positive attitude. We can have a positive attitude by choosing to have positive thoughts. We can start by doing affirmations, meditation and relaxation visualizing our goal.

IN my case my first goal is inner peace. But before that I would like as a step towards that, to be able to not to wear my emotions in my sleeves.  To be able to prevent from people to push my buttons.  So, that has been my problem forever, my mother pusses, my friends push, my students push them.


Check this out. I am trying it, and if somebody else likes it, it would be wonderful. Let me know what you think, dear friends.


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Tell me if you have meditation exercices, I would love to try them. And of you have websites to visit for positive affirmations, I would love to try them, and slides, and videos, anything that luft me up before the day, or after a bad day.


Love to you all, God bless you!!!!!
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gratitude28

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In AA, most people try to start out the day with the Serenity Prayer and meditation. I have to admit I don't right now. But I love my mornings. I get up earlier than the kids, make heavenly hair-raising coffee, play a bit of whatever online game, watch the dog snore for a while.
For me that is like meditation. It sets the mood for the day. I give the kids plenty of time to get ready so we don't have any squabbles and running around (although my son manages to take 20 minutes to put on a pair of socks :))
I think the morning routing should be about what sets you up for a good day. What would relax you in the morning?
Love, Beth
"There is a theory which states that if ever anyone discovers exactly what the Universe is for and why it is here, it will instantly disappear and be replaced by something even more bizarre and inexplicable." Douglas Adams

Lupita

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Dear Beth, thank you so much for you response. I read the detachment thread or parts of it, also watch some videos of relaxation, or listen to positive affirmations CD. Also will start mirror work. But when I get to work still, students push my buttons and fiends and mother, and choir rehearsla people, etc.

So, I am trying, My pray today is:

I will not react to others buttons pushers.!!!!!!

Did you check the videos I quoted? You might like them, check them out and tell mw what you think.

God bless you Beth and thank you.

Lupita

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Silent Meditation

"...knock and the door will be opened to you." Matthew 7:7
This might be helpful. I started it yesterday in the morning. Later in the evening I allowed a person to push my buttons, again. Now I am using the power of intention. I am telling to my self, I will not react, I will not.

Tell me friends what you think.


God bless you!!!!!




A Pure And Simple Doorway To Spiritual Truths



If you've been wondering what meditation is all about, I herewith provide you with one powerful method of beginning a fascinating inner journey.There are many teachers whose forms of meditation seem complicated and exacting. Simple is better...at least in the beginning. I've been meditating for several years, and I almost always use the following very simple technique.

Bear in mind that the terms spiritual and religious are not one and the same. You don't have to believe in a Mother/Father God to effectively meditate. A willingness to experience and explore other states of consciousness is sufficient.

By going within, we are demonstrating a willingness to experience the unseen. Set a high ideal, and what you experience during meditation will be designed perfectly for wherever you are in your development, and will be given to you to the same degree that you desire to know and experience. As we begin to learn, it's important to be flexible, because Knowledge is progressively given. Truth is revealed in layers relative to our ability to understand. Know that whatever you are given for Truth is your current truth, and while we share what we've learned, we respect the current Truths of others ~ the idea is to share.   

I suggest that you print out and read this through a couple times before beginning. You might highlight key words to help you remember the sequence, and use the margins for notes if that helps you get an overall grasp. After you've done this technique a couple times, you'll see it's very simple.

With this and any other meditation technique, feel free to modify where it suits you to do so. There are as many ways to meditate as there are people who meditate! Go with what feels right for you, and know that you are loved and guided and protected as you search within.

I wish you Truth, Light, Joy and Peace on your journey.





The Setting

Begin by setting aside at least a half hour for this exercise, a time you can be alone, quiet and uninterrupted by the doorbell, the telephone, other family members, etc. Insulate yourself: This is YOUR time to be with yourself and explore. Music may be played at low volume, just be sure it's a smooth and free-flowing kind of music, such as the sound of ocean waves. Light a candle, if you wish, to help create a peaceful mood. Sit in a chair you can rest your head back against, place both feet on the floor, hands in your lap. Relax. After reading and becoming familiar with the following steps, close your eyes to promote an inward focus.

(The next several steps are my version of those used by the Edgar Cayce Organization in Virginia.)

    Exercises To Prepare For Meditation


(1) Head and neck exercises to relax

A. Let your head drop forward and return to upright position (3 times)

B. Let your head drop backwards and return to upright position (3 times)

C. Drop your head to right then to upright (3 times)

D.  Drop your head to the left then upright (3 times)

E. Drop your head forward and rotate to the right (3 times)

F.  Drop your head forward and rotate to the left (3 times)

(2) Breathing Exercises

(Use your fingers on each side of your nose to breath as indicated.)

A. Think 'strength' while you breathe in through your right nostril and out
through your mouth (3 times)

B. Breath in through your left nostril and out through the right nostril (3 times)
Simultaneously, imagine your energy centers are clear and strong ~ invite Truth into them.

 
(3) Statement of Loving Indifference

If there are any with whom I am not at peace, I acknowledge their value, even as I have value. I choose to see and do that which will bring peace and harmony between us.

(4) Statement of Protection

As I open myself to the unseen forces of grace, beauty and might, I throw about myself the protection found in my desire for Truth and Light.


(5) Begin To Focus On The Inner Teacher

I have learned that reciting a powerful prayer at this point in preparing to meditate will quicken all of your energy centers and stimulate a balanced flow of positive energy throughout your whole energy system. Below is my version of the Lord's Prayer, aimed to achieve a more non-denominational appeal for the visitors to this page. You don't need to use this, of course! Use whatever feels right for you. 


Dear Mother/Father God, who art in my Center, hallowed be Thy name.

Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done, on earth and within me.

Give me this day my inner sustenance,

And forgive my debts as I forgive my debtors.

Leave me not in temptation,

And deliver me from misunderstanding.

For Thine is the Kingdom, the Power and the Glory forever.

And so It is.


(6) Set an ideal for your meditation.

Keep your ideal short and specific. Recite it until other thoughts are cleared from your mind.  Recite and focus upon it until you begin to FEEL the word(s), not just say them. The more you get into the feeling of your desired objective, the "deeper" you'll go. If you are an atheist, an example for ideals are:

"I seek higher consciousness"

or, simply focus on one word, such as

"Love"

For those who feel or know there is an unseen power, examples are:


"I seek the I AM"

"Please give me Your Light, Love, Joy and Peace as I seek my Inner Teacher."

(Some meditators focus on relaxation, creativity, guidance, etc. during meditation, and this is fine as long as you understand that these and endless other "gifts" will come automatically when you set an ultimate ideal, so set your sights high!)

(7) When you've repeated your ideal to where your mind is clear, "go into the silence"

Try imagining your mind resting in the area of your heart, or imagine yourself sitting in the vast silence of the universe (floating in space), or you might focus your attention just above and between your eyes. You'll find the technique that's right for you as you explore meditation.

LISTEN and LOOK and FEEL in a relaxed manner. You will attain a physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually healthy, higher state of consciousness.

For new meditators, you might set a timer for, say, 15 minutes. Select a timer that has a gentle sound, otherwise you might get a jolt! After awhile, omit the timer and just meditate until you feel you're done.

Even the most seasoned meditators will find their minds roaming! When this happens, please be gentle with yourself.  Our minds can resemble the two year old who wants our attention as soon as we get on the telephone. It simply needs to be reminded and trained.

    Firmly but gently "Shhh" your mind,

    tell it you can think about that later,

    then repeat your Ideal until you're clear again.

The more you can be in the silence the better, but please remember that a roaming mind is not a sign of an inability to meditate...it's a sign that you're human and learning like the rest of us.

(8) When you're finished, keep your eyes closed and bring yourself into the present.

First and foremost, enjoy the peace and calm you've achieved.

Feel the chair beneath you, begin to hear the sounds from outside, notice your breath. Observe sensations in your body. These things help to "ground" you. Take as long as you want and need.

(9) Closing

Establish a closing routine for yourself. One idea is to

(a) pray for others;

(b) pray for yourself;

(c) then, recite or read the 23rd Psalm.

(If you don't believe in these things, simply create a closing that's right for you.)

Happy Travels!!!





Make a tape

I encourage you to make a tape of this technique.  Listening to your own voice giving instruction has a special teaching significance for your mind.   Making the tape is easy!

Tips:

Run a minute or two of  'lead time' on the tape to give yourself time to get settled;

Read slowly and allow yourself time to do each step;

If you like, play music in the background as you make your tape. (Some recommendations are Enya ~ Memory of Trees, or any music made for Reiki or meditation.)

            Making Your Tape:

1)  Read the headlines and text of items #1 through 5, then the headline for #6.

2)  Allow the tape run for about 20 minutes (this will be your meditation time).

3)  Read #8 into your tape, leave a space of a minute or two, then prompt yourself for your closing routine (9), leaving spaces of time where applicable.





"Once, having been asked when the kingdom of God would come, Jesus replied, '...nor will people say, 'Here it is,' or 'There it is,' because the kingdom is within you."

Luke 17:20-21

"And it shall come to pass...that I will pour out my Spirit on all flesh; Your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, and your young...shall see visions. Even upon the menservants and maidservants in those days, I will pour out my Spirit"

Joel 2:28-29



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gratitude28

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I am at school right now - so can't chek out the links until later, but I will.
Neck rolls are a great idea - I always have tension in my neck, even when I feel relaxed!
Thanks for the suggestions!
"There is a theory which states that if ever anyone discovers exactly what the Universe is for and why it is here, it will instantly disappear and be replaced by something even more bizarre and inexplicable." Douglas Adams

Lupita

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Thank you Grat. Cant wait for your feed back.

My pray for today:

I will not react to button pushers. I will not react to button pushers. I will not react to button pushers. I will not react to button pushers. I will not react to button pushers. I will not react to people trying to play with my emotions. I will not react to people trying to play with my emotions. I will not react to people tryig to play with my emotions.

I will descount the negative and focus on the positive. I will not listen to negative comments.

I will ignore negative comments. I will ignore negative comments. I will smile and continue my way. I will smile and continue my way. I will smile and continue my way.

In the name of Jesus I Pray.

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Yes, meditation is great in the morning, if you can stick with it.

For YEARS I've been trying to improve myself and introduce a HEALTHY start of the day.

I've done:

yoga
meditation
exercises
swimming
talking walks
rope skipping (yes)

Truth is, I'm not very active in the early morning and I could never keep it up. I've always slipped back in my oh so comfortable routine. I roll out of bed, get ready, buy a few newspapers down the road, then go to the neighbourhood café and take my seat. We all have our seats you see, at that time of the day. There are 3-4 customers, all with their own reading, we just nod but don't break silence. Everybody still gets to stay in their own world for a little while. It's a transition zone. As soon as I enter, Mrs. Maria prepares coffee for me (she's a very sweet, motherly type) and brings it to me with a fresh croissant. It's lovely. I skim through my papers and after a while I'm ready for my day.

So much for a healthy, invigorating start...

Bee

Lupita

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Thank you for your answer Betel. The way you describe it, it sounds romantic, poetic, I can feel the smell of your coffee, and I can taste the butter in your bread. If you taste it and enjoy it, that it self, is a form of meditation. It sounds great.

That is why Louise Hey pays so much attention in her teachings about the choice of words we make when we talk, when we write and when we describe things, feelings, emotions or people.

We can embelish a cup of coffee and enjoy a simple seating at a coffee shop to smell and enjoy the scent of the almond decaf, or the colombian strong coffee or feel the wind caressing our skin or when floating in water, waves of water move the hair follicules and that it self feels like a caress. That is meditation.

Betel, loved your post. Thank you.

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Yes Lupita, it is a very peaceful moment in my day. A poetic (how nice of you to say that) stillness, followed by nervous free jazz, LOUD, with a lot of screeching for the rest of the day.

Ah well...

Thanks for your reply, Lupita.

Bee

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Hi Lupita,
I have too many squirrels in my head to meditate successfully, and I'm near-comatose in the morning.
So I'm thinking of a moving meditation. There's a nearby T'ai Chi class at 8:30 every MWF morning, at the senior center (acck, I qualify!). I'd have to leave the class 15 min. early to make it to work on time, but I think it would be a wonderful thing to do.

Thanks for reminding me. I may start it next week.

Good luck with this resolve, I think it's a wonderful idea.
Please keep us posted on how it helps you center for the day.

love,
Hops
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Hey Lupita,

I read this post and my immediate reaction was WOW, you sound wonderful.  I haven't had the chance to check out all of your links but I plan to at the first chance I get.

When I read your post, it struck me that even though you are very upset with everything at work (as I would feel the same in your situation), I think you sound wonderful.  To me, your posts are showing how much of a survivor you are….. Fighting for courteous treatment.  Not just for you, but I think you are fighting for those kids as well (and it sounds like you are the only one). 

It is hard to let go of the fight for ourselves isn’t it?  This post shows me that in some ways you are focusing in that direction.  Like my situation with my M, where I finally “threw in the towel” I came to a point where I realized that I couldn’t change her, that I could never, ever expect fair let alone courteous treatment.  The only thing I could do, was to change my internal landscape to what I wanted it to be – it seems to me with this post that you are at the same place?  We can’t always get fair and decent treatment from others, and when that happens, all we can do is change how we react to their behavior.

I have a visualization that I use when I am stressed.  I started using this when I first woke up to who my M really was.  I am in a cave overlooking an ocean – it has light shining through from pockets above, and is fully furnished with every conceivable comfort – including my laptop ;).  There is a waterfall and pond with tropical fish running through it.  It is a place where I am perfectly safe, and no one is allowed to enter unless I give them permission.  This is my recharge place.

I also use deep breathing – breathe in a dddeeeepppp full breath, and then release it sllllooowwwllllyy – as though you are breathing through one of those tiny little stir straws.  It really helps me.

I also started a quote file at the time when I broke from my M, these quotes helped me focus back to the reality of my situation when I started to slide backwards.  They touched me in one way or another depending on what I was going through.  Here they are (in no particular order): 

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"A time comes in your life when you finally get it. When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUGH!" - Virginia Swift

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A toxic person is anyone who has poisoned your life, who is not supportive, who is not happy to see you grow, to see you succeed, who does not wish you well. In essence, he or she sabotages your efforts to lead a happy and productive life.”  - Lillian Glass, PhD

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"Trying to get her to understand, empathize, or genuinely apologize for the pain she caused was an utterly fruitless endeavor - she could not relate to anything outside of consequences that directly affected her."  (not sure of source).

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"Insanity is doing the same thing over again and expecting a different result."
Albert Einstein

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Whatever happened to “If you got a problem fix it?”

It has disintegrated into “I got a problem I need to whine"

(Don’t have the source - I needed this one as a kick in the butt ;)

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Trying to understand the truth of what is taking place with an abuser can inspire a level of obsession in the victim that consumes their life.

Why?  Because there is hope that if we understand it, we can fix it or accept it.  If you are in a situation of abuse, there is no fixing the other person, and there is ABSOLUTELY no accepting it!

(Don’t have the source)

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"Religion is for people afraid of going to hell. 

Spirituality is for people who have been to hell and back and lived to talk about it."

(Don’t have the source – and please, no offense meant to anyone here – this is my personal philosophy about traditional organized religion.)

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"I can be changed by what happens to me.  But I refuse to be reduced by it.“ - Maya Angelou

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When the night has been too lonely
and the road has been too long
and you think that love is only
for the lucky and the strong
Just remember in the winter far beneath the bitter snows
lies the seed
that with the sun's love
in the spring
becomes the rose

(Bette Midler – The Rose.  I think of sunblue when I read this quote - there is hope sunblue.)

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"Fear is the path to the dark side.
Fear leads to Anger.
Anger leads to Hate.
Hate leads to suffering."

Yoda in the movie Star Wars – need to look up author.

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I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain

From Dune – have to look up the author.

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In the depth of winter I finally learned that there was in me an invincible summer.” - Albert Camus

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Love you Lupe – you do sound really, really good!

Peace
- Life is a journey not a destination

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Peace, thank you so much for sharing your quotes. I loved this.

Just watched an AMAZING show on BookTV (CSpan 2), called In Depth, that was a series of interviews with famous writers in their homes and offices, talking about their writing methods.

It was an inspiration and a comfort. (GS, one guy writes in the corner of his bedroom and an old card table is his filing system. It looks cluttered and nuts. But the same man, a Lincoln scholar, is also the head of communications at the Met. Amazing.)

Then there was Shelby Foote, who has a bed in his office...and a lovely old scholar who grows orchids, so many more. I loved it.

Occurs to me there were no women. Grrr. (Then again, they were frying the bacon so the Writer couild write.)

Where's my wife? I want a WIFE!!!!

Hops
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(Forgive my sidetrack Lupita.)

OMG Hops - I so wish I had seen that show.  I am reading a Shelby Foote book now.  My original draw to him was one of my favorite authors, his childhood friend, Walker Percy.  I have come to see that it is not the clutter it is how I feel about it.  I am getting to a place where I am transcending the shame about my current status.  It is such a marvelous transition.  For two days I have been able to do this and to hold onto it.  I am confident that the necessary action will begin to follow very soon and once it begins it will have a power of its own.

Lupita - I think you are really onto something.  I am learning to pronounce outloud pos. affirmations until they take root.  I am drowning out all doubt and listening only to the positive.  I refuse to entertain doubt about reaching my goals.  Set backs will no longer devastate me.  They will only be minimal sidetracks.

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GS...check your TV schedule and maybe it'll be shown in your area soon?

In Depth airs each weekend at the following times:

     LIVE on the first Sunday of the month at 12:00 PM ET
     The first Monday of the month at 12:00 AM ET
     The second Saturday of the month at 9:00 AM ET

Foote talked about Walker Percy...how close they were.

xo
Hops
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Dear Finding Peace, your post is inspiriting me. I have to confess, I am on spring brake, and during this spring brake I have been in intensive care, all day listening to tapes, reading books, just trying to feel good. A CD that helped me a lot was W. Dyer, The power of intention. Loved it. I listened to his  four Cds in a day. And it works. I need to learn to not to react to button pushers. Enybody can push my buttons, you just can try and you will do it. So I am working on that.
I know that I start working on Monday and I will sound different on Monday night. But if the Lord helps me and I can detach, I will feel well.
Please, FP read my thread on detachment, at the end I put together a series of articles on forgiving the unforgivable. Our mothers for example. Also, Louis Hay is very good, listening everyday Cds, it helps.
It helps so much that I even promised my son that I will have a good attitude towards his GF and GFM. And, I am telling you. GFM is totally NPD, to my perception. Just like my mother. She is very triggering to me. But, before I see her on Sunday I am going to read my thread on detachment,, read it loud and listen to my Cds.
Thank you so much for your resposne FP, you always encourage me. God bless you.

Hi Hops, meditation should be a discipline, something to do everyday. Of course it is my mouth that is talking. I am meditating because I am on spring brake, but I will try  to do it. Maybe at 5:30 AM or before going to bed. I don’t know. Let us see. I will hypnotize my self. But I know, I will be running late, stressed out, etc. NOOOOOO!!!!!!!!  I do not want to be stressed out. I want to be detached, and that is what meditation is for. I will try Hopy. Will let you know of my progress.

Dear GS, you did not side track anything. It is perfectly appropriate and I will never get mad at a person as sweet as you. Thank you so much for your response.
Dear GS, yes, I am up to something. I decided that my goal was inner peace. Not to be a doctor or to be accepted in a job, but to have inner peace, to feel well, to feel good. That is all I want. To love my self and feel; good about my slef. That is the secret.
So, that is what I am doing. How do we feel good? NOT BEING OFFENDED. BEING A HOST FOR GOD AND NOT A HOSTAGE OF OUR EGO. If we forgive, we will feel good. If we do not get offended, we will feel good. Making peace with injustice? Well, if you cannot change the injustice, you have to put it behind. For example, I do not agree for the way women are treated in Afganisthan. But there is not too much I can do. After all I have to survive my self. So, I pray to God to help them and after that I have to care for my self. I have to care for my self, help my son, pay my bills, keep my job, get a new job for next year, clean my house., etc.  But, just one day at a time.

Too much BS? Maybe. Let us see if I talk the same way on Monday night after sixth period. I will pray for that class. But I will feel good today. Only today. Now. Right now.

If anyone wants the names of the CD s that I am listening, I will be glad to give them to you.

Love to you all. God bless you.