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Anonymous:

--- Quote ---I'm feeling old these days, very old! I feel as if I'm turning into a dinosaur, age is catching up with me..and fast!
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Whoah! Mid life crazies! Bet you want a Ferrari too? In red? And a blonde bimbette to go in it?

Onyx: you are not old! Haven't you heard, 60 - yes 60 - is the new 40. So you've got to get to 60 before you start sounding like an old codger. You're not allowed to do that in your 40s.

People tell me I don't look my age. I wonder why. Maybe it's because I hardly ever think 'I'm 42'. When folk ask me, I have to think, er...how old? Young lad selling something on the step caught me with wet hair. "Just washed yer hair?" he said. "Er, yeah." "You goin owt tonite then?" I felt like grabbing him by the scruff of his neck and saying - do you know how old I am young fellow? Old enough to be your mother. Hey! Maybe he realised that and likes older ladies eh...? :wink:

Onyx:
:lol: Yeah very funny! I'm now one the those guys who I used to laugh at when I was 20  :D  Life catch's you out....and I mean that in a funny way!

Perhaps I haven't explained myself. Relationships are this, that...good, bad....yeah and we've all been 'their'.....well most of us anyway! The point I'm really trying to make is this. Girl meets boy and the usual knock about stuff develops. You know, I'm talking about what used to happen and still does today. You meet, you live together, you marry....or not! You succed, you don't....whatever. Problems between men and women have existed for years and I'm not going to go over old ground.

It's just that in addition to all the above, today adds so much additional choice and temptation. Years ago, men mainly cheated on women...nothing new there! And yes, women have caught up with that game too! So many of us (me not included) are getting our jollies all over the place like never before....it's kind of like an occupational hazard these days! Sure men and women bicker, argue, fight and fall out....it's a national sport these days....in the UK anyway!

But it's the added dimensions through having to figure out if you man for instance, is going to cheat on you with say Sarah, or if it's going to be a case of 'Adam and Steve'! Now it would appear....and I know it's probably BS (for our American mates), but the being Bi rather than being gay, adds a huge amount of issues to relationships these days! And I wonder what additional stress that places upon being in a relationship with someone who secretly is Bi

Anonymous:
I see what you mean Onyx, but I guess I'd be more shocked if I found out my partner was a fully paid-up member of a white supremacy organisation. Seriously. Him having sex with a bloke I could cope with better than him being a bigoted violent racist. Sex just isn't as important as the media would like us to believe.

Onyx:
I've finally got it......what I'm trying to say I mean :lol: !

Freud, over 100 years ago, basically said that women were surpressing there sexuality (bear with me on this one) and having to conform to society norms. OK OK, he said a lot more too....bit stick with me on this one will you!

At that time, even Oscar Wild, who was as gay as they come, was married! Why...cos he had to conform to what society expected. Society was very heavily controlled by religion....or godly acts. Homosexuality didn't conform with religious beliefs. It's not that more people are gay today, it's just that we live in very liberal times! So much so, a fair degree of people who aren't gay...very much want to be because it's fashionable amongst other things.

Now I believe that there is a direct link between the slow demise of religion and the figures now being pushed by things like the Mirror. I know it sounds far fetched, but imagine, so many people now feeling free to express themselves freely!

The sterotype of marriage was/is religous based....we are married in the eyes of god.......whoppee! But god plays an almost redundant role in a lives today. So now men and women don't in any way (nearly), conform to the rolls assigned to us through religion. So what if we're reverting back to before christian times? What if we've removed the shackles tieing us to debunked ideas? Remember, these very same christian figures used to burn people at the stake for being witches....we all had to conform or else then! Remember the 'Dunk em' chair? If you drown then you're innocent, if you don't then you're burnded at the stake!!!!

So what if today, women are actually evolving further down the road in expressing their option to swing both ways? What if this was the way it was for hundreds of thousands of years and they are returning to type? What if what has caused most distress for females today is there refusal to acknowledge this. They're trying to stay in a male-female type relationship even though this is a fairly modern phenomenom brough on by religion!

Could it be as Freud implied? Could it be that women are not meant to live with men? Could it be that men were used as a security blanket for a number of reasons that are no longer needed by women? Could such huge amounts of mental stress endured by women in relationships with men be caused...because modern day thinking frees them...but they can't accept it?

Just a thought, but Freud had this possible taped years ago.....maybe we should read it all again!

 :lol:

bunny:

--- Quote from: Onyx ---Freud, over 100 years ago, basically said that women were surpressing there sexuality (bear with me on this one) and having to conform to society norms. OK OK, he said a lot more too....bit stick with me on this one will you!
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This section of Freud's ouevre is very controversial and has led to Freud being discredited in many circles. Initially he said many women had been molested as children. Then he retracted that under pressure and said the women had fantasized the whole thing. So I think you're greatly simplifying what he was talking about.




--- Quote from: Onyx ---So much so, a fair degree of people who aren't gay...very much want to be because it's fashionable amongst other things.
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I haven't seen this happening anywhere.



--- Quote from: Onyx ---So what if today, women are actually evolving further down the road in expressing their option to swing both ways? What if this was the way it was for hundreds of thousands of years and they are returning to type? What if what has caused most distress for females today is there refusal to acknowledge this. They're trying to stay in a male-female type relationship even though this is a fairly modern phenomenom brough on by religion!
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Straight women do not have relationships with men all the while longing for a woman. Please. If a woman is bisexual, I would hope she has the integrity to inform any sexual partners about it.



--- Quote from: Onyx ---Could it be as Freud implied? Could it be that women are not meant to live with men? Could it be that men were used as a security blanket for a number of reasons that are no longer needed by women? Could such huge amounts of mental stress endured by women in relationships with men be caused...because modern day
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Heterosexual women for centuries have loved men. They do not wish they were with women.

bunny

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