so blue I'm purple

[Hopalong]

Thanks, Ami...

I think it will just grind its way along slowly, and as long as I do my part and not give away my serenity, it'll all be fine.

Hope your weekend is peaceful, and you find time in nature.

xo
Hops

[Gaining Strength]

Hops, how are things going for you now.  Are you sleeping?  Has the stress lessened?  Are you in a holding pattern? 

Thinking of you and that one foot square. - Gaining Strength

[Hopalong]

Hi GS, aka Hops' Role Model...

I photocopied for 4 hours today, the bulk of it. More paperwork tomorrow.
It felt good to sleep last night and I also took a deep nap this afternoon.

I feel good. In spite of Mr. Spitey. (Brother.)

It's early spring.

I mean, it's

!!***SPRING!***!!

Astounds me every year.
How can I not be grateful to be alive?

xo
Hops

[Gaining Strength]

I photocopied for 4 hours today, the bulk of it. More paperwork tomorrow.
OMG!  That is hard to imagine!!  That sounds positively exhausting.  I'm sorry.  It must have been expensive as well.

It felt good to sleep last night and I also took a deep nap this afternoon.
That is great news.  Sleep is such an important "self care" part of life.  So glad you are resting.  That is a good good sign.

I'll be sending copy strength mojo tomorrow.

Gaining Strength

[lighter]

Oh Hops..... how daunting all that paperwork must seem to you.

Remember the best way to eat an elephant.....

you can do it.

And you will.

Lighter

[Hopalong]

Hi everybody,

I'm not as blue as the original thread title, but thought I'd bring this thread up again since the hearing is tomorrow.
What the lawyers have planned is a meeting (all 3 of them: mine, my brother's, the guardian ad litem) tomorrow. My brother and I will wait outside while they hash out something to suggest to my brother.

I felt better since I went to see the guardian ad litem (the lawyer who represents Mom's interest "during the litigation"). He listened stone-faced so I was worried at first, but then mirrored back to me such a concise summary of exactly what the situation is that I felt understood, and have a strong feeling that he has my brother's number.

The best outcome will be that I am named Guardian and Conservator and also that they agree we should make a new deed giving my mother a life interest in the house and it would transfer to me immediately on her death, thus excluding it from the will so there'd be nothing for my brother to contest.

I don't think my brother will prevail but no doubt he will do all he can.

But I've done my best to prepare well and will just stay calm and trust in my lawyer. Will update you tomorrow night.

love to all,
Hops

[Gaining Strength]

My spirit is with you tomorrow at the hearing. 

[sKePTiKal]

OH HOPS...

this is very hopeful news! I'll be on pins & needles until you report back! I'll be thinking good thoughts & sending you good juju all day...

[Ami]

Dear Hops,
  Wishing you well, today . I can hear your strength, Hops.
    I think you will prevail. Waiting to hear.  Hugs,  Ami

[gratitude28]

((((((((((((((((((((Hops))))))))))))))))))

Here's to truth...

Wishing you the best (and the best outcome) today.

Love, Beth

[Izzy_*now*]

Awaiting your news, Hops

I'm sure it goes your way!

Love
Izzy

[Leah]

Thinking of you, Hops

hoping for a positive outcome, for you.

Love,

Leah

[sea storm]

Hops,

Your brother is a weenie.  A laughable, puffed up, hard ball playing, bonkers power monger who gets his jollies frightening you.

I have a brother like that. HE is older and so something happens and I feel four years old again and powerless around his rage and contempt.  My brother is a weenie too.

YOu are more important than house, records, mom. All of it.  You are a beacon of light to many.  I can imagine the army of your frineds here creating a shield of protection for you so that you can no longer let in his bafflegab and nastiness. He is very accurate and lethal with his weapons but not enough to get through.  Don't take any of his baloney personally you crystal ruby wonderful person who is so full of good will and insight.

I wish I had the words to truly help you.  I just think you are wonderful.

Sea storm

[Hopalong]

I'm overwhelmed, Seastorm. Thank you.
(I didn't know you knew my brother!) 

And Ami, Leah, SS, Beth, Ami, Izzy...thank you all.
I heard the muted beat of your Amazonian swords being thumped against your shields as you stood behind me...

The hearing was continued (postponed) until June 3 in lieu of a very long (3 hour) meeting with all three lawyers and my brother and me. At one point his lawyer "revealed their true colors" as my attorney said. He is very confident they cannot prevail. All is legal and in order and up front, and my brother's motives are obviously her assets after her death, not her well-being now.

But, it's not over. So I will just need to be sure every t is crossed and every i neatly dotted, and carry on.

He demanded to stay at the house tonight and to be able to bring his children here. His lawyer pushed me hard but I said No. (Calmly.) I kept my cool and let my lawyer talk, and when I was asked a direct question I answered honestly.

Best I could do.

It's sad and in spite of everything, I feel sorry for my brother. He's a tormented person. But not sorry enough to let down my guard. Never again.

Will keep you posted, meanwhile, it's a waiting game.

love to you,
Hops

[Izzy_*now*]

OH OH OH OH OH OH OH OH OH OH OH OH  Hops

How well you handled that. I am very impressed and I feel all will be yours at the end of this mess~
Love
Izzy