Hey GS & gjazzz
Your words echo my thoughts and feeling. If I do drop, it not because I gave into my ex, but will come with the harsh reality between my eldest and myself, because by the time this comes to a head, he will be fully aware of the ramifications, and that I do this more to spare his brother at that point, and he will know how disappointed I am with jis choice for doing what he knows is the wrong thing to do.
On the other hand, if the youngest is sufficiently offened, he may feel the need to stand up for himself. In which case I will honor that.
And yes, it does gall me to have to pull back to this, if I drop. Let's see if we can ultimately pull the menucia out and all who need be able to gain strength from within to rise above the fathers actions. I will be very disappointed in my eldest, but we will work thru.
They do see the truths to their fathers actions, but their need of him is very strong and runs deep. They are just boys, it's to be expected. And me, being the one who has been there all along, gladly take the brunt.
Nogadge.