Dear ((((((( Kate )))))))
I am deeply saddened to know of your predicament and, on top of it all, the current behavior of your "friend"
Why would the therapist suggest sending you to a shelter? I discern, your friend in current 'blameshifting' mode of some kind, from you sharing her behavior, having spent out on unnecessary items, at this point in time.
Unfortunately, I am not familiar with how the "system" of things works, where you live.
Having been in a place of refuge for a short time, I truly have empathy with your feelings, and thoughts, at this time.
I pray for an angel of mercy to come alongside you in this your hour of need.
Are there any alternative options of any kind, preferable to the one your friend's therapist suggests, dear (((((( Kate )))))))
I know how it feels deep inside, to feel alone in the world, but please know, that you are not really alone, not at all.
If I lived near to you, sincerely, the door to my home and, a bedroom of total privacy, and solace, would be yours.
I am going to pray for you, that someone will open their home to you, right now, and also, that you are drawn to the right place to be, in wholesome employment.
Love, Leah