Ami,
Your initial post that struck me was the one about your friend hearing your husband talking with Scott about suicide before the sad occurrence. My point was that no one stepped in and dealt with Scott’s talking suicide. If it didn’t mean what I took it for, then an explanation would have saved a lot of typing.
(I had a woman come to me, saying she was going to kill herself. I telephoned 9-1-1, after discussing it with her and an ambulance came for her, took her to the psych ward. Her medications, doled out by the son and daughter-in-law, who professed to hate her, were adjusted and she became well again. She left them and went back to her friends in Europe. She escaped her tormentors, and lived)
That is what I meant by saying he could have been saved. However the situation spun out of control and it ended, becoming, to you, the upset from the board interaction.
I have so little to post about these days that I was thinking of leaving the board anyway. I was being of no assistance to those still in Contact with the N., because my belief is to stop contact and heal. Perhaps it is because you continue contact with your mother that it I find it irritating that you still complain about her. This interaction gave me a good reason to leave without just dropping off the map, a la changing.
I was asked to stay, although I thank those who asked, I still had little to say, but then received fewer responses. Hopalong is the only one who had interceded for you, while out of place in that episode, and still posted to me. The others stopped, so I knew they had nothing more to say to me. One of your fans, gjazz doesn't even know me and has chosen to ignore me.
I still read posts, not just yours, but yours were the only ones that kept referring to the interaction on the board. I knew they were little digs and jabs, but they finally stopped. I felt you had finally put it behind.
Then I posted a note about the now very pleasant understanding with my DD and I know you must have read my post, or at least seen the thread, because the little digs and jabs appeared again. You are the instigator this time, as I sent you a Private Message to spell it out and if I were wrong about this, to then please excuse me.
In your desire to further cause me to be isolated on this board, you made it public. I note someone pointed out about your being talkative and at that point you had an average of quite a number of posts per day--I see now it is 18?
Check your posts and you will see how many people have caused your stomach pains, and now it is my fault. If the little nigs and jabs continue, then look at your own thoughts.
(Hopalong: You have begun very few threads recently and I have responded to you; in particular your being blue thread. I think of you as a very special person, deserving of more than you are receiving. So your remark about my not talking to you is erroneous.)
My post about my DD mentioned that with much patience, persistence and hurt we have finally met in the middle of the road, to continue on together. I have a deep respect for her, but just saying it, does not make it so. It must be shown. It's the same with Love and with Friendship. The good ones in our lives stick with us through thick and thin...and some people just serve as a bad example.
Respectfully
Izzy
My thanks to Hops and her wisdom, as well as Leah and Deb. They have the knowledge that this is just you and me, not all their personalities mixed in the melée
