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Gaining Strength

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Moving Forward
« on: May 12, 2008, 08:53:59 AM »
Well this has been more difficult and taking much longer than I expected.  I had no idea how profoundly entrenched the negative thoughts and the self-abusive brain patterns were.  The mornings and the nights are the worst by far.  By mid morning I have found my stride with good positive thoughts and patterns to counter and replace the old destructive ones.  And even though I am facing that same battle pattern daily - wake - struggle; get going - good thought patterns; wearing down - negative again - there is an overall certainty that things have changed and that the battle is won, depending only on more and more practice.

Saturday and Sunday were excellent days.  I found myself overcoming things that in the past would have sent me to bed.  Satuday night I went out to dinner with another family and found that true excitement and enjoyment and liking myself had replaced a sullenness and an expectation that something would go wrong and that ultimately I would experience some kind of rejection.  Yesterday,, I was working on my square foot cleaning (and Saturday too) and felt myself begin to slip into an oblivion of despair and hopelessness when I found (in a whole new power) that I could turn my thoughts and lift myself out.

I remind myself that even though there is little evidence of the changes in my mess that I "know" the change has arrived and I refuse to let the old despair take charge.  Day by day I am able to step up the battle just slightly.  Day by day, I am able to move forward.

The big switch for me is when I find myself slipping into despair I am able to ramp back up by calling on myself to dig into a mode of "determination".  And I am winning this war one small battle at a time.

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Re: Moving Forward
« Reply #1 on: May 12, 2008, 10:13:56 AM »
Bravo, GS, and big hugs (((((((((((((((()))))))))))))))

Love, Juno

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Re: Moving Forward
« Reply #2 on: May 12, 2008, 10:21:06 AM »
(((((((((((((GS))))))))))))

To a new woman!!! You should change your name from Gaining Strength to Got Strength!!!!!!

Love, Beth
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Re: Moving Forward
« Reply #3 on: May 12, 2008, 11:17:07 AM »
Dear GS
  I am here ,in mind and spirit, next to you, on your journey.   Love   Ami


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No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.        Eleanor Roosevelt

Most of our problems come from losing contact with our instincts,with the age old wisdom stored within us.
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Re: Moving Forward
« Reply #4 on: May 12, 2008, 02:18:36 PM »
GS - you're reinforcing your strength... like Beth, I think you need to consider updating your name!  You're demonstrating your strength now...  it's real, visible and tangible!   :D

(I think I can apply your "square foot" approach to my situation, too... great idea!!)

Here's a concept for you: when I train adults who are terrified of technology, I talk a lot about the learning curve... that at first, the curve is so steep because because you have to learn all the terminology, at the same time you're processing what things look like, and how to double-click, what different kinds of tools look like and what they do/don't do. We teach this level in very small bits & pieces to not overwhelm and further frighten people. We almost always show them "undo" very early on, to give them a level of reassurance and confidence.

But then, after practicing all these little things enough times, and getting familiar with where thing are located, what they're called and how they work, the student hits a plateau - finding that they can apply the same knowledge to a new software program or website... and that once the plateau is reached, any further learning gets much, much easier. The learning curve flattens out - and you can learn easier & FASTER...

You sound like you've reached the plateau stage - and now you're able to apply what you've learned to all kinds of 3-D situations. You're able to stop yourself from continuing the old "beat yourself up" thoughts and to give yourself credit and praise for the real accomplishments of each day. Each time you do that, you're creating a new mental/feeling habit!

It's going to get a lot easier, from here on out... even when you start tackle new things.
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Gaining Strength

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Re: Moving Forward
« Reply #5 on: May 12, 2008, 03:49:00 PM »
PR - how helpful.  I am immediately thrown into one of the things I teach - standardized testing.  I spend 10% of my time on the material and 90% on developing and "proving" the students' confidence.  I can apply what you are describing and what I have seen in other "fearful" students as well.  Perhaps tonight I will change my name.  I think it is time too.  I selected that name because it was positive but I am ready for a new name reflective of where I am now.

Thanks so much for the encouragement.

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Re: Moving Forward
« Reply #6 on: May 12, 2008, 05:12:30 PM »

I believe in (((( GS )))) ..... from Gaining Strength to Got Strength

Bravo to you for all your perseverance and hard work.

Love, Leah
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Re: Moving Forward
« Reply #7 on: May 13, 2008, 01:34:05 AM »
OK - I did it!  I became someone new!!!  It feels great though it will take some adjusting.  Thanks for the encouragement - it was awesome.  I feel so strong!! and I love it.  Thanks - Got Strength

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Re: Moving Forward
« Reply #8 on: May 13, 2008, 05:14:57 AM »
 :D :D :D  ((((((((((((((((GS))))))))))))))))))))  :D :D :D

xxxooo

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Re: Moving Forward
« Reply #9 on: May 13, 2008, 06:18:37 AM »


((((((((( Got Strength )))))))))

 :D :D I am so very happy for you   :D :D

Love, Leah
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Re: Moving Forward
« Reply #10 on: May 13, 2008, 07:07:12 AM »
I love you! You are the greatest! You deserve the name change and everything that comes with it!!!!!!
Love, Beth
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Re: Moving Forward
« Reply #11 on: May 13, 2008, 09:12:46 AM »
Here's to NEW!  :D

You deserve it, kiddo...
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Re: Moving Forward
« Reply #12 on: May 13, 2008, 06:49:16 PM »
Hi GS
 Thinking of you and sending good thoughts of peace and joy your way.   Love   Ami


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No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.        Eleanor Roosevelt

Most of our problems come from losing contact with our instincts,with the age old wisdom stored within us.
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Re: Moving Forward
« Reply #13 on: May 13, 2008, 07:36:31 PM »
Oh I do like that name  *Got Strength*.

I knew you could do it now I get to hear you do it.  Yippie!!!!!!!  You worked hard!!  Congratulations of breaking the cycle of negative thoughts,  your path has changed.... YIPPIE!!!   8) :)

Here's to You! 

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Re: Moving Forward
« Reply #14 on: May 14, 2008, 10:41:22 PM »
(((((((((((((Got Strength))))))))))) Amen!!

You know me and my verses. Well, here's one you've brought to mind:

Then he said to them, "Go, eat of the fat, drink of the sweet, and send portions to him who has nothing prepared; for this day is holy to our Lord.
Do not be grieved, for the joy of the Lord is your strength."
   Nehemiah 8:10

You go, girl!

With love,
Carolyn